Hi guys,
I am so happy to see you here.
Thank you so much for joining this video.
My name is Diana Mirsaeva.
I am a MindBodyConnection coach,
A psychosomatic specialist and a meditation teacher.
And today I want to talk to you guys about loneliness and to share my experience of a very transformative year that happened to be the last year,
One of the most difficult and at the same time,
The best times of my life.
I will reassure you guys that there is nothing wrong with spending time alone,
With changing your routines,
Your environment.
And I hope that it will give you the strength to listen to your inner voice.
As I mentioned,
The last year was one of the most difficult ones for me.
And there were two major events that really changed almost everything.
They really changed how I perceive life and what I think,
What I feel.
How I want to live in the future.
I was completely shocked and devastated when both of these events happened.
I don't want to go into the details.
I hope you guys forgive me for that.
After that,
I realized intuitively that Life is something bigger than I thought of it.
Life is something extremely priceless and that I want to change my life.
I didn't know how,
I didn't know what exactly I wanted to change,
But I intuitively sort of shut down and started to spend a lot of time by myself.
I always was kind of a balanced person,
Extroverted when I wanted to meet friends,
New people,
To socialize,
To explore every corner of my favorite city.
Other hand I spent quite a lot of time alone as well to recharge so I always found myself quite balanced but that was the time when I completely cover the cords to everything that didn't really serve me,
To the people with whom I didn't really want to spend time,
To activities that I didn't want to invest my energy in,
And there were just only a few of my close friends,
A few of my very close relatives with me in real life and online,
And that is it.
I didn't want to make new friends,
I didn't want to go on dates,
Even though I tried quite a few times,
But at the end of the day I realized that Well,
This is not working.
I don't want this now.
And I'm really glad that I accepted that and just put the curtains around me to nurture my peace,
My inner world.
And I definitely turned inwards a lot.
And there were moments when I was questioning that,
When I was thinking,
Oh,
My God,
Maybe that's too much.
Maybe this is not normal to spend so much time alone or not wanting to meet new people or to make new friends.
When I always liked it before,
But I genuinely didn't have energy for that.
I started to invest much more time into my own projects,
Into my meditations,
Work with the clients,
Into creating something.
And step by step,
I started to get inspired,
Inspired to create more and inspired to discover something more.
I took up a few more online professional courses and I went on a solo trip around one of my favorite countries on earth.
In Colombia.
The departments where I haven't been yet and It was one of the best decisions.
First I reconnected with the culture,
With my favorite country,
With nature and most importantly with myself.
I chose to travel slowly and it was really nurturing at that time.
After that I moved to Brazil and I spent a few months in a magical island.
It literally is magical,
As people,
The locals call it Florianopolis.
And Floripa is one of the best things that has happened to me.
Me in life in general.
For a couple of months,
I was living my teenage dream life.
I was surfing.
I was living five minutes from the ocean.
I was completely in tune with nature,
With the water,
With my body as I was taking up a new sport.
For me,
It was so exciting,
But I didn't want to meet people there.
I made two really,
Really good friends and very close friends.
I'm forever grateful for them and to them,
But.
.
.
Nothing else,
No social life.
I was just there,
Me,
Myself,
And I,
And the ocean.
That is it.
And it was great.
From time to time,
I got a very annoying voice in my head that was telling me,
Diana,
You have to socialize,
You have to be with someone,
You have to get out,
You have to talk to people.
I was questioning my lifestyle back then.
And at the same time,
I felt that I cannot do anything else about that.
I don't want to.
And I decided to trust myself.
I told myself,
OK,
You can try this.
You want to be alone,
Just be alone as much as you want.
And let's see what will grow out of that.
I didn't have any purpose.
I had no idea what can come out of this kind of lifestyle,
Of this sort of lonely wolf life,
As some people say.
But to me,
It wasn't tragic.
I felt amazing.
And I truly wasn't missing anything or anyone.
I had my best friends next to me and I had my ruthless friends online.
I had everything.
And.
A few months later,
I moved to Buenos Aires,
And I had no expectations from the country of Argentina or the city itself.
And again,
I was so freaking happy to be there by myself to discover all of the neighborhoods,
Coffee shops,
Restaurants,
All the cultural events,
But I was not drawn to people and that was the part And the moment when I told myself,
Okay,
Just let it go.
Yeah,
Like you are happy here.
You have an amazing home and you're truly in your life.
You invest time in yourself and you are doing fulfilling things.
That really enrich your life and your spirit.
What else do you need?
Why do I need to put pressure on myself thinking that I need to be with someone in order to meet more people?
And the voice in my head just became a little whisper that didn't have any power left.
And finally,
I was liberated.
And yet,
I had no idea why I wanted this period of my life to be so calm and quiet.
But it felt good.
I would say now looking back at the months that I spent almost alone,
I can see the first result that it brought into my life in March when I travelled to Ushuaia in one of my long breathwork practices I finally found.
.
.
That I embodied,
That I became a woman that I always wanted to be.
A woman of my dreams,
Someone who I was looking up to.
And it is me now.
And it was.
I was so happy.
It was one of the best moments of my life and one of the most magical realizations.
And I was like,
Gosh,
I don't care about anything else,
What people may say,
What my parents may think,
What I'm doing with my life.
I am so freaking happy and I'm walking the path that I want to be on.
And nothing else matters,
Really.
So after that,
I went traveling around the South of South America.
And probably that was the time when I started to realize,
Wow,
Those months were precious.
And I'm so grateful to myself for taking this time,
Dedicating it just for myself.
Because really,
It is,
I guess,
One of the biggest gifts of life that you can make to yourself just to be completely with yourself,
To be in tune with what is going on with you,
To shut down all the negativity,
All the rumors,
All the outer world that doesn't really fulfill you and just to be focused on yourself.
So many people are talking about that,
But who really has the privilege of doing that and I realized that I had.
Those months of loneliness were not lonely at all.
I probably felt true loneliness only a couple of times,
But I believe it is natural and it is okay.
So I just lived those moments through and I went back to enjoying my life.
And this time really helped me to connect with my true self,
With my essence,
To discover my inner world at a much more profound level.
I drastically reduced to negativity all the unnecessary information and social conditioning around me just to discover and to hear what I truly want,
To hear my inner voice and inner guidance.
A better version of myself.
Someone who I really want to be and I see clearly the path that I want to walk further.
Somebody who I want to become in the future and I'm so grateful for this clarity in my mind,
In my vision and most importantly in my heart.
Now I let my heart guide me much more often and I trust myself.
I trust my heart and there is nothing more important than knowing what you want and just doing everything to make it come true.
And what I want to say at the end of this video,
First,
Thank you so much for listening to my story.
And I really hope that there are some moments where you could connect either to my experience or relaxing to knowing that everything is okay with you.
And I want you guys to reflect on your own needs and how you can fulfill them and probably think about what me time can bring into your life.
I do not ask you guys to shut down the outer world and to spend months just being on your own,
But try to listen to yourself,
To your voice.
No one else on this planet knows what is better for you.
But you and I want to thank you guys for spending this time together It is always a pleasure to me to receive your feedback so you can share your thoughts opinions Whether you agree or disagree with me,
You may ask some questions if you want I am always happy to connect with you And if you want some guidance and support on discovering your way in life Discovering your authentic self,
You know want to connect and I will see you here in the next video
