Trust -Life, Lessons, & Laughter W/ Glenn Ambrose 1-17-22

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Trust -Life, Lessons, & Laughter W/ Glenn Ambrose 1-17-22

by Glenn Ambrose

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In this episode of Life, Lessons, & Laughter with Glenn Ambrose I dive into the issue of trust. Who should we trust, when, why and what does it look like? All this and more on this LIVE show recorded 1-17-22.

Trust Lessons Laughter Uncertainty Emotional Resilience Relationships Responsibility External Focus Emotional Support Self Trust Relationship Dynamics Personal Responsibility Spiritual Simplicity Inner Focus Spirits

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Jamao al Norte, Dominican Republic

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Jamao al Norte, Dominican Republic

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Welcome to Life, Lessons, And Laughter with your host, Glenn Ambrose. Hello. Hello, Everybody. Drop me a little. Hello. Let me know where you're from. Let me know where you're watching or listening from. Let's see. Today, Today, We are talking about trust. So yeah, I asked some of you guys, And we'll see where it goes. So, You know, At the end of the, When it comes time to do the show, I just kind of slow down and go within and just kind of run through the topics that people are bringing up and, And just see what feels right, You know. And today was like, I'm always last minute because I don't like planning stuff. You know, I like, I mean, In life, I do sometimes, But when I'm doing, When I'm doing this, I don't like planning too much because I go with whatever feels right. And I go with the, With the energy, You know, So whatever feels right and the energy is right. That's what I talk about. And it always works out somehow. So, Hey, Cindy from Central FL. That's where my parents are in Central Florida. So yeah, I want to think, I believe Cindy was nice enough to throw a topic up, Ideal there. Yes. Yeah. So she mentioned numerology. I looked at that and I'm like, I don't know if I'm one to teach about numerology just because I just kind of know it of a, In a surface way, You know, Like I've never studied it. I don't know too much about it. I don't take it overly serious. So like, You know, All I do is Google like, Hey, What does one, One, One mean? Oh wow. That actually applies. I see how that applies. So that's kind of all I do. One thing I will throw out there is Vedic astrology and Vedic numerology is pretty interesting. My neighbor's into that. So she's shown me some, Some pretty interesting things about, About being a seven. I was born on August 7th, So I'm a seven. So, But yeah, That's something to look into. But I might be able to have, You know, I could have a specialist on to discuss that with. That might be a good one. You know, You guys gave all good, Good ideas. Like Robin said something about the topic of serving others or our purpose, Which of course I started on last week, But I think I can see where I had an idea where she wanted me to go. So and then April mentioned maintaining healthy relationships or how to cope with our changing energies. Both excellent ideas. And actually I was leaning into the healthy relationships at first. I think I'm going to do one on that soon. But when I was tuning in my friend, Rosie mentioned something about trust and I was like, Ooh, That that feels right. So that's what I'm going to talk about tonight. I'm going to talk about trust and to get specific. It was, It seems like a lot of uncertainty and mistrust is going on. Perhaps how to stay centered with trusting the self, Regardless of the environment, Which I think is good. Like trust is, Is a wonderful thing because it is very, It's, It's spiritual, Man. It's foundationally spiritual. Which is cool. So what I mean by that is it's fun. It's such a foundational thing. It's kind of like, In a way it's talking about the big words, You know, Like faith, Well, Trust and faith are kind of the, You know, One in the same for the most part, But, But love, Respect, You know, Things like that are like big words that have very, That have multiple meanings in multiple situations. So at first it's such a big blanket word. You can look at this topic and go, Oh my God, There's so much here. What part of that are you going to talk about? But what I like about spirituality is if you want to get closer to the truth, You simplify. So you're going to see, You know, I have no idea what I'm going to say tonight, But, Um, I know that like, As we talk about this, Either where we start or where we end up or somewhere in the middle, You're going to see it simplified because it has to simplify because how else would we be able to do it if trust looked differently in all these different situations, But yet we couldn't simplify it to, To really get down to the truth that applied in all these situations, Then how would we ever be able to, To learn how to interact with life? You know, Because we'd have to learn how to deal with trust in this scenario and then deal with trust in that scenario and that scenario and they'd all be different and we'd spend all our time learning stuff. We wouldn't have any time to live because that's just trust. Then we have to do the same thing with love and we have to do the same thing with respect and we have to do it just be endless. So what I like about spirituality is if you get down underneath all this stuff, It's very simple and then you can work your way back up to what it looks like in all those situations, Which you can see it looking differently, But when you're trying to navigate life, You can simplify it and you can go, Oh yeah, It looks differently over here, But trust just works like this. So I have to remember that's how trust works. And then it just, Then I, I can depend on my very simple understanding of spiritual trust. Right? So this is, So I'm gonna, I'm gonna start with, You know, The way Rosie phrased it. Seems like a lot of uncertainty and mistrust is going on. So how to stay centered with trusting the self regardless of the environment. So, So yeah, There's, You know, I mean, There's all kinds of stuff going on, Going on out there and it's, You know, Where lots of people are very upset because they're looking at life and it's, There's so much mistrust and there's, There's so much stuff going on. But I think what people don't realize is that it's been like this for thousands of years. And, And some of it has been specifically like this for hundreds of years. And some of it has been even more specifically like this for decades. It's just, It wasn't in our face. It wasn't affecting our lives. So we just dismissed it and chose not to look at it, You know, Like, So I still, You know, One of the biggest things that I learned through in the past two to six years, I'd say is how much people didn't understand what was going on in the world. Like, I mean, I'm still a little bit shocked by it. Like people didn't know that like large corporations didn't give a crap about us. I mean, They might say it in passing, But they didn't like, They didn't think like, Like, Oh, They will, They will sell you something that will kill you. And like, Like, Oh, Well, No, They wouldn't do that. It's like, Oh, Well, What does it mean? What do you think it means when you say that, You know, That they put, They, They put profit before the wellbeing of their customers. What did you think that meant that like, Maybe, You know, You might stub your toe in an aisle of one of their stores and they, They won't bring you a bandaid. Did you think that's what it meant? It's like, No, They really don't care about you. They put profit above, Above what they care about. So the problem is, Is that we put trust where it doesn't belong. We don't. And we do this in the grand scheme of life and we, We do it in our personal lives. We do it all kinds of places. So now, Since you know, All these changes are going on in the world. And of course, If you just look at the changes, It gets very scary. And it's like, Oh no, Bad, Bad stuff. You know, But really what we should be doing is understanding that our eyes are opening. We're actually seeing things, How they truly are like the veil is being lifted. We're actually seeing things and it's not only in a political and business sense, But it's with our neighbors. Like, You know, We're, We're sitting there going, Oh my God, Why does everybody, Why is everybody arguing? It's like, Why is everybody arguing? They've been arguing for the last 50 years. You didn't notice like, Like when you sit and listen to people, Character assassinate everybody in the office that you work at, Like that's the same, It's the same energy. Like we've been attacking each other and separating from each other for years and decades like this, This has all been going on. So our eyes are just opening to it. So what we need to do is take our eyes off of what we're seeing for a minute and the whole like, Oh my God, Everything's messed up. Like, Yeah. Okay. It's messed up, Whatever. It's sorry. You didn't know that, But it's been going on for a while. It is, You've been seeing it for years now that, You know, The United States has been in a complete melee for at least the last six, Seven years. So, I mean, You know, It's time to get over it. Like stop with the shock attitude, Like, Oh my God, I can't believe this is happening and start figuring out what to do with it. And part of that is taking your trust back and not putting, You should not be putting your trust into entities that have proven to lie to you. So this is what it, What it looks like in the macrocosm. You should not be blindly trusting your government and you should not be blindly trusting big pharmacy and big business. You shouldn't be blindly trusting those. Now, If you've done research and you feel like choosing to trust them because of the research you've done, Fine, Then trust them. That's cool. It's your decision. You have the right to choose that, But just, You know, Take responsibility for your choice and be like, Okay, I'm choosing. And also it's very important to understand that not everybody's going to choose the same thing that you choose. Like, It's just your perspective. There is no truth. Like you're just choosing to believe something that you think is probably right. Okay. That's fine. I mean, You, You can't prove that it is. You don't have a time machine. I'm still getting used to this thing in my head. It's bugging me, But my hair's out of control. It's too long. I can't do anything with it. So we're just choosing. We're, We're, We're making our best guess as to what we want to do with our lives, But we can't like, What we're doing wrong is, Is really like, So like I shouldn't have said choosing to trust these people. You're not choosing to, To technically trust these people because you can't, That would be foolish. You can't trust these people because you don't even know these people. You don't know what their jobs consist of. You don't know how information is trickled down and who makes final decisions and all that stuff. We don't know any of it. So to trust them would be wrong. So what you're doing is you're making your best guess as to what you think is right, Which is cool. So then you make your best guess and you go with that, But don't, Don't actually trust them. You know, Don't, Don't, Don't put your, You know, This would cut back on a lot of the arguing. If people understood that they have no idea what's truly going on behind the scenes, Because you don't like they, They, I mean, Every, Every buddy that's involved with COVID has been proven to lie countless times in situations exactly like this. So to say that you are in possession of the truth because they said something, It's just not realistic. I mean, You can say, I think they showed a, A, They made a good enough case that I'm going to take what they say and go with it. Like I can see that, You know, I can see, See like, Yeah, You know, The, The way they presented their argument or their case I'm choosing to go with what they say, Or I'm choosing to not go with what they say. Okay. That's, That's completely understandable, But you shouldn't be trusting them because you don't know, And this is what we do. So, You know, That's in the macrocosm and let's bring it down. You know, I wanted to show you how this trust thing is, Is many it's, It's many levels and have many different looks, But it's the same energy. So like what we do with trust in a similar fashion in our lives, One of the most common ones is when we're having difficulty when we're feeling emotionally overwhelmed or where we're going through a difficult point in our lives, What we do is we go to people that we have known the longest or that are related to us. And those are the qualifying factors, Whether they should support us or not, Which is not a good qualifying factor. Like if you're, You're in a vulnerable position, You want help, Your heart is open and you're feeling fragile. And what you do to determine who you're going to go to for help is your, Your qualifying factors are how long have I known them has nothing to do with whether they're capable of helping you or whether they're going to be cautious with your heart. Whether they're related to you says nothing about whether they're capable of being there for you or whether they're going to be able to take care of you if they're emotionally stable themselves like, Or they're emotionally capable of being there for somebody else. So, So we go, You know, We get very, Very upset because like when we're going through a difficult time, We turn to our friends and our family that we've known a long time or that related to us, And they're not capable of being there for us in that fashion. And we take it personally, Like the, Like, You know, They slighted us or something. One, They don't owe us anything. Like nobody has to be there for you. It's not a rule. Two, If you, Like, I've been through this scenario countless times, And I have yet to have a situation where somebody said to me, I went to my friend or I went to my family member because I was going through a difficult time and they weren't there for me. And every time I go, Okay, Let's talk about this person you went to. Like, How's this person been there for you in smaller situations? Have they have they been emotionally supportive to you in any other situation? Oh, Well, No, I've known them for 40 years and they've never been emotionally supportive. Oh, Okay. Have they been, Have you seen them be emotionally supportive for anyone else? Well, No, As soon as one of our friends is going through a difficult time, They kind of disappear and they're never there for anybody. Huh? It's when you slow down and ask good qualifying questions, Can I trust this person with my heart? You see, The answer is no, You can't trust them. They're not capable of being emotionally available there for you. But yet we put our trust into them. So do you see what I'm saying? Like in the macrocosm and in the microcosm, We're not putting trust where we should be putting trust. We're not, We're not asking qualifying questions. We're just throwing our trust where some unconscious thought thinks we should throw it, Like a doctor or like, Like I was a personal, You know, I'm not talking about COVID right now. I was a personal trainer for a long time. I've and I've had lots of personal injuries, Broken back, Separated shoulders, Popped hip, Busted ankle, Like you name it, Man, I've done it. So I've rehabbed all that stuff. I've rehabbed a lot of other people's injuries. And I developed a pet peeve with doctors because most of the doctors, They don't listen very well. They don't know what they're talking about with their treatments. And a lot of it, Which, You know, Whatever that's navigatable, You're going to find that in any career, Any career is like that, Including doctors. I don't mean to single them out, But what's unique about doctors in some other professions along these lines is that people trust them blindly. It's like, It's your body. And a doctor will say something that you really feel is wrong and it's not right. And they'll do it anyway, Just because the doctor said so. And it's like, I've, I've never trusted anybody blindly. Like, You know, I always had like, I've had doctors where I went in and I, You know, They say, Oh, Well, This is what it is. We did some tests and this is what we should do. And then, And I go, Okay, So what does that do? Like, If I do what you said, What does that do? And if the doctor goes, If the doctor cops an attitude, Because I asked the question, I go find another doctor immediately, Because it's my body. If a doctor is going to get upset because I'm questioning him, I want to understand what's going on with my own body. And he wants me just to zip my lip and tape, Take whatever he says is truth. And he's not willing to have a dialogue with me, Then I'm not he or she, I'm not interested in that person being my doctor. And I've done that with doctors. I've done it with dentists. I've done it with lawyers. I've done it with anybody. It's my life. I'm responsible for my life. So if you're not willing to have conversations with me, I'm not going to just blindly trust you. I don't trust anybody to run my life. My life is my responsibility. So this is what so now we're boiling down to, I don't know if I should use the term answer. But but what the answer is, Is who can we trust? Right? That's the question. So what's the answer? Who can we trust? We can trust ourselves. And we can trust God, Or universal law, If you don't believe in a God, If you if you understand the the laws and how things work on this planet, You can trust those laws. So but, You know, I'm just going to simplify it for this conversation and say, So you're going to have to, You know, If you if you have a problem, Like a resentment, Or an issue with God, Or the concept of God, Then one, You need to do one of two things, Either work through that resentment, Because it's going to block your spiritual growth, Or learn how to just when somebody says the word God, Or anything like it, You have to learn to reframe that into your own mental perspective as universal law. I did that for years, I had a resentment towards God, The way it was taught to me being being raised Catholic. And I wasn't comfortable with the word God I am now, But I wasn't years ago. So I would reframe things, Because if I didn't reframe things, Then I was missing out on all kinds of awesome information that people were teaching. But as soon as they use the word God, My brain would shut off. And then I would, Like, I wouldn't be able to take in the helpful information. Right. So I'm probably going to use the word God here, That you can trust, But you can trust in universal law, If you understand the way things work, You can trust in that because it's eternal, Universal laws, Eternal, God's laws, Eternal. So if you can trust in something that's eternal, Because it never changes. That's how you can trust something you have to, The only thing you can truly trust is what doesn't change. How can you trust something that changes? You can't, Because it's not going to be the same as it was before. So the only two things that you can truly fully all the way trust is yourself and God, Because you're going to be with you always so you can trust yourself. And we need to learn to trust ourselves. We need to learn to trust ourselves in a way that we're going to be able to navigate the changes in this world, That if we come across a situation that we don't like, That we're going to be able to navigate that, Make adjustments, Tweak things, You know, Realign our path and go along. So, You know, We can trust ourselves. And we can trust God because or universal law because it never changes. Anything else? You have to understand that, Like, I'm going to bring this into a partner situation, Because I think it's the most obvious when choosing a partner, Would you like to choose somebody trustworthy? Absolutely. Absolutely. Of course, That's, That's something that you want to be able to be in a relationship with somebody that you can trust to some degree, But you can't ultimately trust them because they're not in control. They're not in control of what happens in this world. Like you could like, How can you trust a partner to always be there for you? What if they step out in front of a bus and get killed tomorrow? What if they fall in love with somebody else? What if, Like, Anything can happen? What if they have a spiritual awakening and go hide in a cave in the Himalayas for the rest of their lives? Like you don't, We just simply don't know. So you can't have blind trust and go, Oh, They will never let me down. As soon as you say they will never let me down, You're heading in the wrong direction because they don't even know if they'll ever, Of course they're going to say it. No, I'll never let you down. They don't know that. They truly feel it to be true when they're saying it, I'm sure, But they don't know it. They don't know like if they're going to get, You know, They're going to die two years from now. And then all of a sudden you're going to be alone. You're like, What the hell man, You promised you were going to be there. You know, What are you going to do? Get upset at them? So this is what I mean. We have to understand what, Like where to put our trust and there, There are, You know, We can use the term trust. Like, Do, Do you want to be in a relationship with somebody you can trust? Yeah. You know, Like on a surface level. I mean, If, If you, If, If, If you're asking that question where you go, Should I date people that are known liars or should I date people that seem trustworthy? Well, You should trust, You should date people that seem trustworthy. You're going to have much more luck with those people. All I'm saying is ultimately, Ultimately, And there's a Don Miguel Ruiz's book. I think I have it right here. Yeah. The mastery of love. Check out that book. It's a good book. You know, Don Miguel Ruiz does some amazing writings. So, But the mastery of love is cool because what he teaches in that is how to be responsible for your own life. So he tells us a little story and I'm sure you'll enjoy reading it because this thing's backwards. You guys watching this don't laugh at me. No, You can laugh at me. I look up and the sink keeps creeping up my head and I pull down on the wrong side because it's a mirror image that I'm looking at. So everything's backwards. So like this is, I have to really concentrate to pull down on the correct side. So anyway, So Don Miguel Ruiz at the end of the book tells this little story and basically it's this guy, This, This guy and this woman who don't believe in love and they meet and they're like, Oh my God, I don't believe in love either. This is awesome. So they end up spending time together because neither one of them believes in love, But they end up falling in love because they're not trying to get something from one another. They're not trying to get a sense of safety from one another. They're not trying to get somebody to love them the way they want to be loved. They don't want anything from each other. So they just spend time with no attachment to any outcome. And after a while they start developing these natural feelings for each other. Right? So then they're like, Oh my God, We're in love. Holy crap. This is amazing. So the guy as a gesture goes out and professes his love to the, To the heavens. And this star comes down this and from the sky that represents his, His love and his happiness. And it turns the glass and he runs over to her house and he's like, Oh my God, Sweetheart, You know, I just was professing my love. And, And this is, I want to give you my happiness, My love and my happiness. And I want to give this to you. And he goes to give it to her and it drops and smashes on the floor. And the question is, Whose fault is that? His, Like his, His trust, His happiness, His love is shattered. Whose fault is it? Is it her fault for dropping it? Or is it his fault for him handing it to her in the first place? So what it is, It's, It's his fault for handing it over to her in the first place. You can never give away responsibility for your own peace, Love, And happiness. That all comes from within you. And this is what we forget when we're interacting with this world that we think is so real. And it's only transitory and fleeting. Love comes from within us. So when you're your partner, When you feel love, When you're around a partner, That's not actually them making you feel loved. That's you recognizing the love inside of you. They are just a good mirror. All love comes from within. All happiness comes from within. So when we put it on somebody else, Put it on their table to make us happy or to make us feel loved, We're setting it up for failure because nobody can ever give us what we need all the time. Only we can do that. So you can, If you have a healthy relationship and you're a self-contained, Oh, I love me. I have love coming out of me. I have happiness within me. I have joy. I like who I am and my life. And then you meet somebody else and they like who they are and their life. Well, You guys have endless stuff to share and you'll be sharing that stuff. And the love can grow and expand and it's beautiful and it's wonderful. But what we can't do is hand our stuff over it because that's what I mean by we can't trust somebody else with our heart. Like we can't, We can give our heart to somebody like not like actually give it, But I don't want it to sound like we can't fall in love. And the reason I'm talking about love is it's such an intense concept around trust. You know, How do we trust? So I like to go for the intense feelings of it, But we can't trust somebody else to make us happy. We can't trust that somebody's never going to leave us. We can't trust that. We can't trust that because they don't know. Like I said, I mean they can get hit by a bus or something. So it's like we can't trust that. What we need to do is be able to open our hearts and love them freely, Love them freely without expecting something from them, Without expecting them to make us happy, Without expecting them to bring love into our lives. They can't bring love into our lives. If we think they're bringing love into our lives, They're going to fall short at some point, Guaranteed. And then you're going to be pissed off because you're like, I trusted you to bring love into my life and you're not doing it and you're an asshole. So screw you. This happens. I mean, It might sound a little bit silly, But like most of us have done a version of this. This is what we're doing when we're putting trust in blindly out there and not really understanding what it is. You know, Trust is saying that no matter what happens, I'm good. No matter what happens, I'm good. That's trust. No matter what happens, I'm not going anywhere. The only one you can say that to is you, You know, No matter what or God because it's eternal. So this, That's the only place we can really trust. So everything else is educated guesses. And you know, That makes people feel very unsafe. That's why they don't like when I say stuff like this. People don't like this because they're like, It doesn't make them feel safe because they're like, Oh my God, I can't trust anything. I can't like, I can't trust the government. I can't trust businesses. I can't trust my job. I can't trust. No, You can't trust any of it. Why would you want to, Why would you think you could, It's all transitory. It's all fleeting. It's no, You can't trust any of it, But it's okay. You're not supposed to be able to trust any of it. All you got to do is trust yourself that you can navigate this stuff. So which brings me right back to Rosie's initial initial thing. A lot of uncertainty and mistrust is going on. Yeah. That's because we're putting trust in things that we should not be putting trust in. And we're finding that out even more and more it's because, You know, Cause most people have been living unconsciously and this stuff hasn't been out in the open. So now this stuff is becoming more out in the open and more people are seeing it and they're going, Oh my God, I, I, I feel uncertain and mistrusting. It's like good because you should never have felt certain and trusting in the first place. So the fact that you feel mistrusting and uncertain is good. That's a step in the right direction. That means your eyes are opening and you're learning a new way of dealing with life. That's actually going to be healthier and bring more happiness into your life. But we have to get over this. Oh my God, I can't believe how scary it is. Yeah. Okay. It looks scary. Get over it. Let's move on to the solution. What are you going to live uncertain and scared for another five years, Another 10 years, Because all these things that you thought you could trust, You found out you can't trust, Like you can't trust it. What, What, What more information do you need? Like start figuring out, Just start developing the solution. You know, This was, I was taught this in recovery and I do it with my life coaching to all my clients. Now I'm not going to sit there and listen to somebody complain about a problem for 45 minutes. It's a waste of my time and it's a waste of their money, You know? So, I mean, Like once I understand what the problem is, Let's get into the solution. So this is where we are. We under, Yeah, Everybody was putting a bunch of trust out there, Just assuming that life was going to go on and they weren't going to be affected by anything bad because like, I don't, I don't even know what people thought. I don't think they really had a conscious thought. I think they just, Just didn't look at things. La la la la. No, There's not bad people in the world. We're seeing the bad people. So yes, Of course there are. So what's the solution? The solution is trusting yourself implicitly and you can, And it's really easy because everybody listening to this, I bet, Has gone through some serious crap in their lives, Right? I mean, When you were in it, You were like overwhelmed going, Oh my God, I don't think I'm, I can't see a way out of this. I don't know. And yet you made it. You know, And, And this is what's ironic in life. We have, We have it backwards. So we go through all these difficulties, Right? So what, What often happens is what the general public does when they go through something difficult is instead of learning to trust themselves and go, Wow, I was faced with a very difficult situation and I made it through somehow. That means that when I'm faced with difficult situations, I will make it through. Yay me, I can trust me. I'm awesome. I'm better than I thought I was. I'm stronger than I thought I was. This is awesome. And then if, If most people adopted that way of thinking, Things will go much better, Right? But most people don't do that. What they do is once they make it through a difficult experience, They go, Oh my God, That was horrible. I hate how that was. I really don't want to experience that again. And they spend all their energy trying to prevent bad stuff from happening in their lives. That's what they do. They're just like, You know, Oh, Well, You know, My, My, You know, I got, I'm not even getting an example. I was going to give an example, But it was a really horrible one. So I'm not even going to give it, But you go through this, Like, Really, Like, Let's just say, Well, I'll use a relationship. So somebody goes, Gets, Gets in this relationship. You know, They get married. The person turns out not to be who they thought they were. They get divorced. It's ugly for a little while. They get over it. They move on with their life. And then they're like, I'm never getting married again. Like there's a problem with marriage. Like the problem wasn't marriage. The problem was you picking somebody to marry that you shouldn't have picked. That was the problem. So why don't you just learn to pick better? And I'm not saying that you have to run out and get married. Maybe you take a little longer time to get to know somebody a little bit better, You know? So you make a better choice. But I mean, If you, You just need to trust yourself. You don't have to trust the other people. This is, And actually I'm going to stay on the line with, With picking a partner because this was one of the ways that I learned this. Like dating, Dating, When you get older, Because our minds have experienced these difficult situations and it has a tendency to do that. Different dating can be difficult. And when dating got easy for me was when I realized I didn't have to try to figure out the other person. Like when, Because when we're dating most people, Especially adults, That's what they're doing. They're trying to figure out if this person is right for them or not. And when you give your brain a problem, It looks for the solution. So you're sitting there and like, Like me having a history of alcoholism when I was younger, People will come to me and they'll be like, Oh, You know, So I'm dating. So this guy, You know, Like had way too much to drink. So, You know, I talked to him after and he was like, Oh, I'm so sorry. It was a one time thing. Should I break up with them? And I'm like, No. They're like, Really? Why? Because they think I'm an alcoholic. So I'm going to tell them, Oh, Make sure you don't go hang with any alcoholics or anything, You know, And Oh, Somebody drank too much. Oh, Screw that. And that's a sign. You've got to get away. No trust people. If you relax and stop trying to pressure people into being who you want them to be, And you just, And trying to figure out, Oh, They, They were a little bit rude to a waitress. Does that mean they're a rude person? Oh, They, They, They weren't real talkative today. You know, Maybe they had a bad day at work and they can't process that. And we go through all this stuff in our heads. And it's like, Relax, Man. Just go enjoy yourself. Go enjoy a meal. Talk with a adult, You know, Enjoy being out. If somebody is an alcoholic, The more you relax, They're going to show you that they're an alcoholic. Trust me. If somebody is rude to waitresses and other people, If you just relax and, And just date them several times, It will come up again, Just because they do one thing that's off center. Does it? You don't need to make a judgment about them as a person because of that. Everybody has a bad day. Everybody acts a little out of character every now and then. So just relax. So this is what I did. I learned to trust me. I didn't, I wasn't worried about who I was dating. I wasn't like, Who are they? I have to see through them and figure out who they are as a person and and make sure they're not tricking me and all this stuff. When I let go of all that stuff and I'm like, Man, I'm good. I trust myself, My eyes are open. I'm not BSing myself. So part of this when you're dating is not going, I want to be with somebody, I want to be with somebody, I want to be with somebody, Because then that's when you sweep things aside. That's, That's why most people get fooled when they're dating. And they end up dating or marrying bad people will just say to simplify. The reason they do that is because they want the relationship to work out so, So bad that they just dismiss obvious things that are being played out over and over and over. If they were just relaxed, They would see those things. They'd be like, Oh, This guy's really, This guy's rude to the waitress. And he's rude again. And he's rude to the the mailman. And he's rude to the he's rude all the time. I'm gonna get rid of this guy. And that's what would happen if you're relaxed and you're just paying attention. But the reason people get fooled is because they're looking for somebody they can trust and they want it to work. So they're going like, Oh, I hope he's the right one for me. Oh, He was rude to a waitress. Hey, And they rationalize for him. Oh, Everybody has a bad day. And then they're rude to somebody else. And they go, Hey, You were rude to two people. And the person goes, Oh, Well, They were asking for it. Yeah, Yeah, You're right. You're right. You're right. And they just rationalize stuff away because they want the relationship to work so badly that they don't see things what they are. But if you're just relaxed, And you're paying attention, You can see very clearly who people are. They show you people show you who they are, All the time, Especially the more relaxed you are, The less judgmental you are. And the more relaxed you are, The more people show you who they are. I see who people are all the time, Because I'm not judging them. If I'm just sitting back, Just enjoying myself, Having a dinner with somebody, And they act rude, And I don't react to it. Just like, Well, Whatever, They must, Maybe they're having a bad day, Whatever. And I just go on, And then all sudden, They're rude again. I go, Wow, Twice, Whatever. And they're rude again, And again. Wow. Well, This person's rude. And I just see it for what it is. It's very simple. So this is things get much easier when you trust yourself. So I trust myself, I know that if somebody is dysfunctional in some way, I'll just spend time with them. And I'll see it. I trust myself. That's why I don't have to try to protect myself from other people or other situations. So this is kind of now we can blow it back up into a grander thing. Okay, Hey, Talking about numbers. My clicker, As I was just shifting gears there, It went for four, Four, Four, Four, Was all fours. That was cool. It's like my little timer thing. Anyway. So when when we're spending our time putting you know, Trying to figure out who to trust and all this stuff and and how to navigate these things, And we're trying to what we're trying to do is we're trying to navigate circumstances to try to not be fooled. And what we're doing is we're giving our power away. We're saying I have to try to control external people, I have to try to control external circumstances, Because if I'm able to control them then I'll be safe. But you can't control all that stuff. You can't control other people. You can't control circumstances. All you can control is yourself. So if you learn to trust in that and then you can just sit back and then when you have trust in yourself you see things much more clearly for what they are. Like oh well that because you know because like I said you're not rationalizing, You're not coming from a needy wanting. I want to feel safe. I want to trust in something. That's when you actually fall for lies is when you're trying to feel safe. You're unconscious, You don't know you're doing it, But you're looking for things to put your trust in. You're looking for things to make you feel safe outside of you and there isn't anything. So you shouldn't feel safe by the circumstances because the circumstances will change even if you get it right. Every once in a while we get it right and we think we're genius. We you know we figured out the secret of life because we're right a few times consistently. You know that's just luck. You're going to be right sometimes. What we need to do is trust ourselves that we're going to be okay. You know I trust like it was it blew my mind how many spiritual people freaked out when Donald Trump got into office. They absolutely lost their minds. People that I knew lived spiritually very deeply for many many years and really lived it to the best of their ability and that was such a knock that it knocked people right out of their spirituality and knocked them right out of their trust in God, Their trust in the universe and whatever they believed in that they were so embedded in for years. Donald Trump had the ability to knock them out of their God consciousness and I was like what? You know like I mean I put I wasn't freaked out. I'm not a Trump fan but I wasn't freaked out when he got into office. I mean you know I mean I was a little bit like wow he could he might be able to do some damage here but whatever I mean I'm eternal. Like I put more trust in God than I do in anybody in any elected office or anybody period. So that's where I find my safety. It's the only place we can find safety is that's where we can put our trust in God and in ourselves and don't lose that for anything. So you don't have to try to figure out what's going on with COVID or you don't have to figure out like who's lying to you and who's not or you don't have to figure out what president you're going to elect next. Like all that stuff you can do it like you can make educated guesses and and you can try to live your life to the best of your ability with these decisions you make. I mean of course if you're going to vote of course you want to look into the candidates and vote for the person that you think is going to represent your interests the best. Of course you want to do that so go ahead do that but don't act like the whole world is going to end and your soul is going to go to hell because somebody that you didn't like got into office. Lighten up man. You know it's we've been we've been dealing with crooked politicians for for thousands of years since the beginning of civilization we've had crooked politicians. So this is nothing new if you're still losing your mind over a crooked politician like it's it's time to get a reality check. This has been going on forever and and I'm not saying don't do anything if you want to go vote or rally or do whatever out run do a petition or whatever you if you want to go do something go do it but don't like don't let it lose your peace this is what it's all about. We cannot allow anything to take away our peace. Our peace has to be primary and it cannot be based on external circumstances ever. It can't be based on what our children do. It can't be based on what our spouse does or what our parents say to us or what the loose-lipped cashier said or anybody else. Like we can't place that our own happiness and safety in the hands of external circumstances and expect to have it you know so this is the we we need to go within it's always going with it. You don't have to we don't have to have the right people in office to experience peace in our heart. That doesn't do it you know like like look and there are really wonderful living examples of this you know to me two of them are you know Bishop Desmond Tutu who just passed away and um the Dalai Lama like their most recent book I can't remember I think the book of joy maybe um that but they did a book together you know a few years ago I think and and they have other good books too but but that book was really cool because what it did was it it showed how these two people who have enormous responsibility on their shoulders from a political sense and a spiritual sense they have many followers that look to them right they are leaders and the groups of people that they are leaders of have experienced enormous atrocities you know just mass killing and just enormous atrocities and they are two of the happiest people I've ever seen and what that does is it gives us a formula it because one of the things that confuses people is they think that if they're not upset about something that means that they approve of it okay so I'm gonna say that again slow down and see where this fits in your life because I guarantee if you look deep enough you're going to find places that you have anger about a situation or about a person and part of the reason you have that anger is because you think if you just accept it for what it is and you don't have that anger if you let that anger go then you're it's basically like saying I approve of it and I approve of what they did or I approve of the way things are like we that's not required we don't have to be angry to disapprove of the way things are and that's very important to understand you can still take action against something without anger inside of you you can still accept reality for what it is without approving of it like I don't approve of on a global scale I don't approve of much to be honest with you I think I think just about every area of our lives need adjusting I don't think we're doing you know I I mean there's plenty of I don't mean that to sound as bad as it is there's many people spotted all around the globe that are doing amazing wonderful things and it's kind of like a grassroots movement and more and more people are joining them and looking for healthier ways of being and interacting with the earth and all kinds of stuff you know every topic you can imagine there are people on the planet already living in a healthy more loving beneficial wonderful way so the solutions are already in place so if something's really bothering you there is somebody out there that's living in the solution go look for it I guarantee you you'll find it so I have plenty of hope but what I'm saying is on a on a mass scale most of the the general population of the world is still unconscious so therefore most of the way we we we do things is not is dysfunctional you know it's dysfunctional so but that doesn't mean that I don't have peace in my heart that doesn't mean I can't experience joy and and really just walk in that energy most of the time you know so we don't have our external circumstances don't have to be a certain way for us to be at peace we can be at peace and still not like some of the things that are going on and and if we feel moved to we can take action to try to change those things you know sometimes like you know I've said this before like I've really leaned into taking action on well you know looked into it and said hey what should I do about these situations many times over the years and every time I look into it it's like Glenn that's not your role your role is to teach people these different ways of looking at things that's your that that's what you do so no you're not supposed to be out there doing this other stuff on the front line because it's just I just wouldn't I wouldn't jive well out there for many reasons so but we all have our roles you know I can support people that are that are out on the front lines and and make sure they stay in the right energy while they're doing what they're doing but I'm not going to go jump out there on the front line because that's not my role that's not everybody's supposed to be on the front line you know who it it takes many different layers so let's see what else is coming as I wrap this up well let me just see that initial statement from Rosie yeah seems like a lot of uncertainty and mistrust is going on right so I think I addressed that pretty good yeah there's tons of uncertainty and the problem is is we don't think that we're supposed to be uncertain you know all suffering is resistance to what is universal law has always been true will always be true this is something you can hang your hat on even if you're not spiritual or religious you can hang your hat on that if you are suffering emotionally about something the reason you are suffering at least 90 percent of the suffering if not all of it is because you are resisting the reality of the situation you're resisting it and the resistance is what's causing all the emotional suffering okay so the fact that there is uncertainty in the world that doesn't cause suffering when you think there shouldn't be uncertainty in the world that's what causes suffering because because the fact that there's no certainty in the world that's just a fact it's always been like that we're in an ever-changing reality like I mentioned so you're you were never supposed to think that you were never supposed to think that there was certainty here on this on earth you were never the fact that you thought you did that was your mistake so now you're not going to be that was your mistake so now that it's becoming more obvious that that there's uncertainty in the world that's good that means that you're one step closer to your eyes opening going oh there's uncertainty in the world oh that's that makes me feel scared and fearful well sure that's your initial reaction understandable but what can you do about it well you can look at it and go oh it was my mistake I am the master of my own destiny I was looking at things expecting there to be certainty in an ever-changing reality which is literally impossible my bad I will reframe this and understand that there is no certainty and I just need to be able to put faith and trust into myself to navigate things as they change because they will and trust in my higher power God universal law whatever that's how we that's how we move through this this is how you know everything going on in the world is not a problem it's an opportunity and if you disconnect from the mentality oh my god it's a problem it's horrible look at oh my god it's bad it's bad it's yeah we get it it's ugly let's move on to the solution what's the solution it's reframing the way we're interacting with life because we've been interacting with life in a way that is unsustainable untrue and doesn't work and now the lights just came on so now that the lights are on and you can see that you really shouldn't have been putting your trust into an ever-changing reality what are you going to do spend the next five years walking around like if you're if you've been walking around in a dark room banging into furniture for the last hour and then somebody flips the lights on what are you going to do spend the next five hours complaining about banging into the furniture or are you going to go oh thank god the lights are on now I don't have to bang into the furniture anymore you know or you know that's what you should do but right now what people are doing a lot of people what they're doing is they're complaining about the lights being off oh the lights were off can you believe that the lights were off oh the lights were off it's horrible when the lights are off my knees hurt my shins hurt when the lights are off I cut my thumb did you did I show you my thumb that I cut oh my god this is horror and like the positive people are going yeah but the lights are on now like it's over let it go man move on now that you can see what would you like to do you want to make some dinner the stove works maybe we could cook some dinner that might be a good thing to do can we no we're just going to sit here and talk about what it was like when the lights were off for the for the next you know two weeks so let's get on to the solution and the solution is adjusting the way we're we're looking at things whoops so we're looking at things we're looking at things in a way that was unrealistic so now if we adjust that we go oh okay so I shouldn't be putting trust in people and things I should be putting trust in myself and god oh also now I can navigate life I don't have to try to control every little thing that's unfolding in my life because I know that my life is going to consist of all things I know that my life is going to consist of all types of things happiness joy sadness fear anger frustration ecstasy enthusiasm all kinds of stuff and of course I want to lean in the direction of things that bring me joy and lean away from the things that I know that I don't like but other than that I don't have to I don't have to try to control things I don't have to take things so seriously just lighten up and enjoy my life a little bit and know that I will be able to navigate my life you know and if you do need help we all need help turn to a professional turn to a life coach or therapist or something or you know turn to turn to a friend that has earned your trust like turn to a friend that has been there for you and other people before or you know or or or just ask them like one simple question don't put your whole emotional stability in their hands and then watch them run away like trust people who have earned your trust you know and and I know I'm using the word trust and you can't trust anybody but welcome to spirituality it's a giant dichotomy you can't technically fully trust anybody I understand that but there's times that we want to make an educated guess at who we can turn to that might help us in a sensitive situation so it's technically not trusting anybody it's just trying to make an educated guess who might be able to support me in an emotionally difficult situation that's all you know it's just easier to say the word trust so you know and I'm gonna finish up with this you know Brené Brown had a really good example her of this like how did how to turn to the right people in our lives and her story was real briefly her daughter came home very upset from school and it was because she told her friend the secret and her friend went out at recess and told the whole class and the whole class came in and they were making fun of her and busting her and it was her daughter was telling the story and her daughter said it was so bad that the teacher needed to threaten to take to take marbles out of the jar to get everybody to stop making fun and so she was like she's like wait what's the jar with marbles and she said well when anybody does something nice or holds up the values of the class like being loving and kind or whatever that she puts a marble in the jar and once we fill up the marble then we get a pizza party so she goes okay so this is this is your this is a good example of what how people can earn the right to hear your story earn the right to be there for you earn the right to to see what is in your heart in vulnerable moments is like pay attention just keep your eyes open and pay attention and sure you can risk a little small thing be like hey you know I'm going to be a little bit more serious about this you know I have a I have something that I want to talk to you about but don't tell anybody and don't have it be real serious just be like hey you know blah blah blah you know and you talk to them about it and then just and then you get some input and then you just go through life being aware and you notice did they tell anybody did it come back to told well that and that's a person that you can't trust did they hold your secret and your confidence yes oh okay well that's a marble you know so so like this is how we can notice if we just pay attention and when we have a friend in our life just turn to them with little things here and there and just see how they respond you don't have to judge them not everybody is capable of being there for us emotionally the you know that's the point so there's nothing wrong with family and there's nothing wrong with friends that we've known for 40 years it just doesn't make them qualified to be there for us emotionally some people are capable of doing that and some people aren't so so when we're trying to make an educated guess who we can open up our hearts to we have to pay attention to that stuff you know this is something interesting somebody just did it to me like uh i don't know like a week or two ago i think maybe less um i hear it fairly often when i meet somebody and a lot of times it's it's a client um like but sometimes it's not people will say to me um like i knew i could trust you very quickly and it's why why do they know that i haven't really done anything yeah right it's because i'm coming from love and if they're open they can sense that you can sense when people are coming from love you can sense when people are open we can read energy way better than we realize and when you get really good at reading energy when you trust yourself when you start paying attention and when you start depending on yourself and and you start going within and you go how do i feel about this that's when you get better and better at reading energy and paying attention to it and you can pick up on who you can trust a lot quicker than you realize this is what i mean it's it's like you know the adding the the marble in the jar is a wonderful story and metaphor for for doing it but i don't want it to sound like it takes forever to do this if you're it's just like the dating example i was giving if you're if your eyes are open you're going to you're going to see this like you're going to see more than you think you're going to see we get fooled when we don't trust ourselves we get fooled when our eyes aren't open when we're rationalizing reality away to try to get what we want that's just relax keep your eyes open and you can you can trust your feelings a lot more than you realize so there so i'm gonna look at my my comments a little i i've been kind of glancing at them uh already but oh yeah and these people that keep commenting on youtube you know whatever i mean i guess i'm getting more popular because it's happening more often uh these people posting things on youtube they're just scams don't click on anything um hey sarah i saw you pop in and carl carl was laughing at me and trust but he does say trust god and sometimes himself yeah nothing you if you're able to be honest with yourself that's really you know that's really a that's really a thing to practice practice just going in and asking yourself question how do i feel about this how do i really feel about this and then just wait and listen how do i really really feel about this and wait and listen how do i really really really feel about this and wait and listen and pay attention to how you feel and i'm telling you if you just do that over and over you're gonna learn to that's how I learned I used to do that and now it's like instantaneous for most things I run checks on things like when I'm doing my podcast uh I'll go topic I'll read the topic and I'll just kind of pay attention to how I'm feeling nothing read the next topic a little twinge maybe that one I felt a little twinge read the next topic oh yeah you I can't explain it but it's almost like an attachment it's it feels like a yes I don't hear a yes but it feels like a yes maybe an idea or two pops through my head there's some sort of connection that's being made with a topic oh okay and that's what I go with I've done that for years you know when you guys can too our intuition is never going to lie don't worry about where your brain is saying pay attention to how your body feels it's a body knowingness when you learn to be honest with yourself and trust yourself you can you can really learn to depend on that that might be a whole nother podcast okay I've always loved how you would say that a person will reveal themselves to you yeah man just relax keep your eyes open and people will show you who they are and when they do believe them Chris popped in hey Chris yeah the only thing you can trust is that things are changing right yeah hey Nicole you like my shirt freedom I like making me I made this shirt I like making these little unique things cool I'm glad you gotta get a lot uh out of it Karl take care April and hi Deidre I'll see you down at Gordito's soon Deidre owns Gorditos down in Cabaret here boy if you ever come over to visit you want some uh some good tacos and burritos and everything else you gotta check that place out so all right take care everybody thanks for watching thanks for participating I appreciate you and um don't worry about what's going on extern in the external world turn into the internal that's where you trust yourself and you trust your connection with the universe or God that's the only thing that you can trust it's the only thing you should be trusting that's where you find your safety and then you can interact with external circumstances a little bit more lightheartedly it's really not that important most of it or any of it really because it's all fleeting you know so all right take care and I will I assume I'll be back to talk with you again uh next week peace looking for more check out over 200 episodes of myth lessons and laughter or click the link in the description of this episode to connect with Glenn directly