So how to date consciously or conscious dating is what I'm going to be talking about today.
So the first step in conscious dating is becoming aware of what are the patterns that you are meeting in different relationships.
So every time you are in a romantic relationship,
How does it make you feel?
What are the insecurities it brings up inside you?
What does the other person make you feel?
Does it happen that they always end up dumping you for someone else?
Does it happen that you always feel that they don't treat you very well or they ignore you a lot?
So notice the patterns that have happened in different relationships,
Because identifying that is the first step to be able to change those patterns and attract new relationships.
And the second step is once you've identified all the different patterns that you fall for or are repeating in your relationship,
That's when you start doing inner work,
Where you start introspecting that how did those programs,
Patterns,
Belief systems,
Identities came up,
What childhood patterns are repeating in these relationships.
So that's sometimes not very easy to spot.
That's where you can take help of different therapists,
Practitioners,
And mental health counselors.
And that helps you in doing the inner work.
So I highly recommend using faster AFD to identify those patterns and then flip and re-imprint those patterns.
So that's the second step.
So now the third step is when we've actually worked on,
Re-imprinted all of those patterns that were constantly repeating,
We identify who am I as a person?
What is my value system?
What are the things that value to me?
Because if we don't know this,
We end up bending to other person's value systems and compromising on our own identity needs,
Values.
So that is the third step,
Identifying who you are and your value system.
The fourth point is identify what are your non-negotiables in the relationship.
Once you have a very high self-esteem,
You are able to decide what is it that you want and what are the things that you don't want.
And this is not something which comes from a very egoistic place,
But it's something which feels resonant to you.
And the fifth thing is always,
Always,
And always prioritize yourself and always keep yourself first.
In no relationship are you ever meant to sacrifice yourself to put the other person on the pedestal.
Always remember that you are the first and most important love of your life.
