
Tonglen: An Ancient Buddhist Practice
by Meredith Rom
This is a meditation for compassion for self and others. It is a meditation you can use throughout the day, even when you are not sitting silently.
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by Meredith Rom
This is a meditation for compassion for self and others. It is a meditation you can use throughout the day, even when you are not sitting silently.
Meet your Teacher

Sebastopol, CA, USA
Transcript
T'anglen is a practice that you can use in sitting meditation, But it's also a practice that you can use throughout your day at any time. You could be walking or in the moment of a difficult situation and just be able to do it at any time. It comes from the Buddhist philosophy and Pema Chodron is one of the biggest sharers of this practice and where I learned it from. It's based around four steps that I will walk you through and I think we'll just begin, Get right into it and I'll talk a little more. So close your eyes, Center into your breath, Relax behind your eyes, Come into contact with your body and your breath and with an inhale allow yourself to feel exactly what you are feeling. Be present with that sensation or that emotion, Whether it be exhaustion, Agitation, Grief, Or maybe it's peace or joy. Breathe it in fully. As you exhale, Breathe out a sense of spaciousness, Love, Compassion for yourself. Breathe out whatever the antidote for that emotion is, Spaciousness and compassion for yourself. So again, Breathing in exactly what you're feeling. Breathe out spaciousness and compassion for yourself. On the next inhale, Breathe in the feeling that you are not alone. Breathing in, You are not alone. Know there are so many other people in the world and maybe even with you in this moment who are experiencing or have experienced exactly what you're feeling. Breathing in, I know I am not alone. And now in the exhale, Breathe out spaciousness and compassion for all those other people, All those other people who might be experiencing difficulty in their life. And with this breath, We expand our capacity for compassion, For love. We remember all the other sentient beings in the world. We open our heart, Come into a place of love and service of all these other beings. So I'll walk you through the process once more. Breathing in, I allow myself to feel exactly what I feel. Breathing out spaciousness, Compassion for myself. Breathing in, I know I'm not alone. Breathing out spaciousness and compassion for all those other beings. It might be helpful for you to write down these four steps so that you can use it throughout your life, That it can be ingrained throughout your body. And eventually, After some time of practicing this kind of meditation, You'll be able to integrate it so easily into those times when you're feeling difficulty or overwhelm or anger. And it can actually lessen our reactivity in those situations where we might get really upset. Instead, We immediately turn to breathing in, I allow myself to feel what I'm feeling, To just notice the pure sensations rather than being attached to those emotions or the story of what is happening. And when we do that and then add in the spaciousness, The compassion, And begin to find relief, Begin to release those attachments to our emotions. And then when we come into that place of service and love, We remember we're not alone. And that is so comforting in those times when we are experiencing difficulty. I hope you enjoy this meditation and can integrate it into your life. Namaste.
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Scott
December 13, 2023
Lovely, thank you.
Francesca
April 1, 2023
Beautiful, thank you 🙏🏼✨
Julia
February 23, 2023
I learned tonglen from Pema Chodron too. It is so powerful! Thank you.
Evan
August 25, 2021
Very well-explained and will definitely be a practice I add to my daily meditation routine. Thank you so much!! Namaste 🧘🏻♂️☮️
Wynn
March 14, 2021
Beautiful and simply explained!!!
Suzanne
July 29, 2020
Thank you for this
M²
January 5, 2020
Beautiful and short. Thank you
Vanessa
June 21, 2019
Lovely thank you Meredith 🙏🏼
Stephanie
May 26, 2019
Good short instructional meditation. Thank you.
KRISTLE
December 27, 2018
Good education. Just turned on to Tonglen and will use a lot personally and professionally.
Carrie
October 30, 2018
I found this really wonderful. Could you please write out the four steps, as I was a bit unclear of them from the recording. Thank you very much.
Amber
October 12, 2018
That short practice was really profound! Thank You! 🙏🕊💖
lindajoyflower
October 9, 2018
All your meditations are really helpful. This one and the Miracle one and the Ho’oponopono (loved being reminded of this one. . Thank you so much. Many Blessings to you. Your love and compassion comes through in your voice and is inspiring me. It’s very open hearted and full of soft gentle joy and equanimity. Thanks again. xxx
Rebecca
July 31, 2018
Beautiful. So soothing and comforting. I will return to this. Thank you.
Gill
July 29, 2018
Beautiful. Namaste
James
July 24, 2018
I had been reading about Tonglen throughout my studies but never practiced. Thanks for sharing. It reminds me of the loving-kindness meditation. Instant joy
Shanna
July 4, 2018
Wonderful meditation! Perfect way to begin the day.
Dr
June 28, 2018
Self compassion meditation. Relase attachment - we are one.
DJM
June 5, 2018
Nice short intro to Tonglen. I am happy to hear it applied to what is happening now rather than necessarily on something dark or negative. Thanks!
