The secretions of the pineal in the yogic terminology is referred to as amruta because once it begins in secretion,
Everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful.
It is not the sexuality which limits it,
But it's the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it.
If you make it too big,
You will become perverted in your head.
If you try to obliterate it,
You will become even more perverted in your mind.
A ninety-two year old man went to his doctor for a full medical check-up.
The doctor checked him up and he said,
Hey old boy,
For your age you're doing great,
Everything is just fine with you.
But the man asked,
But doctor,
What about my sex life?
So the doctor asked,
Thinking about it or dreaming about it?
The more you try not to think about something,
The more you will think about it,
This is the nature of the mind.
So there are many reasons why one indulges in sex.
For some it is just pleasure,
For some it is a way of building this bond and companionship.
Otherwise people feel they're going away from each other.
They may be just fine,
But lot of people it is psyched in their mind that if they're not sexually involved,
They're actually moving away.
Not true.
You can be very close to somebody and need not be involved in any physical manner,
Isn't it?
But societies are psyching,
Especially in this part of the world,
People are hugely psyched.
If there is no sexuality,
You don't really have a relationship.
In fact,
The word relationship,
It's only… it took me some time to understand,
That here if you say a relationship,
You're supposed to understand it's sex-based relationship.
Nothing else is a relationship.
If… if I… I can have a very strong relationship with you and not be concerned about your body,
Isn't it?
I may not be drawn to your body in any way,
But I can have a very powerful relationship with you.
But all those possibilities are completely discounted.
A relationship means you must be in some way physically involved,
Man,
Woman,
Or man,
Man,
Woman,
Woman,
Whatever you like.
Essentially it's body-based.
What kind of body is individual choices,
But essentially it is body-based.
This has happened because somewhere our identification with the body has gone beyond normal levels of identity.
It is excessive identification with the body.
That is why body-based relationships have become the crux of the society.
One who is too identified with your physical body,
Naturally is sex-driven,
Because that is the highest thing that he knows.
There are ways we can make you find something which is far bigger than this.
Once you taste something better,
I don't have to tell you,
Give this up or give that up,
It'll anyway fall off,
Isn't it?
There are ways to do certain sadhana which is more intense than sexuality,
Which is more ecstatic than sexuality.
On one level,
If you look at it,
All dimensions of yoga,
One way or the other are ultimately trying to activate the pineal,
Because once it begins in secretion,
Everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful.
It creates a whole inner pleasure,
Which makes all the outer pleasures look like kindergarten stuff.
That's the reason yogis are just sitting with eyes closed,
Not because they're against pleasure,
They're against small pleasures,
That's all.
So the Shambhavi,
One thing that's happening is it stimulates the pineal secretion in a big way,
Which leaves you drenched in a certain level of sweetness throughout the day.
It just leaves you in a certain state of ecstasy and blissfulness,
Because the pineal gland is active.
This is one aspect of your physiology,
Which is very close to your consciousness.
Rest of the physiology is about survival,
But pineal gland is one aspect of your physiology,
Which is very,
Very close to transcending the physical.
In the yogic traditions,
This sweetness is referred to as Amruta or the Ambrosia or the elixir of life.
One drop,
If it comes into the system,
Suddenly the whole system just cools down,
The whole system is lubricated,
Functions at ease,
The desperation in the system is gone,
The desperation in the mind is gone.
So Ambrosia means you found your own pleasure.
If you're extremely joyful within yourself,
You found the Amruta within yourself,
You're extremely… you're in an extreme state of pleasantness.
Now,
Being with people,
Not anymore about squeezing pleasure out of them.
Being with people is just out of… just being with them.
Only now you're truly capable of love,
Otherwise it is just a open sesame trick.
I love you means,
Whether believe you or not,
For that moment they make themselves believe you because they're also in need of something,
You're also in need of something.
Isn't it?
It's a… it's like the,
You know,
Alibaba under-forty?
Open sesame means it opens.
This is just like the,
I love you means many things open up.
Now,
By doing this,
I'm not saying it's right or wrong,
That's the way people conduct their life,
There's nothing to it,
But by doing this,
The true possibility of knowing an intense sense of love within you is lost.
You're here constantly looking,
What can I get out of this person,
What can I get out of that person?
This is a con job.
It's called a love affair.
But it's a con job.
But if you are extremely ecstatic by yourself,
When you're being with people,
It's about sharing your ecstasy.
It is about if they are not touched by it,
Somehow to touch them with it,
Rather than seeing what you can squeeze out of them.
The whole fundamentals of your life will change.
Yes and no in the sense,
It is not the sexuality which limits it,
But it's the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it.
So,
It is not sexuality per se which becomes the barrier,
But the attachment it creates to the physicality which definitely becomes the barrier.
This question is coming from certain amount of bits and pieces,
The gossip that you have heard about how you could assimilate your own semen and raise it up to your higher possibility.
Yes,
It is true.
At the same time,
It is not because of abstinence that one does it,
It is because of internalizing your energies that you do it.
It is not simply that somebody is abstaining from sex and suddenly his energies are all organized and it's going up.
It's not true.
If your energies get organized and begin to move up,
The need for sexuality may evaporate for you,
But it doesn't leave you incapable.
It doesn't leave you impotent,
But the need is gone.
It is just no more a compulsive thing.
And it is not just this one thing.
All compulsiveness is lost.
Essentially,
Most of the sexuality that's happening on the planet is happening because of a certain compulsiveness,
Isn't it?
It's a compulsive drive.
When you become conscious,
When all compulsiveness disappears,
This also disappears.
It is just that because people are so body-oriented,
They are always thinking spirituality versus sexuality.
They are not connected.
They are not connected.
One is of the body,
Another is of a different dimension.
It is simply because people are so… because religions of the world,
Moral schools and the ethical schools have been always speaking against it,
It has become such a big issue in people's minds.
They think the only way to know something beyond is you must be away from this.
Because somewhere you are not able to accept the simple biology of a human being,
Which is the tragedy that you cannot accept the simple biology.
You either have to celebrate it or you have to push it down the drain.
Both are not needed.
You can look at it for the limitation that it is and for the possibility that it is.
So,
If because of the impurity of sex,
Your spirituality is going to get disturbed,
I want you to know that your very birth is impure.
When you come from such an impure birth,
Where is the possibility for you?
There is no possibility for you.
Only if you fell from somewhere else,
If the stoke dropped you,
There is some possibility of you becoming spiritual.
If your mother had a normal birth,
You have no possibility.
A six-year-old girl came home one day from school and asked mama,
How was I born?
The mother was embarrassed.
She said,
A stoke dropped you.
She said,
Okay.
She noted down.
Mama,
How were you born?
A stoke dropped me too.
Mama,
How was grandmama born?
A stoke dropped her too.
Then the girl became serious and she went down and sat down and started writing something in her homework.
Then the mother was feeling uncomfortable.
She finished her cooking and then the girl had finished her homework and left the book there.
She went and read.
So the essay was about the family tree.
So the girl had written,
For three generations in my family,
Nobody had a natural birth.
So because of absurd ideas,
Either we exaggerate something or we try to unnecessarily play it down.
It has a certain role in your life.
If you make it too big,
You will become perverted in your head.
If you try to obliterate it,
You will become even more perverted in your mind.
After all,
Now I am speaking,
This is the kind of energy.
You are looking at me,
This is a kind of energy.
You are listening to me,
This is a kind of energy.
These are different expressions of the same life energy,
Isn't it?
Now sexuality is also another expression of the same energy.
Now one has to decide how much of his energy,
In which direction he wants to send it.
Because after all,
You are a limited amount of energy,
Isn't it?
See,
It's just like you have an income.
Let's say you have five thousand dollars a month.
How much for the house rent,
How much for eating,
How much for schooling,
How much just for fun,
How much for vacation,
You are a portion,
Isn't it?
Tomorrow morning,
You got your salary,
In the evening you went out and blew it up.
Now the next month is going to be trouble,
Isn't it?
Of course you have a credit card but… Everything in your life,
If you are handling your life sensibly,
Everything in your life is a portion according to your understanding,
Your need and your capability.
Isn't it so?
Yes?
Your money,
Time,
Energy,
Isn't everything allotted the way you like to arrange it?
This is also the same thing.
How much of it?
First of all,
Do you need it or are you doing it because of socially you are psyched?
If there is a need,
If I ask you to stop it,
You will become perverted because it will all happen in your head.
If somebody is telling you,
You have to do it,
If you don't do it,
You are not normal,
Another kind of perversion will come,
Both are not needed.
After all,
You are not going after a man or woman,
You are going after a certain level of pleasantness.
So once you experience a certain level of pleasantness,
Wouldn't you like to dig deeper into this because whatever pleasantness happened,
Maybe you use the other person but the pleasantness happened within you,
Right?
So suppose anyway the pleasantness is happening within you,
The other person is just a key to open this,
Wouldn't you like to have the key in your own hands?
Yes?
That if you sit like this,
You are on full scale,
You don't need anybody.
No,
See any… anything,
Anything in your life,
Either for pleasure,
Money,
Love,
This,
That,
It doesn't matter what,
For whatever,
The moment you become dependent on another person,
Nobody on this planet is truly reliable,
Isn't it?
I keep hearing these complaints all over.
Some people,
Generally women,
Keep complaining their husbands are excessively physical.
Some women constantly complaining,
He doesn't lay a finger upon me.
Whatever happens,
It's a problem because it will never happen exactly the way you want it.
As long as another person is involved,
Nothing will ever happen hundred percent the way you want it,
Isn't it so?
Yes or no?
It never will.
It doesn't matter if you get married to a god,
It still won't happen.
As long as your way of being,
Your sense of pleasure and joy is dependent on other person,
You will always have a complaint.
Doesn't matter how wonderful the other person is.
So in this context,
People might have talked about celibacy because they said,
Take some time off.
Don't… because to extract pleasure out of somebody,
You have to play any number of tricks.
It doesn't happen simply.
This is called as courting.
Once you go to the court,
The judgment day will come.
It takes enormous amount of time,
Effort,
Energy and all kinds of other things,
Frustrations,
Jealousies,
Problems,
Everything attached to it.
So somebody said,
Take time off from those things and see if this could be internally generated and then being with people will become more out of your love than out of your need,
Which is definitely a better way to be with people,
Isn't it?
It is definitely a better way of honoring another human being,
Isn't it so?
Give this a little more attention.
Instead of paying attention to that one and that one and that one,
Give this one a little more attention.
It will produce much more pleasure than any other one can produce for you.
