Welcome,
And thank you for being here today.
My name is Gabriella,
And this is a series of talks on love and relationships.
And in this particular talk,
We're going to explore a pattern so many of us know well,
Accepting crumbs in love and learning how to step into the fullness of reciprocity.
If you've ever felt like you were giving your heart,
Your time,
Your energy,
And in return,
You only received fragments,
Inconsistency or half-hearted connection,
You are not alone.
This talk is about reclaiming your worth and opening to relationships where giving and receiving flow more naturally.
Often we accept crumbs not because we don't know what we want,
But because deep down we believe it's all that's available.
It might show up as inconsistent communication,
Partners who only show up when it suits them,
Or friendships where you have to do the heavy lifting,
Or being the people-pleaser in family dynamics.
And yet,
We often stay.
And why is this?
Because crumbs can trick us into feeling full for a moment.
They mirror old wounds,
Perhaps time when our needs were minimised,
Or when love felt conditional in our early years.
The first step is simply noticing,
Where in my life am I accepting less than I deserve?
Where am I settling for crumbs instead of nourishment?
Take a deep breath here.
And just let one situation rise to the surface.
Reciprocity is about balance,
Flow,
Mutuality.
It doesn't mean everything is always 50-50,
Therefore,
But it does mean there's a natural rhythm of giving and receiving where you feel seen,
Respected and nourished.
To invite reciprocity,
We need two things,
Clarity and courage.
Clarity to know what we want and what feels aligned,
And courage to speak it and to walk away when it isn't met.
Reciprocity is also about trusting that you don't have to chase or convince anyone.
The right connections want to meet you,
Want to give to you,
Want to build with you.
Here's a reflection.
Imagine what it would feel like if someone consistently showed up for you,
Valued your time,
Cherished your presence.
Feel that in your body.
Notice how different it is from chasing crumbs,
The anxiety that that can bring.
I'd like to invite you into a short practice with me,
Placing a hand over your heart and taking a slow breath in and out.
Now,
Repeating silently to yourself,
I am worthy of love that is consistent.
I am worthy of love that is mutual.
I am worthy of love that flows with ease.
Let these words sink into your body.
Feel your chest expand,
Your shoulders soften,
Your whole being receiving these truths.
If it feels good,
Imagine a golden light around your heart,
A light that magnetizes the kind of connection that honors and uplifts you.
As we close,
Remember this.
Settling for crumbs is no longer your story.
You are learning to hold your standard with love,
To honor your own worth and to welcome relationships that mirror that back to you.
Reciprocity is not too much to ask for.
It is the natural rhythm of true love and friendship.
Thank you for joining me in this reflection today.
May you carry the affirmation with you.
I'm no longer accepting crumbs.
I open to love that is whole,
Nourishing and true.
And now,
Take one more deep breath,
And gently return to your day.
