(Wk 11) Blind Spot Part 2 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Elly Shojja.

I am your host.

I am a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert.

I'm a deliberate creator and your peace trainer.

Now Unleash Your Peace is your peace training.

It is the podcast in which every single week we dive into a different topic about the internal world.

We do that over the course of five episodes published Monday through Friday.

And the entire point of this is to go inward.

It is inside of you that your peace resides.

It's where you start shedding all of this unwanted pain and all of this baggage that you're carrying.

You start becoming more and more yourself when you go inward.

And as a result,

You live your best life yet.

Because when we live from this place of peace and joy and connectedness to that non-physical,

That infinite potential part of us,

We don't just incrementally improve the quality of our lives.

We actually exponentially innovate every aspect of our experiences on this physical plane.

We become whole.

We become powerful creators.

And we become uplifters of everyone who comes close to us,

Whose path crosses us.

And as a result,

That trickles out into society.

And next thing you know,

We're leveling up together as a human race.

And how exciting is that?

Now this week we're talking about blind spots.

Blind spots are those areas in your life,

In your subconscious,

Where those faulty beliefs that ruin your life reside.

Essentially these faulty programmings,

They run all the time.

They have become part of who we are and what we are at our core.

And they get in the way.

They get in the way of everything.

Because all of the healing that we do,

All the therapy we go to,

All the stuff we do,

We're usually healing and addressing the issues that are on the surface.

And what if it's not on the surface?

What if it's buried?

And what if you have built an entire structure of destruction on top of that?

When you identify that belief that it's hidden in a blind spot,

An area that you're not looking at,

That you don't even know to look at,

Something really magical happens,

That thing disappears,

All the symptoms of it disappear.

And it's almost like you have erased an entire piece of the pain that you have created for yourself.

You become more of yourself and you actually end up surprising yourself with the new behavior that you have without all of that baggage.

Now yesterday we talked about one kind of a blind spot,

Which is a faulty belief that is so internalized that it becomes the truth.

And we talked about that in relation to my personal life and what led to my divorce.

If you haven't heard it,

You're welcome to go back and listen to that.

It's only 10 minutes long.

Now today I want to talk about a different kind of a blind spot and that is what if there are two conflicting beliefs?

For example,

You might have the belief that if you are in a loving relationship,

You and your partner communicate really clearly,

You are on the same page when you are talking about the kids and setting rules for the kids.

You do certain things together.

You spend family time and so on.

However,

You might also simultaneously have the belief that if there is no fighting,

Then there is no passion because passionate people tend to be fiery and they tend to fight.

Do you see how those two beliefs are contradicting each other?

So what you're going to do is whenever there is peace and quiet in the house and whenever you are communicating really clearly and peacefully,

You're going to feel like the passion in your relationship is going out and you're going to pick a fight subconsciously and then you'll say things like,

I don't know why I do this.

I have an illness.

Or whenever you are fighting,

You're going to feel like,

Oh my God,

My marriage is falling apart because again,

It's contrary to a good relationship.

So now these two conflicting beliefs are in battle with each other and you are in battle with yourself and whatever you do,

You're doomed if you fight,

You're doomed if you don't because both of them feel like you're losing something.

You're giving something up.

Now I had something similar in my life with finances.

So for the longest time I could not figure out how to make my businesses really profitable.

Whenever I would work for someone,

I would become miserable very quickly and I would actually use the word miserable.

I would say,

I am miserable working here because I'm not doing the things I love doing.

I'm not doing the things I'm passionate about.

I'm sacrificing what I am excited about and what I'm passionate about.

Then I would leave those jobs and I would start a business and my businesses would always do really well initially and then the more fun I would have,

The more I would invest emotionally in my business,

The less money I would make and I could never break through a certain barrier no matter how hard I tried.

So then eventually I would leave and I would work for someone again and then eventually I would leave and start a business again and this cycle would continue and I could never understand what the problem was until I identified the conflicting beliefs that were at the root of this.

You see,

When I associated making money,

Receiving compensation for the work I did as something that kept me from doing the thing I love,

Doing the things that I'm passionate about,

I created a faulty belief that making money meant I am miserable because I'm not doing the thing I love doing.

So then in my own businesses,

Anytime I would make money,

That faulty belief would start working in such a way that I would start sabotaging in small ways and I would push away my own success.

The happier I got,

The less money I made because again,

There was this false association with money.

Now when I recognize this,

When I realized what was happening,

When I actually saw these two conflicting beliefs that were at play,

That I want to do what I love doing and actually be compensated fairly for my work and secondly,

That when I am getting compensated for the work that I do,

I am sacrificing the things that I want to be doing.

So when I recognized what was happening,

When I realized that these wires are completely crossed and faultly so,

I was able to clear that up and lo and behold,

I started making money at my business and I started enjoying the work that I received for clients.

So both of those healed because I realized that I can love the work I do for my clients and simultaneously receive compensation for my passion projects.

So a huge,

Huge,

Huge financial breakthrough and it had nothing to do with understanding the law of attraction.

It had nothing to do with affirmation.

It had nothing to do with healing old wounds and it had everything to do with identifying a faulty belief that was underneath everything else,

That was in a blind spot that I wasn't looking at and then releasing that so that I can be rid of it,

So that I can actually work from a place of power rather than from a place of being at the mercy of whatever is coming out of these beliefs.

Now by the way,

Notice how powerful our beliefs are and a belief is nothing other than something that you keep thinking,

A thought that you keep thinking turns into a belief.

So at some point,

Me saying over and over that I am miserable at this job,

I'm miserable at this job,

I'm miserable at this job,

I don't get to do what I love doing,

I don't get to do what I love doing,

So I kept saying it so many times that it turned into this very destructive belief.

That should demonstrate how powerful first of all our words are and how powerful our thoughts are and how we can actually change and alter and influence the world around us based on our beliefs,

Based on those subconscious programming that we create.

So very,

Very,

Very important to identify these and release them whenever we can and if something is not working out for you,

If you are struggling to understand why these things aren't working out for you,

Know that there's probably something underneath it and start really asking yourself the question,

Okay,

What beliefs am I carrying that are in contrast to the outcome that I want?

What is underneath all of this that is informing my behavior,

That is informing my body and my subconscious that is causing all of this chaos around the situation?

Now I will leave you with that today.

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