Own Your Voice & Trust: Healing The Father Wound

If you have ever felt pulled in a dozen directions between your clients,

Your team or your family,

If the noise of advice,

Opinions and expectations sometimes drowns out your own voice,

Just know that you're not alone and you don't need to keep overriding your truth just to keep it all together.

This meditation was designed for you as an invitation to come back to your inner authority.

That grounded,

Quiet confidence within you that says,

I know,

I trust myself,

I've got this.

So let's begin.

Find a comfortable seated position.

Let your spine be upright,

Not uptight,

And take a deep breath in and slowly exhale.

Again.

Breathing in.

Keep on doing this in your own rhythm now for six more times and with each breath allow your body and mind to arrive and settle into this present moment.

And as you continue to breathe in and out slowly and calmly,

I want to speak to something deeper.

Some of the challenges you carry didn't start with you.

Patterns from past generations,

Emotional,

Relational,

Even physical,

Can echo through our lives as what Bert Hellinger coined entanglements.

They are like inherited blueprints passed down from our ancestors,

Shaping how we show up,

Lead,

Relate,

And trust ourselves.

And often at the root of this blueprint is a wound in the masculine.

Not just the man in our lives,

But the masculine energy of clarity,

Structure,

Guidance,

Direction,

And protection.

We all carry both masculine and feminine energy inside of us.

And when masculine energy is absent or wounded,

We doubt.

We are swayed and search outside ourselves for answers that actually live within.

Without a strong inner authority,

You might find yourself easily influenced by charismatic figures without critically evaluating their ideas.

Or you're susceptible to external pressures or struggle to follow through on the boundaries you set.

It can leave you feeling unanchored,

Doubtful of your own judgment,

Or unsure where your truth begins.

Remember,

This isn't about placing blame.

It's about healing and reclaiming that part of you for yourself,

Your future,

And that of generations to come.

So let's take another deep breath together,

Slowly in and out.

And if your inner knowing is ready to guide you deeper,

I want you now to softly nod with your head.

Beautiful.

And now bring to mind one situation in your life right now where you feel your inner authority is a bit shaky.

Maybe it's a decision in your business or career,

A boundary in a relationship,

Or something you've been overthinking because too many options pulled you in different directions.

Don't overthink it.

Just trust the first thought,

Memory,

Or image that arises.

Let it be present in your awareness as we move forward.

Imagine now a movie screen at the back of your mind.

And on that movie screen you see yourself as you're walking in a peaceful forest clearing.

You feel your feet firmly on the ground and you hear the gentle breeze of this warm summer night.

And as you keep walking toward the horizon,

Breathing calmly in and out,

You notice your father or that person in your family which represents the masculine energy in your life standing in front of you now.

Feel,

Hear,

Or see how you're looking into their eyes now.

And as you do,

I want you to think about your father or that person representing the masculine energy in your life.

What thoughts,

Images,

Or memories come up?

Simply let them be there now.

And if emotions like anger,

Sadness,

Hurt,

Disappointment,

Or grief arise,

Simply allow them to be there.

It's okay.

It's safe for you to feel them now.

And I want you to take this opportunity to tell your father now what you would have liked to tell him out loud but you couldn't.

And now,

Let him respond.

Let him say the words that your heart so deeply craved to hear.

Maybe it's something like,

I'm always here for you,

My child.

I will protect you.

You are important to me.

You're beautiful.

You are your biggest authority.

Allow your wisdom to lead the way.

I love you.

And as you continue looking at your father,

Imagine your grandfather and all the men before them.

Up to six generations appear behind them.

Some faces may be clear.

Others may be silhouettes.

Each of them carry their own story,

Struggle,

And strength.

These are the warriors of your lineage.

The ones who survived.

And no matter how painful your relationship with them might have been,

It is thanks to them that you are here.

Allow yourself to inhale and exhale this gently.

And as you're looking at these seven men from your lineage,

See a dark ball of energy emerge from each of their chests,

Hovering above their heads.

These represent their pain,

Mistakes,

And burdens.

Everything that they now feel deeply sorry for.

They did the best.

Just like you,

They did the best.

Just like you,

They did the best they could with the awareness and tools they had.

And while you're letting this sink in,

Deep inside your skin,

Picture your father reaching out to you now,

Offering his hand in forgiveness.

And if you're ready,

Or even if you simply have the intention to be ready in the future,

Join hands with him now.

And notice how the moment you do,

These seven dark balls of energy float up into the sky,

Towards the stars,

Into the universe where their energy is transformed into light and unconditional love.

And now,

Through the power of your subconscious mind,

Imagine how you are redirecting these seven balls of light to collect the energy qualities and characteristics that you choose to reclaim for yourself and for all future generations.

See,

Feel,

Or hear each of these seven balls absorb clear-grounded decision-making,

The courage to speak your truth even when it's uncomfortable,

Unshakable emotional stability,

Calm,

Confident leadership,

Healthy boundaries that you're holding with grace,

Inner safety that doesn't waver,

And a deep self-trust and inner authority.

Let these qualities now flow into the light of each ball like codes being rewritten in the blueprint of your lineage.

And as this process is taking place,

Now see,

Feel,

Or simply know that these seven balls of light begin to move one by one,

Returning into the hearts of the men standing before you now.

And as they receive this light,

Feel,

See,

Or just know a shift taking place in your heart while you watch each man place his hands on the shoulder of the one before him.

This acts as a signal,

A symbol of support,

Of transmission,

Of connection,

And notice that you're the one standing at the front and you're feeling the ripple of strength move through them from your father into you.

A surge of protection,

Presence,

And peace,

A deep grounded knowing that you are not alone,

You are supported,

You are loved,

You are guided.

Now,

Visualize how you're turning your back to them,

Standing tall and steady,

Ready for your final trust fall,

A trust fall that reunites your lineage and allows you to walk through your life as if a thousand ancestors stood behind you.

Imagine now how you're letting yourself fall,

Being caught by them in three,

Two,

One,

Trust fall.

Sense how the hands that once felt absent are here now,

Steady,

Strong,

Holding you,

Supporting you,

And feel the energy of protection,

Direction,

And clarity flowing through you now,

And simply allow yourself to rest in this moment and let your body,

Your nervous system,

Receive what it never got before.

This is your body remembering that you are safe,

You are supported,

And you can trust yourself fully.

And as you rest in their strength,

Feel here how your own voice is getting clearer,

And see the confidence in your decisions grow,

Feel your ability to evaluate,

To discern what's yours and what's not become unshakable,

And now I want you to imagine that these men,

Your father,

Grandfather,

And the five generations behind them,

Whispering to you with a quiet power,

Trust yourself,

Trust yourself,

Your voice matters,

You are protected,

We are with you,

We believe in you,

We are proud of you,

We have always been,

You are held,

And you are your own greatest authority.

And now allow these words to settle deeply into every fiber of your being,

Let them become your new baseline,

You are the one who leads boldly,

From presence,

From truth,

From your inner authority.

And as we're closing down this process now,

Turn around to face them,

Look them into the eyes and thank them,

One by one,

And thank yourself for being the one to break the cycle.

Breathing deeply in and out,

I want you to bring that same situation from the beginning back to your awareness,

That place where your inner authority once felt shaky,

And notice what's different now.

Is there more clarity,

More calm,

More direction?

Keep on breathing in your own rhythm,

Calmly in and out,

And allow your nervous system to feel the contrast between who you were and who you are now.

You have chosen to lead in a new way,

Grounded,

Certain,

And unapologetically you.

Take one final deep breath in,

And slowly exhale.

Start wiggling your toes and fingers,

And in your own time,

Open your eyes,

Come back to the space around you,

And as you do,

Know you carry this truth inside of you.

You are deeply supported,

You are divinely guided,

And your inner authority is the one that matters.

Namaste.