Hi.
This tapping is for people who find it hard to ask for help.
Maybe you've learnt that it's not safe to ask for help.
We're going to start with some of the feelings that lie behind this pattern and then open up to change.
So we start tapping on the side of the hand.
Repeat after me,
Either out loud or in your mind.
And as always,
If anything I say doesn't fit,
Please substitute it with your own feelings,
Words and emotions.
Even though it doesn't feel safe to ask for help.
Maybe I was bullied when I asked for help so I stopped asking.
I'm safe here and now and I accept all of my feelings.
Still on the side of the hand.
And even though I don't ask for help now,
Because I learned how to do it on my own,
I'm open to the possibility that I might be able to change this.
Even though I learned it wasn't safe to ask for help,
It wasn't worth asking for help.
I have compassion for myself and I'm open to finding a new way.
On the eyebrow.
I did ask for help and I was bullied.
Side of the eye.
I asked for help and I was gaslit.
Under the eye.
I asked for help and I cried when I didn't get it.
Under the nose.
I asked for help and I didn't get it so I stopped asking.
Chin.
I learned it wasn't safe to ask for help.
Collarbone.
And I just learned how to do everything myself.
Under the arm.
And I told myself I was powerful because I could do it.
Top of the head.
I told myself I didn't need help.
Eyebrow.
I told myself this was independence.
Side of the eye.
Secretly I was crying inside.
Under the eye.
I wanted to be helped but I couldn't ask.
Under the nose.
And that became normal.
Under the mouth.
No wonder I struggle to ask for help now.
Collarbone.
No wonder it doesn't feel safe to ask for help.
Under the arm.
I am honouring all of my feelings and I am safe right here and now.
Top of the head.
I am acknowledging this feeling that it is not safe to ask for help.
Now going back to the side of the hand,
We'll do a new setup statement.
Even though it hasn't felt safe to ask for help,
I'm open to the possibility that I can change this.
And even though I find it hard to ask for help,
It might be safe to begin to.
And even though it feels normal to not ask for help,
Maybe I could try a new way.
Eyebrow.
It wasn't safe to ask for help.
Side of the eye.
Because I was bullied and I didn't get the help I needed.
Under the eye.
That should never have happened.
Under the nose.
What if I could change this?
Under the mouth.
I learned that it wasn't safe to ask for help.
Collarbone.
What if I could take everything that I have been through and transmute it into my own empowerment?
Under the arm.
Maybe that doesn't feel safe.
Top of the head.
I could just start a little bit at a time.
Eyebrow.
I begin with releasing some of this fear of asking for help.
Side of the eye.
I thank my body for holding onto this to keep me safe.
Under the eye.
But this is no longer serving me and I choose to release it.
Top of the head.
Under the nose.
Releasing this fear from my mind.
Chin.
Releasing it from my heart.
Collarbone.
Releasing this fear from my energy field.
Top of the head.
Releasing this fear of asking for help from every cell in my body.
Eyebrow.
Releasing it from my past,
My present and my future.
Side of the eye.
I deserve to be helped.
Under the eye.
I wonder what it would be like to be able to ask for help and feel safe.
Under the nose.
Maybe it's safe to begin.
Chin.
I'm letting my body know that it is safe for me to begin to ask for help.
Collarbone.
I'm open to new possibilities,
Asking for and receiving help.
Under the arm.
I am worthy of being helped and I choose now to ask when I need help.
Top of the head.
And I am grateful for allowing myself to try.
So just take a nice deep breath here.
And as you let it out,
Maybe close your eyes.
And can you picture yourself in a situation where you ask for help from somebody?
And just sit with that for a moment.
Feel what it's like.
And if it still doesn't feel comfortable,
You can repeat this tapping.
If it does feel comfortable,
Build on that picture.
Really start tuning into the feeling of being able to ask for help.
And good luck.
And thank you for tapping with me.
Sending you lots of love.
