I don't see that we actually change things.
I see that the more we understand things,
Then things change.
I can see instances in where I've tried to force change.
That hasn't worked out very well.
But I see the more I understand things.
In a way it returns things to a natural harmony.
Which is the change I'm actually looking for.
It's kind of like.
.
.
Changing behavior.
It can be extraordinarily difficult,
If not impossible.
To just.
.
.
Change behavior.
But the more you understand that behavior,
Or why certain patterns are happening.
You start to see that they don't need to happen anymore.
And to see that they don't need to happen anymore.
It's kind of like seeing,
Oh.
This truly isn't working.
And here's why,
And here's the consequence.
Here's an alternative.
Do you see the nature of understanding is what makes room for it to change?
And so often.
These things that we want to change.
Are really a byproduct of self-judgment.
Like related to negative behaviors or patterns.
The things that make them possible are self-judgment.
And because we judge ourselves,
We want to change them.
But the reason we want to change them is to get away from the self-judgment.
So we're using self-judgment to get away from self-judgment?
Which is just adding more self-judgment.
And so.
.
.
If the real desire.
Is less self-judgment.
Then it's almost like.
.
.
We have to just let those things be what they are right now.
Which is.
.
.
Almost like a version of self-compassion.
And humility.
You know what it's kind of like?
You can have.
.
.
Like a deeply personal struggle.
That you're embarrassed about.
But then when you.
.
.
Start to see that it's just okay,
Right?
Like it's just,
It's a human thing and it's just okay.
You start to see that you don't have to judge yourself so much and you can just relax.
And that's what makes space for us to see things more deeply.
And then it changes.
But it's scary because.
.
.
It's a surrendering of control.
And if you really think the problem.
.
.
Is the thing on the outside,
Like the behavior or the pattern.
It's like blaming it for why you suffer.
Then you don't wanna let go of control.
Because you blame it.
You are determined to have control over it.
But the more you see that that's not the real issue.
Then we can release that grip a little bit and just let it be for a moment.
It's almost like saying.
We're so arrogant.
And because we're so arrogant.
We hide from.
The humility.
Doesn't want us to just be like everyone else.
We want to be better than others,
So we pretend to not have certain struggles.
Which is to.
.
.
Hide from the truth of what is.
To hold on to an image of ourselves.
That's arrogance.
And it's actually humility,
Which is the truth of things.
You're just a human being like everyone else.
That makes space for those things to change.
Which is also fascinating to see because the reflection of that problematic pattern or behavior.
Is inviting you back to the truth of things.
Which is a deeper humility.
As the doorway to set you free from that thing.
But we're stubborn.
But I think it's interesting too,
Because.
Regardless of what degree of arrogance might be there.
I would suggest that.
What we really crave is humility.
Like we really wish we could take off the facade of arrogance.
And just be.
Like we wish it was okay that I just am as I am.
I wish I didn't need to pretend to be better.
I wish it was okay for me to just be human.
