Discover the Benefits of Being Loved by Life

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Discover the Benefits of Being Loved by Life

by Michaiel Patrick Bovenes

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Being loved by life is our spiritual challenge. Letting go of unworthiness and opening to love is essential. The first step is to give, then receive love, and then lift to a higher octave of being loved by life itself. by All-That-Is. Being loved can transform your reality from domination into dominion. This empowered choice accelerates your spiritual journey.

Love Self Worth Empowerment Boundaries Procrastination Belonging Ego Self Pity Transformation Healthy Boundary Setting Deservingness Overcoming Procrastination Sense Of Belonging Self Pity Release Spiritual Journeys Thought Suspensions Spirits

Meet your Teacher

Michaiel Patrick Bovenes

San Francisco, CA, USA

Meet your Teacher

Michaiel Patrick Bovenes

San Francisco, CA, USA

Transcript

The seven benefits but it'll help those new to understand the benefit of why bother why bother being loved I'm loved enough the journey of being loved is continual expansion it's not something you do yeah I check that off my to-do list I did that in the summer of 75 I was loved I don't have to think about it anymore of course you do it's a part of living your life is being loved every day of your life and so what are the benefits the first benefit of being loved is that it helps you to set positive boundaries positive boundaries that are anchored that are rooted in love versus fear to set boundaries it means that you know this isn't gonna work for me I can say no without feeling guilty without being afraid without fearing losing the love somebody I care about and love I can have the the balance of love that always begins by saying yes you know love says yes I want to do this yes I want to expand yes I wonder yes yes yes that's the first stage of love but love needs to reach and stretch where it can grow and mature to the place where love says no this isn't working for me no I need to set positive boundaries and love needs to be able to say yes and no and that's important that's important as an example let's say you have a friend who's borderline alcoholic and they invite you over for dinner and you say you know you call them up is there anything I can bring uh yeah I want you to stop by and get a couple bottles of whiskey for dinner well I'm gonna say no because out of love I know that this is not gonna help them that this is adding fuel to the flame of their addictive responses so it's a loving act to say no but to have the courage and the strength and when you are being loved you can say no and set positive boundaries born of love versus out of guilt or out of fear or not even setting positive boundaries and just doing it to please their ego so that's the first benefit of being loved is that you're able to set boundaries with love versus fear the second one is that it eliminates procrastination you know we either do something or we don't do something there really no is no such thing as trying you know I'll try to show up at the party usually means I'm not gonna come I don't want to be there when people say I'm gonna try to do this I'm gonna try to do that it generally I'm not saying it's a hundred percent but generally being loved allows you to be clear on what you want and to love yourself enough and to love others enough to be decisive and to eliminate the procrastination that often haunts people who aren't being loved because they're not sure that often those people are trying to please others and tell them what they want to hear rather than I'm standing in their power and strength standing in their love knowing what they need to do now that doesn't mean you don't ever change your mind it doesn't mean any of that stuff but it helps to eliminate procrastination because all procrastination is a form of self-punishment it's always a form of self-punishment because what happens when you procrastinate you put things off you hold things back you wait to the last minute I'll do it tomorrow I'll do it next week I'll do it then all of a sudden it's due I gotta have it done or somebody's coming over and you never cleaned the house when you said you would and and then you start feeling guilty right and when you feel guilty you judge yourself as guilty you punish yourself you feel awful you feel rotten I should have done this sooner I should have I should have I should have that makes you feel bad it's a form of self-punishment not a harsh form but it is a form of self-punishment and so when you are being loved you eliminate the procrastination the need for procrastination or the pattern that keeps you beating yourself up the third thing when you're being loved you know that you deserve you know that you deserve to have it all there's no question there's no do I deserve it you know God got us all that is wants you to be happy once you to be loved that's your journey that's your spiritual journey because you see God got us all that is is the consciousness of love and to return home to become one with is to be willing to let yourself align with God got us all that is to align with love meaning to be loved and to then when you are being loved you know you deserve it if you want a new car if you want a new house if you want to buy something you know frivolous you don't have to question and feel guilty and do I deserve it or don't I deserve it I have to do something or struggle or suffer in order to prove I deserve it I have to you know none of that exists you just deserve it because you want it without feeling guilty without feeling like oh do I deserve this so the third component of being loved is that you know that you deserve now hear that word you know not you're aware that you deserve because most of you are aware that yet intellectually I'm aware I deserve and that awareness needs to be fought and felt and integrated and once you take awareness and you integrate it through thought and feeling you create a revelation thought and feeling of understanding it yes I understand it now it's a deeper level of just not an intellectual pursuit it's connected on an emotional level of understanding and then knowing it is when you live it when you live and breathe it when it's a part of you yeah I deserve I never questioned that and I know that also everyone else deserves but they often don't let themselves have the joy the freedom the prosperity the success whatever they call it because they feel guilty they don't let themselves receive love or be loved and so the third benefit of this topic as we embark upon this year of being loved is knowing you deserve without guilt or shame now the fourth benefit is that being loved suspends your negative ego the negative ego the self sabotaging part of you the the negative self-talk and then goes on in your head when you're being loved it suspends that where I feel a sense of breathing room a sense of freedom a sense of I can relax now and in the suspension when you let love in that love that light that energy lifts you to a higher octave where you begin to heal and mature the immature ego you start to heal the saboteur within you so being loved it's not only suspends the negative ego it begins to heal and mature it and you've all heard me talk a lot those of you who followed me or taken any of my online courses a lot about the ego and the ego is necessary we need an ego but often it is arrested and it is impeded it is stuck however you want to call it in one of its stages of growth from the infant to the child of the adolescent but never the benefit maybe of being a grown-up ego but not the adult because the adult ego is always a choice and so with your ego is stuck in the past stuck in it one of its stages it feels it's not enough thus I'm not enough I don't deserve I procrastinate and I feel guilty when I set positive or negative boundaries but it suspends the negative ego and allows for that part of you to heal so that it can become a partner and a liaison on your spiritual journey rather than a nemesis rather than something you have to struggle with so that's the fourth benefit of being loved the fifth benefit is it aligns you to your empowered destiny it aligns you to your empowered future self because you have many possible futures out there just like you've had many pasts you've had many pasts you have the past of the infant and the child the adolescent the teenage you and the young adult and the grown-up all those aspects are part of what make up who you are we're gonna talk a little bit more about that later but to understand that you also have basically in a nutshell many possible futures but two of them specifically one of them is always a choice of growth a conscious choice and when we do not choose it we default into the other choice meaning that your destiny your future is either a product of your ego the disempowered self where I at best I end up in mediocrity or it is by choice your empowered future self that is always a choice to grow and to learn and to understand yourself that choice is out there as well and that is a future that you can draw upon both exist simultaneously in the future and being loved aligns you to the empowered future self it aligns you to your empowered destiny where the magic the miracles the success the prosperity the love in your life can expand versus the same old same old versus mediocrity versus struggle versus the disempowered self the egos future when I do not choose to be loved I automatically default into that and align myself with that and again the future is so powerful it changes who you are today your relationship to the future which most people have never been conscious of developing most people focus on the past and even traditional psychology is focused on the dysfunction of the past where the root of the word psyche psyche cuz soul the study of the soul is what psychology is supposed to be about but it's become about disease and dysfunction and not mal normally mal normal ease or whatever you want to call them but it's not certainly about the future and yet the future and the past create the present moment but what's more strong that's more powerful is your relationship to the future to change who you are now because you cannot change the past and I'm gonna go into that again is one of the techniques we're going to talk about so for now just know that the fifth benefit of being loved is that it aligns you to the empowered future self the sixth benefit is that it eliminates the self-pity the function of the negative ego the function of negativity in your life is self-pity and it has two different faces one is the victim poor me look what happens nothing ever works out right you know life's a bitch and then you die all that stuff the victim consciousness the child in us basically and then there is the martyr the silent sufferer see victims will sit and come out of the woodwork take what's wrong with their life and why and who did this to them and why they did it and I'm a poor victim they'll tell you about it all day long the silent sufferer is the adolescent it's like feels totally misunderstood and unappreciated taking advantage of why bother speaking up no one's gonna get it anyways I'm just gonna silently heave inside and get through my life like yeah well I gotta suffer and sacrifice nobody gets who I am poor me poor me poor me being loved elevates you to a position where you no longer function in self-pity and therefore you can create a positive future because what stands between you hear this what stands between you and the changes and the reality you want to create for yourself is not time or space meaning it's gonna take a lot of time it's gonna take a long you know long distance to get there no it's pity when you're willing to give up self-pity when you're willing to step out of victimhood and martyrhood magic and miracles happen instantly things change radically but we're so ingrained as a part of us from growing up in believing that's the way to get through life that's the way to be loved lots of things like that that keep us in that trap of pity and it's being love that can lift you out to suspend you and allow the greater magic and miracles to flow into your life and seventhly and finally being loved allows you to belong to belong wherever you go within the world to belong wherever you go within the world that's huge that is fantastic that is huge when you really let that in when you really let in that being loved allows that allows me to belong because being loved is about belonging and so from setting positive boundaries to belonging everywhere in the world by eliminating procrastination and eliminating self-pity by knowing you deserve and aligning with your empowered future self to healing and maturing the negative aspect of yourself called the ego the immature dysfunctional ego suspending it so it can heal immature is what the gift of being loved can help you to do