In this moment,
Unheal meditations.
To the woman who has been wronged.
This life brings to us moments we never envisioned,
And we find ourselves looking at the realities of our circumstances as though we somewhere,
Somehow,
Took a wrong turn,
Made a wrong decision.
There is no wrong decision.
You are not wrong for feeling anger,
Feeling hurt,
For expecting more,
Or setting boundaries.
You are not broken,
You are bending.
You are woman.
You love and heal this earth generation after generation,
And your soul,
Your heart,
Your presence has been forsaken.
Cry,
Yell,
Sing,
Write,
Run,
Bike,
Create,
Connect,
Disconnect,
Stop,
Breathe.
There's no need for you,
Woman,
To apologize for being too strong,
Too curious,
Too emotional,
Too full of expectation.
Do not apologize when you have been wronged.
Do not apologize for holding your lover,
Your partner,
Your spouse accountable.
This is not about you.
This is the work,
The emotional work,
Hard reflection,
And self honesty your lover has to do to fix what has been forsaken,
Not you.
Love yourself intensely.
Step back and resist fixing or appeasing,
Rationalizing,
Or minimizing anything to lighten the dissonance and conflict your lover has created in your life and theirs.
Yes,
In time forgive,
But the work,
The hurt,
The damage is not your wrongdoing to amend.
Let go of control.
Let go of responsibility.
Let go of thinking there is something wrong with you.
It was not you who betrayed,
Who deceived,
Who neglected the boundaries established to safeguard your relationship,
The union you once shared.
This woman is not for you to own.
Stop owning incidents you had no part in creating.
Woman,
You are beautiful.
Stand in your light.
Beam through any cloud of doubt.
Walk,
Run,
Or crawl if you must in confidence that you are love.
You are intuitive.
You are fearless.
The betrayal of your lover,
Their playing with fire,
The blaze they created is not for you to squelch.
Do not take ownership of what is not yours,
Woman.
Be brave in giving yourself the space,
The time,
The liberation,
And understanding you need.
Love yourself more in this moment.
Give your soul the admiration it deserves.
Go inside yourself,
Not outside,
For the answers on how to heal the wound your lover inflicted.
You,
Woman,
Deserve fulfillment and protection and safety,
Nothing less.
If your lover refuses or is unable to,
Please,
Dear woman,
Give it to yourself.
I know you're shaken,
Torn in two,
But dear woman,
Choose to heal yourself first.
