Today I want to share with you something about self-love and connections.
We are social beings.
We connect to each other.
However,
Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one.
We may have doubts for many reasons and sometimes doubting on its own is a major indicator that it may not be a good idea to keep on going with a particular connection.
Other times,
Doubting is just an indicator that we have issues to address that may or may not be solved out in order to improve the relationship.
In any case,
There is one thing that clarifies any doubt and any issue about any relationship.
It is very simple and we can feel it right away in our heart.
That thing is self-love.
If we ever have to choose between loving someone and loving ourselves,
Then we have the answer right away in what concerns to a particular connection.
There is no relationship in this world that will ever be good enough or enough healthy if we have to lower our vibration,
If we have to put ourselves down,
If we have to love ourselves less in order to be with someone.
It is never a good idea to settle for less.
And in order to put this into practice,
We have to have our priorities well defined and we have to be very clear in what comes to what we want to manifest in our lives.
Interactions happen every day,
All the time.
And we all know that forgiving and letting go is something that is part of all of them because we are human beings and human beings are not always conscious of their own choices.
But going against our integrity,
Our values,
Our priorities,
Our dreams shouldn't be part of any connection because this means that we are giving up on ourselves in favor of someone else.
Assuming that the relationship is between two people and that the other person is focused on themselves,
This means that the two people are loving and prioritizing only one of them,
Which is completely unbalanced.
Sooner or later,
We will feel depleted and lost in the other person's energy without knowing anymore who we were and who we are in the first place.
Some connections require too much effort and consequent resistance in order to happen.
And life is supposed to be easy.
We are supposed to be happy and joyful,
Not stressed about relationships that have the potential to ruin our lives.
Healthy connections feel good,
Feel easy,
Feel free.
They can have their own challenges,
Of course,
But at the core,
They are supported by love and compassion and friendship and understanding and care.
They are based on giving and receiving,
On respecting one another,
On moving towards the same direction,
On embracing any challenge together,
Not against each other or in favor of one in particular.
They are inspiring because both people love themselves and so they bring their own inner inspiration to the connection,
Which creates a solid foundation for success at all levels.
In healthy connections,
There is no need for permission to love ourselves in any way.
We just do it naturally.
We shouldn't have to choose between loving ourselves and another person,
Even because,
In fact,
Loving ourselves is required to love others as well,
Or we won't be able to love from a place of love.
Instead,
We will be loving from a place of lack and fear,
Which would be translated by neediness,
Guilt,
Fear of abandonment,
Fear of rejection,
Jealousy,
And so on.
So today,
Let's make sure that we love ourselves first.
Let's love ourselves so much that we feel complete on our own.
And from this state of self-love,
Self-worth,
Self-value,
We love others.
Then whatever connection falls apart or disappears from our life,
It's okay.
It only means that it wasn't serving our highest good anyway.
It means that now we have created the space that is needed to attract a connection that serves us more,
One that is not about fear,
One that is all about true love.
