Hey everyone.
Today I would like to talk about codependency.
Attachments.
Suppression of the self.
And extend on validation.
And where those things show up within your mind.
Sole contract.
And the thing is that I've just mentioned.
Attachments.
Codependency.
The suppression of the self.
The O.
What's under?
Or more likely to rise.
If you have the number 17-8.
ASO contract.
Anders.
That's one of those things that,
Again,
We would.
.
.
Probably experienced.
Within our childhood.
So you may be a child listening to this.
Maybe 14 and under.
Or he may be Bernardo.
Listening to this and recognize.
Some of those words,
Or some of those feelings more likely.
You might feel something inside your stomach.
Of tightening.
Doesn't want to be seen.
Doesn't want to be admitted.
Is afraid.
And I can relate to that a lot.
As a youngster.
I was very dependent.
On my parents.
They provided everything I could have had on the surface.
I did.
A wonderful childhood.
We lived in a very comfortable house and we had our own business.
We had plenty of money.
We went all this.
And yet through no fault of their own.
My parents were suffocating me in a way.
They were.
.
.
That pretty much had them.
Told me what to do,
What to wear.
I didn't have any say in what clothes I wore.
And.
.
.
I went to an organization,
A church organization.
So you have no choice but my own.
As well.
And.
.
.
That's just,
As I said,
That's just no follow there.
And that's just something that's in our lineage.
Something is in our family.
Patterns.
A kind of karma.
There's been some suppression somewhere along the line.
And it's just been passed down from generation to generation to generation.
And it's the natural thing to do,
Isn't it,
As parents,
Is to,
This is how I was taught,
So therefore we pass that on,
And so it goes on.
That's until it got to me.
And I've taken,
I've decided to.
To make a change to that.
I've taken the decision to empower my own children.
To allow them to make their own decisions.
And it's an interesting thing to observe as well.
As much as I do my best.
And admittedly,
There are times where I slip into the old ways.
I'm evolving just as much as you are.
It's interesting to observe how they,
When they go to school,
Where it's very much a Urgh.
Authority,
You know,
Kind of authority type of thing.
Take a wee.
You do as you're told.
Rules,
Regulations,
Everything.
And they get used to someone telling them what to do.
And so when they come home.
.
.
And they ask me questions and I.
.
.
Empower them by asking them,
How do you feel about it?
What do you want to do?
What does your gut say?
What's your feeling?
What's your instinct say?
What's your intuition say?
Those type of things.
You can always see them freezing.
Panicking.
I don't know about that.
Tell me.
Tell me.
Quite often my son.
.
.
That's his response,
Just tell me.
Sometimes he screams at me.
Just tell me what to do.
Tell me what to do.
And it's that core dependency.
And I mentioned this whole contract,
The summer of 1708,
And it's all about slavery to dominion.
And you can see how those words that I'm talking about are all related to this number,
In a common sense.
Of course,
It is important to mention that the numbers,
The dynamics of the numbers change depending on where they are on your sole contract.
It may be in your spiritual goals,
For example,
As in mine,
My spiritual goals,
And it changes.
With that,
It's about learning to express the flow of my spirit in society.
This is what I'm doing with this talk.
I'm expressing my spirituality and society to you.
And I'm entrusting that it's a way that you can relate to it because it's.
.
.
It's real life stuff that I'm talking about,
I'm not talking about theory.
Or what books,
I'm talking about real life stuff,
And what your probably experience is as adults,
As children.
I understand completely.
The codependency,
I completely understand.
You know,
Again,
It's that kind of theme of.
.
.
Its children are seen as minors,
As.
.
.
Lesser in many ways and it is less than adults.
The opposite is true.
Assalamualaikum.
Children I feel I've got as much to teach us.
As we have to teach them.
Learn from.
Teaching is an interesting word,
Isn't it?
Because teaching is almost like standing up and.
.
.
Giving out lots of information.
Telling somebody something.
And it's more about showing somebody,
I feel.
It's about showing the way.
Be.
What you see.
Be what you say.
You know,
The famous phrase of actions speak louder than words.
There's no point in me sitting here.
It telling you,
You know,
It talking to you all about this.
And then doing the complete opposite with my children.
I can promise you that I do my best.
To change that.
And this.
I'm very passionate about making that change in the family dynamics because I feel that that's where we,
That's where it all begins for us all.
The end.
The learnings.
Now have my parents seen my soul contract and understood it?
And understood what fought.
I was here to do.
And learn from.
Because you know,
Within your spiritual goals,
For example,
There would be a bit of karma,
But.
.
.
If you understood that as a parent.
The dynamics completely change.
The dynamics and then my parents would be,
Okay,
Now I understand why it's important for him,
For Graeme,
To to be his own person,
To make his own decisions,
Because that's one of his goals in life.
My son has the number 16-7.
And it is a spiritual karma.
And one of those challenges is round about telling the truth.
And it's playing out exactly like that.
It's helping him.
To honour his truth and be honest with the truth,
No matter the outcome.
And it's important that this is not a light show.
It's an invitation though.
It's an invitation.
It's passing on and on.
Is its passion on.
My experiences and it's also getting the conversation going.
I see the opportunity to work with people as a partnership.
I reckon we're all partners.
We're all partners in this world.
We've all been sent here to in some way or form.
To help each other's growth.
As a song.
It's just whether we recognize that.
Or engage in that,
And that's maybe more important to say,
It's more engaging that.
And I can imagine if you're listening to this then.
You are willing to engage.
That is called bravery.
Because there's a certain vulnerability with it.
And where vulnerability becomes.
Comes wisdom.
So I am.
I applaud you.
And on behalf of I thank you.
The topic of codependency and the impact it has is a vast topic and I'll explore it more in another video.
In our talks.
But right now I just want to pick a planet.
The planet's the seed.
Of how I saw contract.
Can help.
Identify those.
Those challenges.
And it's the awareness,
I feel.
It's always awareness.
Everybody can become aware.
Then we can work with our families,
With our children.
Or their parents.
RAVAN to anchor the resentment.
The sadness.
That quite often.
Is the result.
Of the suppression of the power.
Thank you again for listening.
Sending lots of love to you and your family.
We'll speak again soon.
