Number 1 Secret To Get What You Want

What is the most important secret to getting what you want in life?

I've spent the last 25 years on a deep spiritual growth path and I have mentored thousands of people,

Lived in beautiful places,

Generated millions of dollars.

I've got what I want in life,

Right,

On a number of levels.

And there was a time when I didn't have what I wanted and I was feeling like,

What am I doing wrong?

And when I work with my students,

I come across this same problem that I had when I was starting out and I want to share that with you,

So you can get what you want in your life.

Now,

Before we can get into what this secret is,

We need to talk about what it isn't.

These are the things that prevent us getting what we want in our life.

This is really important because if you have any of these going on,

You won't be able to get what you want.

The first thing is blame.

As long as we're blaming somebody else or something else for our lack of success,

We won't be able to get what we want because what we're doing is we're putting the power in an outside force that we can't control.

So if my success and your success is reliant on someone else or something else happening that has nothing to do with us,

Then we are literally at the mercy of whether or not that thing works out or that person gives us what we want or whatever it is.

If someone is blaming others for their lack of success,

They will remain unsuccessful.

So we have to be willing to give up blame.

We'll talk more about that in a moment.

The second main problem to getting what we want is making excuses,

Reasons and excuses.

Oh,

I didn't because of this.

I didn't because of that.

Oh,

I couldn't because of this.

I couldn't because of this.

And that obviously there are,

Of course,

Challenges in life.

We've all had plenty of challenges.

But there's a great quote.

You can either have results or you can have excuses.

You can't have both.

You can either get results,

Get what you want,

Or you can have excuses.

But you can't have both.

So if we are blaming other people and if we are making excuses and reasons and coming up with a list of why it's not possible,

Why it's not possible for me,

Why it's their fault,

Not my fault,

Then we have basically disqualified ourselves from getting what we want.

And I personally did this when I was starting out on my journey.

Oh,

I've got this problem because of this person or because of my childhood traumas or because of this or because of that.

And I was very,

Very good at making excuses for myself.

And what I ended up with for a long time was just a long list of reasons and excuses.

But I didn't have any results and I wasn't getting what I wanted,

Right?

Right?

So before we can make a change,

We have to ask ourselves,

Am I willing to give up the things that are preventing me from success?

Am I willing to regain my power?

Because reasons,

Excuses,

Blaming,

That is all about putting our power outside of ourselves.

And if you were to get all the people in the world,

The people who are successful and have what they want and the people who are unsuccessful and don't,

You would see that the successful people have given up reasons,

Excuses and blame.

Of course,

It might come back.

I mean,

It comes up for me even now.

Oh,

I don't want to do this too hard.

I've got,

I can't because of this,

This and this.

It happens.

This is a continuous decision that we make on a daily basis many,

Many times.

All right,

So now you know,

All right?

These are the key three things.

Blame,

Reasons,

Excuses.

Now,

What is the number one secret to getting what you want?

Very simply,

It is taking 100% responsibility for your life.

It's where you say,

I'm not going to make excuses.

I'm not going to blame others.

I'm not going to have a long list of reasons.

I am going to take personal responsibility to do whatever needs to be done in order to get what I want.

So let's say I want to lose weight.

I could say,

Oh,

I can't lose weight because the food is just so good.

Oh my God,

How would I live without my special,

Special,

Special stuff that I really like to eat?

Oh,

I don't want to go to the gym.

It's such a pain in the ass.

I haven't got time for the gym.

That's all reasons,

Excuses.

Oh,

I'd love to,

But the weather was bad.

I can't go outside.

We can continuously say it's not my fault.

There's nothing I can do about it.

If I want to lose weight,

I need to say,

Look,

What do I need to do?

What do I need to think?

What do I need to say?

Who do I need to spend time with in order to get that result,

In order to lose weight?

What do I need to do?

We have to actually take responsibility to upgrade the diet,

Get help with the diet if necessary,

Go to the gym or do exercise at home or whatever it is,

Right?

Every outcome we want in life,

Everything we want to achieve in life,

Whether it's losing weight,

Making more money,

Feeling happier,

Being more relaxed,

Having a better lifestyle,

Moving to a different place,

Everything we want,

There is some sort of step-by-step method to get it in almost every case.

And most things we want,

Somebody else has figured it out already,

Haven't they?

There are many,

Many people who've lost weight,

Many people who've made more money,

Many people who've moved to different places,

Many people who've improved their relationships,

Many people who've overcome negative feelings and feel happier.

So there's millions of people who've already got the result that you want.

There's a method to it.

The number one secret to success is saying,

I am personally,

Personally responsible to figure this out and get on with it,

Do what I need to do and stop blaming everyone else and making excuses.

It sounds simple,

But I have been doing this work for a long time.

I've talked to thousands of people and I've seen that there is a fairly large number of people who years later are still blaming everyone else and making excuses and they still don't have what they want.

So even though it is simple,

Very few people actually take this on seriously enough to get the result that they want.

So if you want to change your life genuinely and get different results,

Have different amounts of happiness,

Well-being,

Success,

Money,

Freedom,

Joy,

Everything you want,

When you say to yourself,

I am taking 100% responsibility.

I am personally,

Personally responsible for my success.

My success is in my hands.

I am claiming back all the power that I've given to the outside world and to other people.

I'm claiming back all that energy from blame and making excuses and coming up with reasons.

I'm taking that all back and I'm going to choose to do whatever it takes to get what I want,

Even if it's hard.

I commit to getting what I want and taking complete responsibility for my life.

These are the thoughts,

Right?

You can listen to this again.

Think these thoughts in your mind.

I am personally responsible.

I'm not putting off my responsibility onto others.

I am taking it all back.

It's like taking this power back to yourself.

It's my mind,

It's my body,

It's my life.

I am choosing what I can do.

We all have limitations.

We all have situations that we're in that might be a bit challenging,

Right?

That's not what we're talking about.

We're not denying those things are happening.

What we're doing is saying,

I take personal responsibility,

Considering my situation,

Considering all the things that I have going on and all the challenges I have.

Even then,

I take responsibility for everything in my life and I take responsibility to move forward and to take bold action and to make things different.

To eat different,

To think different,

To speak different,

To have better relationships,

To stop wasting time on random things.

We have so much power and when we stop blaming others,

Making excuses,

And we find solutions,

Then we get results.

So we can make excuses or we can find a solution.

We can blame others or we can take responsibility.

This is basically the options that we're dealing with again and again and again,

Multiple times a day throughout our whole life.

So if from today you say to yourself,

I am going to stop blame and take responsibility.

I'm going to stop making excuses and find solutions.

You will feel profoundly better right now and you will get way better results.

Your life will start to change in a very positive way and you will get what you want.

So next time you think,

Oh,

I can't because of blah,

Blah,

Blah.

Find a solution.

What's the solution?

Just ask yourself,

What is the solution?

What's the solution?

What's the solution?

There has to be a solution.

Inside every problem is a solution.

What is the solution?

Just ask that question to yourself again and again.

Ask other people the question.

Get the help you need.

Do research.

There is a solution to basically everything in one way or the other.

And then if you're saying,

Oh,

It's that person's fault.

They did it.

It wasn't me.

Oh,

I couldn't help.

No,

Take responsibility.

Even if you're working with other people,

Like I have people I work with,

They might not do what I want.

The way I want it,

They might mess things up.

I have to take responsibility.

Stop blaming them.

I hired them.

Take responsibility to fix it,

To make it better,

To find the solution.

When we do that,

We stop all this negative feelings.

We stop blaming.

We stop all that low energy.

We bring the power back right here where it should be.

We are master creators of our life.

We are designed for success.

And we can claim back the power right now.

And we can do this again and again and again throughout our life.

So now you know the number one secret to getting what you want.

You have everything you need with these new ideas.

You might have already heard this before.

Most people will know about some of these things.

The question is,

Am I returning the power back?

So just remember this.

If you're making excuses,

Turn it around.

Solution.

What's the solution?

What's the solution?

And if you find yourself blaming,

Then take responsibility.

It's my responsibility to fix this.

It's my responsibility to figure this out.

It's my responsibility.

What's the solution?

What am I going to do?

I've got the power.

Today is a great day.

There's loads of opportunities.

How can I move forward now?

Thanks so much for being here.

Wishing you every success in getting what you want.

You have huge power.

Use the massive power that you have.

And you'll be amazed at how great you feel and how wonderful your life becomes.

Thank you for being here.