Achieving Dreams Later In Life

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I think our society puts too much value on people achieving their dreams or being super duper successful when they're younger.

And we put value on essentially like having a sense of like deep genius,

You know,

When we're younger.

But a lot of us,

Although we have genius,

Although we're intelligent,

Although we're smart,

Although we're kind,

Although we're skillful,

A lot of us don't really achieve quote unquote achieve the dream or the success really sometimes into what we are like older.

And that's okay.

I think we are looking today and probably previous ways and culture at celebrities and stars and singers and influencers.

All these people who are in their teens and their 20s that have millions of views and followers and videos going viral.

And we see that like,

Ah,

That success like,

Ah,

That's amazing.

And if I did not achieve that when I hit age 19 or when I hit age 22 or when I hit age 25,

When I hit age 30,

That means that maybe I'm a failure.

But that is not true.

Even Forbes,

Right?

There's that Forbes 30 under 30 list where we celebrate people who are under the age of 30 years old,

Right?

Doing these amazing things.

But there are a lot of people who are older,

Who were doing amazing things.

There are a lot of people who achieve their dreams and success in regards to what they want to do when they're older.

And sometimes they find out their passions and stuff too when they're older.

I mean,

People,

For example,

Like Danny Glover didn't find success until he was much older.

People like Helen Mirren,

The actress Helen Mirren didn't find success until she was older.

Even people like the voice of God,

Morgan Freeman.

I mean,

There's countless people,

Ava DuVernay didn't find success in regards to directing until she was older.

I mean,

She didn't even start taking classes or even start really directing or doing anything in that regard until her 30s.

So sometimes it may take time to get to where you want to get to and to achieve what you want to achieve.

I mean,

Look at it this way.

The more things you do in your life,

The more things you overcome and the more things you experience that might challenge you and you say to yourself,

Wow,

I really went through that challenge.

It was difficult.

It was really,

Really difficult,

Difficult time.

You know,

But I got through it.

When we go to those times,

Those moments really bring us a sense of deep,

Deep wisdom.

And I believe that for some of us,

If we don't go through those moments,

If we don't have those difficulties and challenges to give us this deep sense of wisdom when the success does come in our life,

I believe that we will be prepared and ready to handle the success.

Because if we receive what we wanted to receive when we were younger and we weren't as wise,

We might have screwed it up and I'd have been able to get it back.

So I believe that in many ways,

Life,

Your soul,

Your experiences,

Your spirit prepares you to receive and to accept and to really hone on and grasp the success when it does come.

Because we had it before,

We may not have valued it or cherished it as much as we did when we were younger.

Because also,

As we know,

What science says is that the brain takes time to develop,

That the brain fully develops when you get to age 25.

But studies are now recently showing that that might even now be to like age 30.

So our brains are developing.

As your brain is developing,

There are certain things that we're not really cognizant of,

That we're not aware of,

Because a lot of the times,

As the brain is in the state of development,

The focus and how we are seeing the world is really through the part of the brain called the amygdala.

And that deals with the emotions and more about the I and about the me.

So sometimes when we're in these moments when we're younger,

We all know that it's usually about me.

What can I do?

How can I be satisfied?

How can I be pleasured?

What can I do for myself in this moment?

Which is why we have those sayings where people say,

Oh,

But he's young and dumb,

Because the brain isn't fully developed yet.

You make mistakes when you're younger,

Again,

Because the brain isn't fully developed yet.

So when we get older,

The brain is developed,

We can really see,

Oh,

OK,

Well,

That maybe was not the best choice or decision.

So there's that mixture of brain development plus,

Again,

As we get older and go through this,

The sense of deep wisdom as well.

You know,

I did not plan to make this.

I did not plan to make this a podcast episode,

To be honest.

I was planning to just make this a very short talk today that I was actually going to maybe post on my Instagram.

But since it seems like we're just talking,

We're rambling today,

I'm actually going to stop it here.

I'm going to take a brief pause and then I'll come back with the second half of the message.

OK,

So we're back.

I think this is going to be a short episode today.

But just to follow up,

Based off of what I said previously,

You know,

Like there are a lot of young people who are doing great things in the world,

Who are really thriving in many ways.

You know,

But there are also a lot of young people who are thriving and who are doing good things.

And,

You know,

I'm going to say the word for all intents and purposes,

Fucks it up.

They fuck it up because they're being young and dumb and because the brain isn't fully developed.

I mean,

How many times have we heard about these stories of like these young stars who are amazing,

Who are fantastic,

You know,

Who are doing these amazing things?

And then in like their late teens or maybe in their 20s,

You know,

They have this moment where it's like,

What's happening?

They seem to be going crazy or having these moments of turmoil.

You know,

Like,

Why is that?

Why is that?

You know,

I mean,

There can be many reasons as to why that is.

I mean,

One being the whole like,

Yes,

Young and dumb thing.

Another thing also,

I think it could also be tied to is,

You know,

Young people,

You know,

With having a brain that's not fully developed,

But you are thrown into the spotlight as a superstar,

That can do a lot of things to like mess people up,

You know,

Because also you're a minor,

So in a sense,

You're under a sense of control from certain people as well.

I mean,

There's so many different things that go into that and people sort of,

You know,

Wanting so much from you and just being a young person and again,

Having the brain not developed,

But also having a sense of wisdom to sort of know what to do and sort of know where to go.

I mean,

People really lose it.

Like they lose their minds.

And that's sometimes what we see with various celebrities and stars,

You know,

That have gone through those moments of turmoil,

You know,

Fortunately,

Some of them have come out of it,

Which has been awesome.

And some of them unfortunately don't.

And you know,

They stay stuck.

So I think it's something for us to realize in our lives that,

You know,

Life isn't done with you.

If you are still here,

You have purpose something I always say often,

If you are still here,

You have purpose.

So I realize that some people that might be listening,

You might be an older person,

You know,

Maybe not older,

Like,

You know,

Senior citizen,

But like,

You know,

Maybe like your 30s or your 40s,

You know,

And you realize,

Man,

Like,

What's become of life?

Like,

What am I doing?

I'm not happy.

You know,

I've had these dreams that I wanted to do for so long,

But I'm not really able to do them.

I challenge you to keep moving.

As the song says,

Don't stop believing.

Keep moving.

And also realize that that you have something unique to offer the world and only you can offer it because there's no one else here on the on the earth like you.

No one else has your fingerprint.

No one else has your DNA.

You're very unique.

So with that said,

Believe in yourself,

Trust in yourself.

And know that if you are here,

You have purpose and you still have time to do the things that you want to do.

The things that you may want to do may happen later in your life,

Or in the second or third chapter of your life,

Or fourth chapter,

If some of you are older.

But just know that like,

There's there's something out there meant for you.

And you're not meant to be here to just pay bills and die.

You are meant to live a full life and to do the things that you want to do.

And you know,

It may take some time for you to get there.

But I believe that if you don't stop believing,

And you keep pushing and knowing that within time you will receive it.

And know that sometimes in order for you to receive it,

You may need to let it go.

Now that might sound weird.

What do I mean by that?

Sometimes we may want something so bad.

And our message to the universe of saying that we want it so bad,

In many ways telling the universe,

I don't have this thing.

I don't have this thing.

I don't have this thing.

Because you want it so bad.

It's like I want it.

I want it.

I want it.

It's like you're really saying to the universe,

I don't have it.

I don't have it.

I don't have it.

And the universe responds to our vibration.

So if your vibration is that thing where it's like,

I want it,

But the universe is really seeing it as like,

I don't have it.

The universe is going to give you that vibration if you're not having it.

But sometimes if you kind of like let it go,

And say,

Okay,

I'm trusting and believing in what's happening right now,

I'm going to go with the flow,

I'm going to surrender this all to the universe,

To God,

And just believe that,

Okay,

It'll happen when it's meant to.

It'll happen within its time.

It may come to you faster.

What's the best way to fly a kite?

Is the best way to fly a kite,

Is it to run and keep holding onto the kite?

Or is it to run and let the kite go so that it can fly up into the air and be beautiful?

I think in the same way,

Some of us are running fast towards our dreams,

We're still holding onto them.

As opposed to running fast towards our dreams,

But also letting the dreams go,

To let God and the universe manifest in the way that it needs to be manifested.

So just let go.

As the saying goes,

Let go,

Let God.

Really just lean into the flow and surrender all,

And just say,

God,

Universe,

I surrender this all to you and I'm going to keep moving and doing what I need to do.

And I know that you will give me the desires of my heart in its time.

All right.

Thank you so much.

I appreciate it.

Thank you for listening to this episode.

Again,

This one was short because I was not planning on making this a podcast.

This was just going to be very short ramblings for my Instagram,

But I kept talking.

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