If you have a tendency towards perfectionism,
You may find it hard to make a decision.
You find yourself flitting between all possible options,
Trying to decipher which one would be the perfect choice.
There is one sure-fire way to make sure you always make the right choice,
And it is to decide that it is.
Look at your options and pick one,
And whichever one you choose,
Decide that this is the right one.
Because underneath all the procrastination,
There is a belief that we could get it all wrong,
That we are going to make the incorrect choice and be doomed to live with the failure of it forevermore.
But guess who decided that there is such a thing as a right choice?
You.
It was you that decided these arbitrary lines.
Who even knows what a right decision is as opposed to the wrong one?
It will be you that will have created a complex labyrinth of reasons as to what composes a right decision and a wrong one.
The good news is that what you made up in your mind about the perfect choice is made up,
And secondly,
You can just as easily begin to adopt the attitude that whatever decision you take is the right one for you.
Because the truth is,
We don't know either way.
We make the choice and we live in the experience of it,
And only after we have lived it do we attach a narrative to it.
It's always a retrospective of what occurred measured against the backdrop of our expectation,
And either way we learn something from the experience whatever the outcome.
When it comes to the notion of putting pressure on ourselves to pick the right one in whatever area of our lives,
We have a tendency to use all-or-nothing thinking.
It all needs to work out perfectly or it will all be a disaster of cataclysmic proportions,
None of which is true.
There is no ideal outcome or complete write-off.
There are nuances of it all scattered throughout our choices,
And it's important for us to bear in mind that we are the ones that are evaluating our decisions and then labeling them.
I have made so many bad choices and yet every single one of them has a thread in the next decision I made or in how I learned something new and developed my skills.
No decision has ever been final and then ruined all my other choices or my whole life.
They may have impacted me momentarily as an unwelcome experience,
But that was it.
When we take the pressure off and we allow ourselves to trust and decide that what we have chosen is the right choice we've made,
And we also remember that no one choice is bound to you for the rest of your life,
Then you can free yourself up to make choices more easily and not be so afraid of it being the incorrect one.
Life gives us the grace of a new day and a chance to choose again in every moment.
We can drop the idea of perfectionism and instead decide to have the freedom to make choices and know that you have a lifetime of opportunity to choose over and over again.
