Here's a few minutes to reconnect with truth from a Three Principles perspective.
Welcome,
I'm so glad you're here to explore this topic of connection without control.
I hope you're truly present,
Maybe it will be helpful now to take a couple of deep breaths and feel your body supported by whatever it is you're resting on right now,
Even if you just feel your feet on the floor that might be helpful.
For a long time I thought that everybody had to agree with me,
That everybody had to think the same way as me and that in fact they did think the same way as me but then deliberately did things that opposed that.
That was a pretty exhausting way to live my life I have to say,
But it was just what I believed at the time and I can now see myself through a lens of compassion because I understand now something very different about all of this.
When I believed everybody had to think the same way as me,
That's because that looked to be true to me in the moment,
Just the same as when other people do and say things that I perhaps don't like,
They're doing what seems true to them in the moment too.
Our differences in perspective are completely normal,
They don't mean there's anything wrong with the other person,
They don't mean there's anything wrong with you,
They're not personal.
They're part of this transient thought creating power called thought and in actual fact from a three principles perspective we are all living in separate realities which are shaped by thought.
I've heard it said that there are about 8 billion separate realities on the planet right now.
Each person sees the world through the lens of their own thinking.
Of course we all think we're right,
Don't we,
But what if we could hold that a little more tightly?
Because in fact by holding that tightly it really does create a lot of stress and discomfort in the body.
Now that's the clever clue of course,
Isn't it?
When we believe that someone should be or shouldn't be doing something,
Then that feels tense and stressed in the body.
That's your clever system,
Telling you that you're believing something that just isn't true.
I love the work of Byron Katie in this area and her book Loving What Is,
Which really points to the fact that life is happening for you not to you and everything is happening at exactly the right time,
Neither too early nor too late.
And you don't have to like it but it's just a lot nicer if you do.
That beautiful quote from Byron Katie applies to circumstances in our lives but it also applies to people.
When we see this in the moment,
All that tension and stress falls away and our love and connection is revealed.
Because in actual fact it's there all the time,
Beneath the disagreement that love and connection is always there.
That's the truth of us,
Not us being caught up in our thinking,
Believing that somebody else needs to be different.
I really hope this is helpful as a little beginning exploration on this subject.
If you would like to explore this further,
I do have a course,
And the course is called Stress-Free Relationships,
A Three Principles Path to Peace.
If you'd like to have more calm and love and connection in your relationships,
You might find that helpful.
Otherwise,
Take care,
Lots of love,
And thank you for joining me for this Three Principles perspective.
