Namaste my brothers and sisters.
I am your brother Cosmic,
Also known as now Simply Cosmic.
I changed my name from Mystic Tenet to Simply Cosmic because I just want to get rid of my human ego and my name.
I feel Simply Cosmic is something that I resonate with.
Today we're going to talk about something that many people have a hard time doing.
And I recently got a message from one of my viewers on Twitch.
Tv.
If you want to check me out,
I'm on Twitch.
Tv slash Cosmic underscore Unwind.
Cosmic underscore Unwind.
And I teach people meditation.
It's an online community that invites people to explore themselves,
Their sound healing.
I om,
I chant,
I do some throat singing.
I read Zen koan,
I do whatever it takes to help people connect with themselves.
Well,
Recently a viewer sent me a message,
A private message with a frustration that I didn't understand what he was going through and that our slogan or our theme,
Our slogan of Cosmic Unwind is,
Love Yo Damn Self.
And this mystic,
And we call each other mystics in this stream,
This mystic simply had no idea how to love himself.
He's in circumstances that he's in a physical pain and he's having a hard time thinking that I don't understand what it's like to be in pain and allowing the circumstances to dictate his life.
And the talk today will be about five practical ways to love your damn self.
And this talk will be focusing on many brothers and sisters,
Many other mystics and people who are beginning their self-loving journey or journey of self-realization,
Journey of self-love.
Because in the beginning we don't even realize we have this thing called quote,
The heart.
And oftentimes our mind is closed so our heart is going to be closed.
It's hard to get to the heart if your mind is not even open to learning.
And some people simply just don't know how to love themselves.
It's clueless,
Right?
We're clueless,
Especially when I first started.
When I first started my journey,
I didn't even know what I was grateful for.
I found a question,
What's something you're grateful for?
I couldn't think of one thing I was grateful for.
That's how bad it was.
But something else happened anyways.
And simply the main issue is that when we're in a victim consciousness,
We don't know how to take responsibility for our happiness.
So the victim consciousness blames,
It points fingers,
It doesn't want to take responsibility,
It doesn't like being wrong,
Right?
And it's a victim of the situation and feels like everything that needs to be fixed is outside of them.
But as we know as practitioners,
All the issues come from our ego,
The mind,
And all the solutions are from within,
Which is our heart.
But now for you to actually love your damn self,
You have to have a genuine desire to feel love.
If you don't actually want or desire to be happy enough,
You won't make the effort to open your mind.
You won't make the effort to connect with yourself if you don't actually want to be happy enough.
Just because people tell you to love your damn self,
If you don't actually have the desire to feel love enough,
You'll keep playing the victim,
You'll keep blaming your parents,
You'll keep blaming society,
You'll keep blaming your circumstances,
Your skin color,
Your height,
Whatever you want to blame.
If you don't want to be happy enough,
You'll keep playing that victim because you're not ready to open,
To change your life.
That if you're not willing to make the change,
Of course you're going to stay the same.
So let's go to five ways to practically,
Or five practical ways to love yourself.
Okay,
Here we go.
Number one,
Follow what feels good.
Do more of what you genuinely feel good doing instead of what you think feels good.
Do more of what actually genuinely feels good instead of what you think feels good.
Because love is a genuine feeling.
When you go shopping,
It feels good,
But it doesn't last forever.
Excuse the background.
We've got happiness in the background.
When we follow things like drugs,
It feels good for many people to smoke mother cannabis or to do ecstasy or to get high of whatever.
It feels good,
But is it genuine?
Because getting high,
Some people say getting high feels great,
But why is it not genuine?
Because it's something outside of you.
It's something outside of you.
I also didn't know that either in the beginning.
When we have to chase things,
When we get high,
There's going to be a low.
When you get high on weed,
You're going to come down and be sober.
Then you're going to want to get high again and down,
Up,
Down,
Up,
Down.
When you go shopping,
You've got the new purse,
You've got the new shoes,
You've got the new video game.
And then when you stop playing the video game,
You get a low.
When you get a low,
You feel like something is missing.
But the truth is that you're looking for something you already had.
Here's my story.
In the beginning of my,
In let's say the first year of,
Or first couple years of my realization that happiness is what I desire,
I went out looking to do all the things that I enjoyed.
I wanted to follow the things that made me feel good.
So I went out for like on a six,
Let's just say a four month experience.
I went go-karting because go-karting brings me this excitement and joy.
So I went go-karting on twice a week,
Because I had the funds at that time.
Twice a week and it's electric go-kart and it brought me excitement.
I went out eating ice cream because you know what?
I freaking love ice cream,
Right?
And I went out eating seafood,
Right?
Oysters and fried shrimp and all this because I enjoy seafood.
I went out eating steak because I enjoy eating,
So I did whatever brought me joy.
Well,
I'm vegetarian now.
I did whatever brought me joy.
And I did these things and I'm like,
My life is feeling great.
I love it.
I'm go-karting.
I have a job and then I,
This job allows me to have fun.
This job allows me to go go-karting,
Eat ice cream,
Go out and eat nice things.
And on the way to go-karting one day,
I sit in my car and contemplate.
Do I need the go-kart to feel happy?
Do I need to eat the ice cream to feel joy?
Do I need to eat the seafood and steak to feel this love that I'm feeling?
Because as I was thinking about go-karting,
I felt the excitement.
As I was thinking of enjoying the steak,
It felt good inside already.
And then I asked the question,
Where does this thing called love come from?
And that's when I realized I didn't need to do anything outside of me,
That this energy of love was something already within me,
That I could just feel it if I believe in it.
And yes,
Those things inspire me,
But the source of the feeling comes from within.
Not the drugs.
And I did drugs in the past,
Right?
Not the addicting chicken wings,
Right?
I was so addicted to eating a ton of wings.
It's okay to have everything,
But you have to have moderation.
You have to be aware that when are you addicted?
Because some people smoke weed every day,
I am totally not addicted.
But it's up to you what your definition is.
But let's not go there right now.
Being yourself is something,
The feeling comes from inside,
It feels good.
So you're going to do what feels good just so you can realize that that feeling comes from within.
Most people don't know where the love comes from.
They think it's inside of the money.
They think it's in F-E-X.
They think it's in a girl or a guy.
They think it's in marriage,
But the truth?
The love is inside,
But for you to realize that,
You have to go out and enjoy your life.
Number two.
Meditation.
You're on Insight Timer,
You're listening to me.
Most of you know meditation.
Helps you feel more of who you are.
Meditation being present and mindfulness.
Why is meditation such an important part of somebody's who genuinely,
Someone who's genuinely happy's life,
Right?
When someone is genuinely happy,
Meditation is a key part of their life.
Why?
Because meditation allows us to be more present with where we are,
Who we are,
And why we are.
Because often times,
We wake up one day and we start it on the phone.
We're disconnected already.
We don't see that we are alive today.
We don't hear the birds.
We don't hear the white noise of the city.
We don't see the cat laying on the ground.
We don't see the peacock.
We don't see the beautiful environment.
What meditation does,
It allows us to be less in our mind.
Our mind is what disconnects us from feeling the love that's inside.
Because it's a feeling.
It's less thinking and more feeling.
And that being present throughout the day,
Being present throughout the day allows us to see and live our life in the moment.
Not in our head,
Worrying,
Doubting,
Thinking,
Worrying about the past,
Worrying about what other people think,
Worrying about what people judge them about,
Worrying about money,
Worrying about.
.
.
Yes,
The thing is,
You could be concerned about those things,
But worrying doesn't make things any better.
So meditation reminds us,
Don't worry about a thing,
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright.
Breathing in,
Slowly out.
And when we become mindful,
When we walk,
When we talk,
Our life becomes more gentle.
We can feel the wind grazing on our skin.
We feel more alive.
And what's funny is that to be mindful is to be less mind.
That's the beautiful part about that.
When you're full,
You have less of the mind.
But they use the word mindful because that's the word we have chosen.
Okay number three.
Third way to practically love yourself is,
Be more grateful for little things,
The big things,
And all the things in your damn life.
It's a simple one.
But it's a simple one that you could do right now.
I used to not be grateful for my life and I didn't know that because I was not grateful,
My life was terrible.
I wasn't grateful for simply being alive.
I wasn't grateful that I had a house to live in,
That I had food,
That I had water,
That I had clothes.
I wasn't grateful that I woke up every day until this day.
I wasn't grateful that I had warm water in my house.
I wasn't grateful for my pinky,
My hand,
That we have so much.
And that when we're not grateful,
We're always looking for more.
And more is in the head because when you're in the now,
You say thank you for my life.
I realized that the love that I was looking for is here now,
Right in the reflection of the water,
Right in the reflection of the voices,
The sound of beauty,
That I'm simply grateful for my life because I love being happy as the turtles jump into the water.
And I recommend this practice highly if you want to love yourself more.
Wake up and say thank you for my life.
I know that I'm not here to be perfect.
I'm simply here to do my best to feel joy.
And when I don't feel joy,
I just start thanking the red cardinal that has landed on a branch.
I thank you for the kitty cat on this red bridge that I'm standing on at the meditation center.
I thank you for the turtle that's staring at me.
Speak about loving your damn self.
And I'm simply grateful for this moment because I see the wind moving the branches of the trees beautifully.
And when I breathe,
I feel alive.
I feel this monarch butterfly flying down just to realize how grateful and blessed life really is just by standing here.
I love my damn self.
Number four to five ways to practice five practical ways to love yourself.
Number four,
Unconditional giving,
Charity,
Law of attraction and cause and effect.
Most people are about receiving love.
They want that girl,
They want that guy,
They want to get that girl,
They want to get something to be happy.
They want something to be happy.
But when we give from our heart,
When we give people something without needing things in return,
When we give,
Like the law of cause and effect is that when you throw it up,
It comes down.
When you give,
Guess what happens?
You receive.
But if you're waiting to receive,
You got to give first.
Realize that.
And that is to yourself first.
You have to learn to give to yourself.
Give yourself love by being more present.
But the charity I'm talking about is that doing things because you simply understand love,
That I'm speaking on the microphone now,
Talking about loving yourself,
Because I know what it's like to not have an idea of how to love myself.
No idea of what it's like to feel good.
Didn't know I could open my mind and that I'm simply on here as simply cosmic because I know what it's like to just be sad,
To be lonely,
And that I'm giving you unconditionally here because I love spreading the light.
And because the moment you spread and give,
You're instantly receiving because it feels so good to give from the heart.
Giving because you just love the world.
Giving because you know what it's like to suffer.
Giving because you have compassion and that compassion is understanding people's suffering,
That you suffered before and you know that you've been a receiver before.
You're just so much into receiving that you didn't receive anything because you had to give first is what you realize now.
Because when the law of attraction,
Right,
Law of attraction,
If you're just wanting to receive,
The universe brings you other people who want to receive too because that's law of attraction,
Right?
If you're a magnet in your heart,
You're like,
Okay,
I want,
I want,
I want,
You're going to attract other people that want,
Want,
Want.
So you'll just be around a bunch of rocks and walls who just want,
Want,
Want love,
Want sex,
Want love,
Want sex,
Want money.
But no one's actually giving because that person needs to be you first.
If you actually want to receive,
Give from the heart and the universe.
And I want to say don't give to get.
Give because you know what?
And we're not saying it's about money.
You can give somebody a hug.
Don't give somebody a hug so that you can get them in bed.
Give somebody a hug because you just love them,
Right?
Don't give somebody money just so you can get something from them and manipulate them.
Give them money because you believe in what they're doing but also have boundaries.
Which brings us to number five of five practical ways to love your damn self.
Setting clear boundaries on many levels.
You know those people that just come to you for money?
Your friend,
Your acquaintances,
They just come to you for money.
They just come to you when they need a ride.
They come to you when they need a resource.
They come to you,
They think of you when they're in trouble.
And when you talk to them,
They drain the heck out of you.
Setting clear boundaries helps you to feel more love because you don't let people abuse you unknowingly.
Because these people that are asking you for money,
For rides,
For sex or whatever,
Whatever it is,
Don't let people abuse you because when you let people do that to you,
Like you know I love and care about them but deep down they drain the heck out of you.
Imagine a friend who only talks about negative things towards you.
Negative will create more negative.
So if you have a bunch of people who only come to you for help,
You're going to be drawing a bunch of negative energy and then you're going to be really drained but that's part of the beginning of a healer,
The beginning of a teacher.
That when we set clear boundaries,
We start to see who's here to help us change the world and who's here to use us.
When we set clear boundaries,
We will filter out the people who are there because they have a big ego and then you'll find the people who are there because they really love you for who you are and you're on the same page,
On the same mission.
And when we don't let people abuse us,
We learn who the genuine people are.
The people who are there because they see someone,
They look in your eyes,
They know that you are going to change the world.
And when you look into their eyes,
You know you're going to change the world.
The people who look at you without needing something from you,
Without wanting sex from you,
They look at you and it's pure,
It's pure without attachment.
But if you don't know how to set clear boundaries,
Guys or girls will come up to you,
You'll get real touchy,
You get the number real quickly,
Then you'll have sex real quickly and then you're ending it quickly but if it doesn't end too quickly,
You just end up hooking up and then something weird happens,
Then more weird stuff happens.
So boundaries teach us that we love ourselves because it allows us to filter out all the people who aren't there to support us and to have boundaries,
We have to go through a lot of people who are there not to support us,
Who are there to use us for our money,
Our rides,
Our resources,
Our resources,
Our house,
Our car,
Our energy,
Be careful,
You heard the term,
The energy vampires,
They don't know better,
These people also don't love themselves and they don't know it but they come to you with problems because they don't know how to come to you with positivity because they don't know that love comes from within and even if they knew it,
They don't practice it.
That if you keep babying people,
Let's just say,
The word's not maybe babying,
If you keep letting people use you,
You extend their ignorance.
Instead of figuring out how to get a car on their own,
They always ask you a ride.
Instead of finding wisdom on their own,
They keep coming back to you for wisdom and it's okay to help people with wisdom but some people will come to you all the freaking time because you don't know how to teach them to figure out themselves,
You do enough to help people but don't do so much for them that they become lazy and become dependent on you,
Especially for love.
So that they can learn to love their damn selves too.
And this is the end of the five practical ways to love your damn self.
If you're interested in finding out where I live stream,
I'm on twitch.
Tv slash cosmic underscore unwind.
Cosmic underscore unwind on twitch.
Tv.
You're welcome to join part of what we engage in,
Right?
Meditation.
Meditation,
Singing bowls,
Pouring tea,
Card readings,
Whatever it takes for people to open their minds and love their selves and that this is not a religious stream,
It's a spiritual stream,
It's a loving stream.
And sometimes it's hard to find people that care but at least they're out there but you have to be there for yourself first and the universe will show you to more loving people that if you don't actually desire to be happy enough,
You won't realize that love has always been within.
Anyways thank you my brothers and sisters,
I hope you have a wonderful,
Wonderful,
Wonderful day and thank you for your love and support and you can subscribe to me and follow me on insight timer and I hope you have a wonderful day.
Thank you.
