Said it depends on how much it matters to you,
What you have to gain,
What you have to lose and also the part your ego plays so is it more important to you to kind of actually maybe reach out and see where this connection or family whatever takes you and is sending another second message like big deal to you?
Does it,
You know,
Does it feel comfortable?
Or is it,
Is it more kind of authentic for you to just leave it and actually say,
Okay,
If this person replies,
Then I'll meet up with them?
So I think there isn't like a right answer necessarily,
But there's also essentially the takeaway for me is that If you're not losing anything by trying again or reaching out again and actually that connection or that person means a lot to you,
Or the possibility or what you could get from it.
Matters.
Then it's worth seeing like still exploring it or following up even if you feel because I think there's that thing slightly now where we're also in a kind of culture and a time time where people are talking about like boundaries.
And people are trying to maintain their self-respect and dignity and say,
Oh,
Well,
If somebody doesn't message me,
I don't want to chase them.
And I think there is a difference between just following up lightly and then also like chasing and messaging someone several times.
So I think it's finding that balance and you know as long as it's comfortable for you and you're kind of reaching out or giving like freely and it's coming from a good place.
And it's not a case where you're not getting anything back.
Let me rephrase that because sometimes we want to give and also like shine our light without necessarily expecting anything back and that's obviously great as well if you have the capacity to do that but what I mean to say is like you know if you've got if you've got relationships where it's very like one side and it doesn't make you feel good and you feel like it's like swimming upstream then in those cases it's also worth reflecting on maybe what your boundaries are and you know how much energy you want to put into that