Shift To Team Magic

Greetings!

Today's episode is about team magic.

So if you're a parent,

An adult,

And you're on team magic,

This episode's for you.

Sorry kids,

It's not for you.

See you soon!

Welcome back to Shift Today with Allison.

I'm Allison Shuhozzi,

Your host.

And today we are talking about team magic.

Yesterday in our family we have somebody who crossed over and joined team magic for the HAZI team.

And what that means,

What does that mean,

Team magic?

It's not the easiest team to join.

Well,

It kind of is the easiest team to join,

But it's also really difficult going through the transition of joining the team.

And we've all,

Well maybe no,

I shouldn't say,

I'm not going to generalize.

I have not all gone through the transition because we all believe something different.

And whatever you believe is exactly where you should be.

However,

I'm just here to tell you a little story today about our newest member of team magic.

So last night,

Our oldest is 10,

And you've heard him before on a Wisdom Wednesday with Evan.

He's just an amazing soul.

He's unbelievably intelligent and creative.

He's so creative,

So so creative.

And talk about a kid who uses his intuition,

It's pretty magical.

But last night the crossover happened.

Last night he asked me if Eddie,

Our elf,

Our elf on the shelf,

Elf,

If Dave and I were the ones to move Eddie around the house at night.

And I said that I was not going to lie,

And he said,

I want you to be honest with me,

Mom.

I said,

All right,

If you're ready.

And he said,

I am.

And I said,

We do sometimes.

He said,

Sometimes?

I said,

Well,

Yeah,

Sometimes dad does it and sometimes I do it.

And he,

You could just see his whole entire demeanor change It's one of those switching moments where,

You know,

Where you can swipe your hand over your face to make a frown and then you swipe it up to make it a happy face.

That's exactly what happened.

It went from I don't know,

To complete utter sadness and disappointment.

And as a mom it was like,

Oh,

Hard,

Yet part of me was thrilled,

Thrilled the lie was over,

That part of the lie was over.

Honest to God,

I was really,

I was,

It was kind of a relief for me.

In a way,

I was really thankful and grateful to be the one to share it with him.

And I,

Honest to God,

I wanted to tell him earlier,

I wanted to tell him like right after Thanksgiving,

Or right after Halloween.

But I thought,

You know what,

No,

I'm gonna,

This is gonna be one of those things where if someone asks,

I will tell you the truth.

I'm not gonna lie.

So he was really upset,

Really like crying full on waterworks,

Just angry at me,

You're a liar.

And,

You know,

And I let him have his minute like,

You take it,

You'd be pissed at me.

That's totally fine.

But I know I have a spin for this because you've joined team magic and I don't care,

Get out and Dave comes in and I could see on Dave's face,

My husband,

That he was not happy that I told him.

Totally fine.

We're all allowed our feelings.

So I left,

I left him and Dave in Evan's room and I went down to finish cleaning our kitchen,

You know,

Made soup and bread and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I gotta clean it all up before bed.

So I'm downstairs cleaning everything up.

Mind you,

We have another son,

Dylan,

Who's nine,

And he had already passed out on the couch watching a movie.

So he was in bed,

So I'm asleep.

And once Dylan's down,

He's out.

Like,

There's no waking him up until like six o'clock tomorrow morning.

So Dave comes down and he's like,

He's shattered.

He's just,

He's devastated.

I'm like,

I know,

I know.

And part of me though,

Is still happy and thrilled.

And I'm just,

I'm excited,

Really.

And just relieved,

Like I can breathe again.

And I thought,

Oh,

The whole time I'm doing the dishes,

I'm like,

Oh my God,

It happened.

Like I knew it was coming.

I could just feel it.

My intuition is telling me it's coming,

It's coming,

It's coming,

It's coming.

And,

And it came and the moment happened.

And that shift in feelings is really hard.

And a lot of times we don't want to ask the questions because we don't want to know the answers because we know the answer.

We already know what the answer is.

And we don't want to believe the answer,

Right?

How many times in our daily life does this happen?

And so we avoid things,

Right?

Well,

My son is so amazing.

He asked,

He was so brave.

He asked and he took it and he felt it.

So I got done with the dishes.

I didn't even talk to Dave about it.

I just went straight back upstairs because I wanted to check on him and see how he was doing.

And I knew he was very upset.

He was doing his sword.

I don't know,

Practicing his sword moves in his bedroom,

Whatever he does.

And I went in,

I knocked down,

I said,

Hey,

I need to talk to you about something.

And I really need to make sure when I say this,

That you can hear me that you can truly hear what I'm about to say and not assume,

You know what I'm going to tell you.

He's like,

Yes,

I think I can do that.

So we went in and we sat on his floor.

And I said,

I said,

Evan,

When I was little,

We didn't have an alpha on the shelf.

Things were very different,

Obviously,

Because things change over time.

And the magic of Christmas has never really been real bright in my life.

It's,

I mean,

It comes,

It seems like more of a chore.

It has always seemed like a chore,

Like I've got to buy the right gifts,

I've got to get a gift for every person.

I need to spend this much money.

I've got to decorate.

It's more of a chore.

It hasn't really been like,

Oh,

I can love the music.

And I love the hot cocoa.

And I love sitting by the Christmas tree with the lights on and burning candles and just being in the moment.

I do enjoy that.

And I do enjoy now I enjoy trying to find the right gift for people.

I realize now it's not about how many gifts you give someone.

It's about what,

You know,

The gift of giving the gift of sharing.

And and I said,

And you know,

I just kind of,

I was alone for many years.

And,

And it was just kind of more of a chore.

Honestly,

Honestly,

It was.

And then I met your dad,

And he had Ryan and I thought,

Oh,

God,

How fun this might actually be fun to have Christmas and,

And it was definitely different and new.

And it was exciting to be able to unpack some magic.

When Ryan was small,

And we were able to see him for Christmas,

That was really sweet for a while.

And I said,

And then,

You know,

I was told I couldn't have children.

And but I was okay with that.

I was fine with it,

Knowing that I had this amazing man in my life who had a son and I thought,

Well,

This is my family,

This is what it's gonna be.

And then all of a sudden,

I got pregnant,

Boom,

It happened.

And I said,

You came along.

And everything has changed.

And I said,

And I have changed a lot.

And I really paused and I've been paying attention.

And I can really hear my intuition.

And I can really hear my intuition.

And I said,

I have been opening and these peeling back these layers of myself and my imagination and my intuition and my magic.

And I said,

And you've helped me do that.

Because of the joy and the imagination,

The creativity and the laughter and the knowledge and everything that you bring to the table.

And I said,

And then the magic was peeled back even more because your brother came along.

And I said,

Oh,

My gosh,

You've got these two little human beings who are so just excited about everything.

And,

And I said,

And one day I found Elf on the Shelf at the bookstore,

And I thought,

Oh,

God,

How fun would this be?

And so I brought it home,

And we began our journey with Eddie the Elf.

And I said,

And it has been something we have looked forward to for years.

And it has opened up and it has,

Has created something in dad and I,

Where dad and I got into a contest where we were like,

Oh,

Gosh,

You know,

Who's going to do Eddie tonight,

And who's going to do the best Eddie tonight.

And it's not like we just came up with the ideas.

They had to come from somewhere,

Right?

They had to come from the imagination,

They had to come from our intuition,

They had to come from some place.

Everything in this world was just not created.

It came from an imagination.

It came from magic.

We all are creating things every day.

And it's part of our magic.

And when we lose that spark,

It's just because it's packed away somewhere.

It's hiding.

And sometimes it's a person,

Sometimes it's a situation that helps us open up that box of magic that we have stored inside of us,

And allows it to shine.

And sometimes it gets exhausting to be the maker of magic,

Especially when you're a team of one.

And you're trying to do it for everyone around you.

And you're not really feeling it from anyone else.

And I said,

And your dad and I joined a team.

And we we've worked on this team to try to create these really fun things.

And not only has it surprised you and your brother,

I said it's also surprised us how creative we've been able to be.

And it's been really fun.

So yes,

We are Eddie,

We have taken him around,

We have done these creative things with him.

I said,

But like you told me,

He's been your best friend.

And I said,

And you know where he is,

He's inside of you.

He's part of you.

And I said,

It's it actually makes me really,

Really happy.

And it fills me with joy to see how much you love Eddie,

Because it's how much you love yourself.

And it's how much you believe in yourself and how much you believe in your own magic.

And I said,

So moving forward,

If you would like,

We would love for you to be part of team magic,

Our Hazy team magic,

And he,

The hand was swiped the opposite way.

So he went from being completely sad and devastated,

To he turned towards me,

He sat up straight,

His eyes got bright again.

And he smiled,

And he smirked,

He's got this sweet little smirk that he has.

And he looked at me and he said,

Does this mean I get to start making creative things that Eddie does,

I can start hiding them?

I can start doing it?

And I said,

Yeah,

That's exactly what I mean.

You are part of team magic.

I said you asked the question,

And I had to tell you the truth.

I said,

But we don't go around telling people about it.

I said,

If your brother,

You're not gonna when he wakes up tomorrow,

You're not going to run to Dylan and tell him,

This is something Dylan has to figure out just how you figured it out.

You had already figured it out.

I just told you what you already knew.

And he said,

Yeah,

That's true.

And I said,

So when he has the questions,

Then we can join him to team magic.

And he's like,

Oh my gosh,

And then there'll be four of us on team magic.

And I said,

Yeah,

Imagine the cool competitions we're gonna have in the future,

Right?

Trying to outdo each other with Eddie.

And he's like,

Oh my gosh,

This is so cool.

Let's go tell dad.

I said,

Okay,

Cool.

Let's go tell dad.

So we went downstairs and,

And Dave was like,

Oh,

God,

What's happening?

And I said,

I'm gonna go get my first one.

And I said,

Absolutely.

Let's get your first one out.

So he,

We,

The four of us worked,

He had the idea and the four or the three of us worked together to set up Eddie before he went to bed.

And he's like,

Mom,

I'm sitting here and my imagination's going wild of all the fun things I can do and all the creative things I can do.

And I'm like,

Oh,

My gosh,

It's gonna make Dylan so happy.

Oh my gosh,

I cannot wait to surprise him.

And he's,

This is so cool to be part of team magic.

I said it can be a lot of work.

And he's like,

I know.

But now I'm part of team magic.

I'm like,

Yes,

You are,

Baby.

And we're so happy that you're on our team.

So just for today,

I'm gonna be talking to you about the like,

Just for today.

It might be the day you kind of shift your thinking.

I know I've had to do it over the years,

Especially being a mom with small kids.

It can get exhausting.

And it can get really hard when we're feeling like we're lying.

We're telling these lies.

That's my one piece of advice for new moms.

I'm like,

Just so you know,

You become the biggest liar.

Like all of a sudden you lie about everything.

And it's really to save your own sanity.

But for this holiday season,

Here's a chance.

We've got so much happening in our world.

I know things feel very heavy.

If you're watching the news every minute of the day,

I'm sorry that you feel like you need to do that.

But try to dig deep and sit with yourself and try to find that box of magic you have inside.

And when we do things for others,

And sometimes it's just what we receive back.

We don't need I know I don't need validation if I do something for someone else.

If I receive a thank you if I receive a smile,

A hug if I just receive an attaboy,

That's amazing,

But it's nothing I'm looking for in life.

Sometimes the magic comes when we're creating things and we're sharing without needing anything in return.

The things we receive in return,

Whether it's a feeling it's a gift,

Whatever it is,

Those are that's where the magic lies.

That is where the magic lies.

So just for today,

Try to take away the to do list and just try to sink into the magic of the moment and see how it makes you feel and share that magic with someone else.

Well thank you for joining me.

I really appreciate it.

If you would like to subscribe or share or leave a review or even reach out to me,

That would be fantastic.

But just for today,

I hope you are able to find that magic because if you can find just a little sliver of magic,

Maybe you can shift today into a greater tomorrow.

Bye.

Bye.