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Just Be The Way You Want To Be

by Sadhguru Jaggi

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Everything you do, says Sadhguru, is actually an act; however, you have the choice to act consciously or compulsively. He explains that your action should always be taken as per the situation, but you can always choose how you want to be within yourself. Yogi, mystic and visionary, Sadhguru is a spiritual master with a difference. An arresting blend of profundity and pragmatism, his life and work serves as a reminder that yoga is a contemporary science, vitally relevant to our times. For more Sadhguru's insights, follow him on twitter and facebook.

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All you need to do is just be the way you want to be.

How do you want to be?

That's all.

It's that simple,

But it's also that far away,

Isn't it?

Is that simple?

After all,

You want to be joyful,

Just be that way,

Who's stopping you?

No,

No,

They're doing this.

Now,

You don't want them to do what they want to do,

But you want to do what you want to do.

This is a problem.

If you want to do what you want to do,

You must also be okay with everybody doing what they want to do.

That's the only way,

Because freedom is a two-way stream,

Isn't it?

Yes?

Now,

Is somebody physically torturing you?

If that is so,

You come,

We'll take you away,

Because then you need to be protected.

Nobody is physically torturing you.

They're just doing what they want to do,

They're saying what they want to say.

Are they just saying just what they know?

Isn't it?

So who is causing the mess within you?

You yourself,

Because somewhere you believe if you become angry,

If you become miserable,

It may pay off.

And it does sometimes.

If there are more miserable people around you who value your misery,

It pays off,

Isn't it?

Yes?

If you act miserable in the house,

You get many things.

If you're joyful,

Maybe you don't get.

Isn't it so?

So you learn the trick.

But what you need to understand is the trick is double-edged.

If you're miserable,

Whatever the hell you get,

It doesn't mean anything.

If you're joyful,

You don't get anything,

So who cares?

So this is not just your trick.

Everybody around you has always been playing this trick and you thought that's the way.

But what is it that you want?

You want to be joyful or miserable?

So just be the way you want to be.

Does it infringe on anybody?

Does it infringe on anybody?

No.

Now I want to smoke.

If I do.

Now this is going to cause some disturbance to somebody.

I want to just be happy.

Is it infringing on anybody's anything?

Is it,

I'm asking?

So you be the way you want to be.

Who's stopping you?

You cannot do whatever you want to do,

But you can be the way you want to be,

Isn't it?

Yes?

Can anybody stop you?

People need not even know that you're joyful,

If they like a miserable face,

Give it to them.

If they like miserable faces,

Give it to them,

But you can still be joyful,

Isn't it?

Right now we'll experiment,

Okay?

Right now a lot of faces are looking joyful.

I want you to maintain the same joy and look miserable.

Do it now.

Do it now.

Let me see.

You don't smile at me.

Show me a miserable face,

Being joyful within you.

You must practice.

Please do it.

See,

This will be needed in your home.

If you're all the time,

Ha ha ha ha,

They'll,

They'll go crazy.

Sometimes they expect a miserable face.

What's so spiritual about you,

All this damn yoga,

Hee hee hee and all?

What's the problem?

Action should be the way the situation demands.

Have I not been insisting on this all the time?

But you tell me which is first,

Your way of being is first or action is first?

Which comes first?

Your way of being.

So if you say,

I want to be joyful,

Establish that.

Action as the situation demands.

Some people like misery,

Some people like laughter,

Some people like crying.

Do it.

I do everything.

Just practice life in the satsang,

That's why you're here.

Encounter with truth,

You know.

It should happen here,

Not after you go home.

What I'm telling you is,

Everything that you do is actually act,

Isn't it so?

Either you do it consciously or you do it compulsively.

If you do it compulsively,

You think it's real.

But actually it's an act,

Isn't it so?

Everything is cooked up in your head,

Isn't it,

Whatever you do?

So it's anyway an act.

So do you want to do it consciously or do you want to do it compulsively?

That's all the choice is.

So you do it compulsively and you think it's real,

It's a foolish way to exist.

It's anyway an act.

At least do it consciously,

Then life will be beautiful.

If you do it compulsively,

It looks like a trap.

It's not a trap.

Life is not a trap because the exit is always there,

Wide open.

Yes or no?

Yes or no?

Life is not a trap.

The exit is always open.

Everybody is trying to dodge the exit.

No?

So,

If the exit was closed,

Only then you can call it a trap,

Isn't it?

The exit is always wide open.

One moment if you don't take care,

You'll be dead.

The exit is wide open.

Your whole life is to somehow not to reach the exit.

Isn't it so?

So it is not a trap.

It is just that if you think that your acts are all real,

Then it feels like a trap.

Whatever you think,

Feel and do is your act.

Isn't it so?

Yes or no?

When you do not realize it's your act,

You think it's God given instructions.

You'll start hearing voices.

When you hear voices,

It's very clear you need treatment.

So if you ask this one,

This wants to be as pleasant as possible,

Isn't it?

Yes?

You want to know the highest state of pleasantness,

Isn't it so?

So who is stopping you?

No,

But they're doing this.

They're doing what they like.

You be the way you want to be.

If you establish your way of being,

Then whatever you do is just a question of the situation.

Depending on what kind of situations when they exist,

Accordingly we act.

No,

No,

I want to do my own thing.

There is no your own thing.

No,

I want to become IIT professional.

There's no such damn thing.

Because you're born today in India,

You are thinking of IIT professional.

Suppose you were born here thousand years ago,

You would be thinking of fishing in the sea.

Yes or no?

Action is as the situation demands and offers,

Isn't it?

How to be is yours.

If you've decided how to be,

Be that way.

Don't action as it is necessary.

Meet your Teacher

Sadhguru JaggiMcMinnville, TN, USA

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Recent Reviews

Richard

November 19, 2024

Love it!

missy

August 30, 2022

Thanks for making it easy to understand in such a lighthearted way❣️

Donna

August 24, 2022

Listening to you is spiritual calisthenics! You’re a wild man! Thank you!!

Nancy

February 1, 2022

I know I really like what you are presenting. This is my first time listening to you and the accent is difficult for me to understand often. I will be tuning in Austin to you and gain better understanding. Thank you for your humor.

Ahimsa

November 27, 2021

Truth revealed by Sadhguru! www.gratefulness.org, ahimsa

Caitlin

September 5, 2021

I love you! These talks make me so spiritual and really really open my eyes to life

Cindy

August 26, 2020

Love this talk! Excellent insight to the human condition and TRUTH!

Charmaine

April 4, 2020

Real talk. NamesteπŸ™

paul

October 9, 2019

Love the humor in Sadhguru's life lessons. Wonderfully direct and freeing!!

Kasey

July 17, 2019

Amazing. What a glorious attitude. My new attitude from this day forth. πŸ’–πŸŒ±πŸ˜πŸ‘Blessings Always Kasey πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’“

Fawn

May 25, 2019

Straightforward and straight-up funny. Freedom goes both ways. This was great!

Beth

May 15, 2019

Part guru. Part stand up comic. I love him!

Cuqui

January 14, 2019

All you want to be is joyful πŸ˜€ And act consciously as the situation demands. Great laugh and wisdom !

Connie

August 16, 2018

This is so funny, but so true. I started my day with a smile. πŸ˜ƒβ€οΈ

Kathy

August 3, 2018

Love listening to this talk. Humor and poignant, sets the mind for a great day!

Kristine

June 26, 2018

Makes sense about ourselves without going too deep

Adam

June 11, 2018

Listen to one of his talks everyday and love it. This is my favorite.

Charlotte

June 7, 2018

β€œDecide how you want to be then take the action that supports your decision. β€œ

Sharon

June 6, 2018

Wonderful wisdom always! Thank you! πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»β€οΈ

Maureen

June 5, 2018

I listen to this man everyday ...

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