Why Change Feels So Scary - Finding Inner Stability

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Why Change Feels So Scary - Finding Inner Stability

by Evelien van Ommen

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Change can feel unsettling. Even when we know something new is aligned for us, the body can react with tension, doubt, or fear of the unknown. In this live session, we explore why change activates such a deep survival response and how you can move from fear back into inner stability. Through grounded explanation and a guided experiential meditation, you’ll learn how to recognize fear as conditioning rather than truth. This recording was originally shared during a live session, so you can return to the experience whenever you feel overwhelmed by transitions or uncertainty. If you’d like to continue this journey, you’re welcome to join the courses on this topic and experience deeper reprogramming and reconnection with your True Essence. With gratitude to Frits Evelein for the music.

Meet your Teacher

Evelien van Ommen

Apeldoorn, Nederland

Meet your Teacher

Evelien van Ommen

Apeldoorn, Nederland

Transcript

Take a deep breath in, Deep, Deep breath, Into your nose, And exhale through your mouth. And just relax. Hi, Welcome. For those who don't know me, I'm Eve, Evelien in Dutch, And I love to share content about really reconnecting back to our divine creator and our true divine self. So that our human self can come into alignment with that bigger part of us. From there, Our perspective shifts, And we can start to live and create our human life at a completely new level. And of course, In that process, We come across quite some challenges and blocks. And we can use every topic in our life to let go of those blocks and become more and more aligned. There is nothing I love more than to do that myself and to share it with you. I am on a journey, And I love to share my journey with you, So it might inspire you as well. You are so welcome to follow me on more content if you want to join. Feel so very welcome. Every week, We share a live session together, And afterwards, I record it and I publish it for you to go back to, Or to listen to it, Whether you were there in a live or not. Today it's all about the fear of change. Why feels change so scary? And how can we find our inner stability? I see so many people right now going through change, Big change, In relationships, In work, In health, In identity, In where they live, For example. But there's more to it. There's so much changing in the world around us, And maybe you feel it too. The world feels so unstable, On fire, Really. And there were so many things happening in the past days. A new war in the Middle East, It's really astonishing in a way. We are looking at it and we're thinking why, Like why, All this suffering, All this pain, For what? Things are shifting, Structures are shaking around us. And I guess that on a deep, Deep level, We know that this is a necessary process to go through. All the misaligned stuff on this planet is coming out. The Earth herself is perching in a way, All the lower frequencies. But when it comes to the surface, Oh, It's not a pretty sight. There we stand and we're just really, Really kind of frozen, Shocked in a way. Shock, Fear, Trauma. We feel it in our bodies, Right? And when you are about to go through change, You feel it too. Somewhere in your body, Something tightens. I got some questions about this, And I really felt, Let's address this today. Because whether it's a big change in your personal life, Or you see the change on a We are not going to fix the outside world. We are only going to stabilize our inner field. Because we all have it. Fear of change. Fear of the unknown. Change. It is truly not that there is something wrong. Change to me is proof that something is expanding. And to be straight with you, We should not have any fears at all. If we were completely aligned, Aligned with our own higher consciousness, Which orchestrates our lives brilliantly, And we would really, Really know that in every cell of our body and trust that, We would not have any fears, Right? And of course we all do have them. So that means we can even further grow and expand. So that's really the good news of all of this. Let's dive into this topic and please bring up, Bring it with you. What is frightening you right now? And what change are you moving through? Where do you feel the uncertainty? What scares you? Bring it up and bring it along in this session. But first, Let us attune and find that safe place within us. Let our nervous system know that it is safe. We cannot expand to new insights, New information, When we have a lot of contraction in our bodies and in our nervous system. So, That is what we'll do first. And then we sink into a talk on the subject. And after that, There's the experiential part, The meditation, In which we will really recalibrate and let your higher consciousness guide you through your change. But first, Please sit up straight with your feet flat on the floor and close your eyes for a moment. Take a deep breath in. Deep, Deep breath into your nose. And as you exhale, Just relax. To relax more deeply, I'd like to ask you to first tense up your muscles. Lift up your shoulders, Make the most dramatic, Tense face you can. No one sees you. Clench, Tighten and breathe in. And really draw in your belly. Push up your shoulders. And force your face into an uncomfortable position. So, Here we go. Take a deep breath in. Hold it, Hold it. Tighten it, Tighten it. Hold it and release. And again, Take a deep breath in and tighten everything. Your belly, Your shoulders, Your jaw and your face. Breathe in. Tighten, Tighten, Tighten. Make it difficult, Hard. Effort, Effort, Effort. Hold it, Hold it and let go. And just one more time. Again, Take a deep breath in. Draw in your belly. Pull up your shoulders. Tighten your face and let go. What you just did is release three common tension blocks in the body. In your diaphragm, We hold effort. Trying hard, Pushing. In the shoulders, We hold expectations about how life should go. Mostly, Life has its own plan, Right? And in the jaw, We store anger, Disappointment, When expectations are not met. So, By really tightening them up and releasing, We are releasing those three blocks. Effort, Expectations, Disappointment. Just let it go. Life is for you. So, Let your face soften now. Soften your eyes. Soften your gaze. Soften your cheeks. Relax your jaw. And as your whole face softens and relaxes, And all those little muscles in and around your eyes, And within your face, Soften and relax. Create a small smile on the inside of your face. Imagine the corners of your mouth gently lifting towards your ears. And listen to the sounds around you. Listen so deeply that you can begin to hear the silence between the sounds. Ask your mind to quiet down. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale, Bring the silence down through your throat into your heart center. Think of something soft. Puppies, A baby, Someone you love. Ask your heart to open up. And now bring this softness down into your belly. Breathe deep into your lower abdomen. And as you breathe in, Your belly expands. And as you exhale, It contracts again. Stay with your awareness deep in your belly. Breathe into your belly. And as you are there now, You can feel this energy within you. This is your gentle power. You have activated it. Maybe you can feel it. You are half awake, Half asleep. Like gently waving in the wind. This is the state of being where transformation becomes easy. This is your gentle power, Letting your nervous system know that it is safe. And from this place, You can listen to your own guidance, To your heart, To your spirit self. Yes, Your heart, Your spirit self is guiding you, Whatever you move through. You are guided every step of the way. So from that place, From your heart, Listen. Listen with your heart. Listen with your body. Listen with the cells of your body. And enjoy. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale, Just feel into the words. Hmm. One of the questions I've been receiving lately was, Should I move? Is it safer somewhere else? Everything in the world feels so unstable. Especially the country where I am living right now. And I thank all of you for the questions you sent. And I felt, On all of these questions, And also on this one, I would love to address them on a deeper layer. So, Hmm, I'm going to write about it. Create exercises on it. Share about it. In these live sessions, Or whatever. Because it's so important to not just answer a question from the human mind and the human perspective. But answer them from a higher perspective. And a question asked is always a question, Not personal, But from the field. So, If we can create an answer that's going back to the field, We can all share and benefit from it. And with every question, The only thing you can really, Really, Really listen to for any answer, Always, Is your own inner guidance. But how can we listen to that guidance, That subtle voice within, When we feel so contracted by fear? How do we know it is our guidance or our fear talking to us? Let's first say this, And I want to say it very clearly. Whatever question you ask, What should I do? What does this mean? This is a very simple and profound truth. The outside world only reflects your personal and the collective inner state. And when you move without resolving what lives inside of you, No matter where you go, No matter where you move, To what place on this planet, You will recreate the same pattern somewhere else, Because it is pointing you towards something within you. A fear. A fear that should not be there. We shouldn't have any fears at all, Right? Yes, The outside world is only here to show you where you block yourself, Where you have these blocks, These bubbles inside of you, That prevent you from the divine flow flowing through. We should not have any fear at all. We do have them because of the blocks. If we would really, Really trust ourselves, The divine aspect of ourselves, Our own higher self, Our higher consciousness and our Source to guide us, To bring the best to us, To let us live our life's plan to the fullest, To live our highest purpose, If we could really, Really, Really trust that and be in the now, Would there be any fear? Why would we have any fear? What causes the fear are the blocks, The trauma, All the limiting beliefs we once inherited. The deep feeling of being alone, Feeling separate, Needing to control life and to fix it by the human ideas we have. And when something changes, Oh, We freak out, Because the human mind cannot control that change. And your nervous system, Your human mind, Associates unfamiliar with unsafe. Your human mind, Your survival brain loves repetition, Even if repetition makes you unhappy. So when something shifts around you, Your job, Your relationship, Your finances, Your whole system reacts as if you might lose your place in the tribe. Biologically, When you were young, That used to mean death. So, When you were a child, These fears were so real, They came about through childhood imprinting. And they are not supposed to be there. They are there, It's okay. But when it's our quest to really come into alignment, We are invited to dissolve those blocks, Those fears. And everything in your life showing up is there to show you where you hold yourself back and where something wants to be reprogrammed. When I faced some financial triggers lately, I recognized that my old pattern was control. I got this adrenaline shot, My hypervigilance went all crazy, And I tried to control. My brain's looking, Looking, Solution, I'm safe. Dopamine rush, Phew, Calm again. Yeah, For a moment, Or a day or two maybe. And then my hypervigilance survival mechanism went on again. Solve it, Fix it, Calculate it. Oh, Okay, I'm in control again. You know, This is also an addiction. Yes, It truly is. This time I wanted to do that differently. This time I stayed with the uncomfortable feeling. This feeling, This emotion is pure information. So, Can I stay open and curious? If it is information, What is it trying to tell me? And it was such a profound and amazing experience. Because within one minute, The energy shifted. Under the fear was the old childhood programming, Old survival, Old identity. The change, The financial discomfort, The trigger. It's not there because I'm doing something wrong. No, It's there to release trapped potential. And that is what change does. It exposes the programs that keep you small. And you can own it all in you. When a change comes, Two identities are in between. The old identity is dissolving and the new identity is emerging, Not yet embodied. And this is a wobble. Change is a wobble. And that wobble is not the danger. No, It's pure, Divine reconfiguration. Fear of change is simply fear of losing familiarity, Right? But what if the tunnel you fear, The tunnel you go through in your process of change, Your process of transformation is really not a black hole, A black tunnel. But it's actually the birth canal into a version of you that already exists. But wants to unfold. It is expansion. It is growth. Yeah, This version of you already is here. That's the thing. I saw an image one time. Time and space are an illusion. So, If that's the case, Your entire life script for your lifetime is on a level already here. I saw it. Like a paper chain for decoration, You know. Yeah, You can unfold it, Right? It's just all on the same place, But then when you unfold it becomes very long. In this unfolded version we have the illusion of time and space, As if we move through a movie. But in the here and the now it is already here, On one film roll. All the events are here. It is power if we can let this script unfold without resistance as much as possible. And every time you get triggered by fear, It's a gift. It's an opportunity to resolve the blocks. So then you become more free, More free, More free. More open. A funnel for the divine energy to flow through you. And then the guidance can come through so, So clearly. Because, Back to the example of the question, What should I do? Should I move or not? You can come up with possible answers, Right? Yes, I should go, I should move to Europe. No, I should stay here or I should move there. Whatever answer, A, B, C. When you identify those possible answers, What fears are coming up in you? As you examine those possibilities, What is the worst outcome? What do you fear the most when you ask for your guidance? And maybe your higher consciousness lets you know, Yeah, You have to go. Go to Africa. Just saying. Oh, It could be anything but not Africa. Why not? What's coming up for you? What's the worst outcome? Bring it up. Clear it. Clear, Clear, Clear. And after you're done clearing, Then you ask again. When you are completely neutral, When you have brought yourself into a place of neutrality, Then we can really listen. Otherwise, The fear is distorting the signal. And it is so beautiful because this question, Should I move or should I stay, Is bringing up fears. As you release them, You release them for your entire life. So other topics that surface will not have to point you again to these fears. This is what you've released and reprogrammed. And this is how you grow. This is how you bring yourself more and more and more into alignment. And in this place of alignment, Your higher consciousness just speaks to you. In the now. Everything you do is an impulse. Don't do anything. Just go there. And your life just starts to be one synchronistic journey. This is the life force flowing through you, Guiding you and supporting you. And in this state of being, In this pure alignment, This deep connection to who you really are, It doesn't matter if anything changes around you. Because you have this inner stability within you. And that is guiding you through whatever will come on your path. It is always for your highest good. So today, Let's stabilize our field. Let's bring this connection in, In this meditation. So you can move through change consciously and unwrap all the gifts it is bringing to you. Enjoy. Enjoy this experiential part, This meditation. Let's start again by sitting up straight. With your feet flat on the floor, Close your eyes for a moment. And then take a deep breath in. Deep, Deep breath into your nose. And exhale through your mouth. Take a deep breath in. Deep, Deep breath into your nose. And exhale through your mouth. And just relax. Relax the muscles in your face. Relax your eyes. Soften your eyes. Soften your gaze. Release the tension from your neck, Your shoulders, Your arms and your hands. Just let it go. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale. Quiet your mind. Quiet your thoughts. Just relax some more. One more time. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale. Focus on your heart center. And say. I ask and intend to create a sacred space. I ask and intend to keep away all distracting thoughts, Energies and information. And I ask to raise my vibration and connect my energy powerfully to the energy of Source and the energy of my own higher consciousness. And I ask and intend to release the programming that keeps me in a state of fear. Fear of the future. Fear of the unknown. Fear of moving forward and transitioning. Fear of a new life and a new beginning. And I ask to let go of this programming and replace it with a new programming that is in perfect alignment with my divine consciousness and my higher self. And so it is. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale. Now just visualize, Imagine, Intend. That you are standing before a kind of a tunnel. And this tunnel represents the change in your life. It may feel dark, Unknown, Scary even. Just notice what happens in your body as you stand before this change. Where does the fear sit? Is it in your belly, In your chest, In your throat? Just feel and stay with it for a little while. Allow it to be there. It is really there to support you and to guide you. Now imagine that you wrap yourself in source light. Choose a color that feels safe for you. Emerald green, Soft pink or maybe golden sunlight. Wrap yourself in this energy like a blanket. This is the energy of Divine Mother. She is indeed holding you, Guiding you, Supporting you. You are never alone. Let her energy fill your entire energy field. This energy erases self-judgement. It dissolves any frequency of self-judgement and self-blame. It dissolves the fear and the uncertainty. About where you are in your life. About what you have done so far or what you may have not done. All the doubts. About the path you have taken so far and all the decisions you have made. This energy is simply erasing all of that. Her energy is so warm, Loving, Comforting. This is self-forgiveness and self-love. Feel your nervous system calming down. Now bring your focus to your heart. Breathe in this source energy into your heart and hold it there for a couple of seconds. Inhale source energy and exhale the lower frequencies. And again, Inhale source energy, Hold it for a couple of seconds and exhale the lower frequencies. As you focus on your heart, Say, I ask and intend for my subconscious mind to release the fear that I may take the wrong path or go the wrong way. Or that it might take a long, Long time to get there. I am now choosing to stop thinking this way. I choose to erase this illusion and this fear once and for all from every aspect of my consciousness. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale, Just visualize particles of energy leaving your body, Leaving your energy field. Inhale. And again, Focus on your heart. Say, I ask and intend to release my belief that change must be hard. That it has to hurt and that it takes forever. I ask and intend to release all my fears connected to change. And I ask and intend to replace them with a new energy. A new energy of adventure and joy and excitement. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale, Just visualize yourself walking through this tunnel, Going through the change. And allow yourself even more to be one with the Source, With your Divine Parent. Just feel it. Feel how you are held, Carried through this change. Take a deep breath in. And as you exhale, Just visualize that you are walking through this tunnel and arriving at the end of it. And at the end, There is this ball of light right there. And you can step into it. This is the energy, The consciousness of the new you. The new version of you. Reborn. Strengthened. And more aligned than ever before. And as you step into this ball of light, Just visualize, Ask and intend. How does it feel? How do you feel there? You have moved through the change and there you are. More you than ever before. More connected than ever before. More powerful than ever before. This process through the tunnel was your rebirthing process. How do you feel? Just keep this feeling with you. As you say from your heart, I am one with Creator. I have always been one with Creator. I have emerged from Creator and I remain connected to the mind and energy of Creator. Always. And so I am now asking and intending to create my 3D reality from this place of merging and expansion. And from this newfound place I am going to direct my 3D reality in a completely new way. And so I now ask, I intend and I choose to now retrieve all the elements I need as I need them. In a safe and comfortable way. All the elements that will allow me to manifest my 3D reality as I choose it. Beyond the human illusions or any prefabricated reality. I am creating my own reality as of now. And my reality will be filled with joy and fun and excitement. And my reality has a huge potential for freedom and truth. And I am choosing my new reality to be expansive as I am feeling now. I am choosing to feel good, I am choosing to be aligned. To have a collective empowering impact to myself, To my family, To those around me and to humanity as a whole. I allow myself to let go of what I have always thought my life should be like. And I allow myself to create my new reality with this new consciousness. When I choose to manifest it now. And so I ask my own spirit self and my Divine Father Creator to help me as I feel ready. I ask and intend to let go of my human mind and to trust. I ask and intend to let go of all my human fears and to step into total trust and surrender. And so it is. Take a deep breath in and exhale. Namaste.