Emotional resilience.
What is it and why is it important?
Emotional resilience is the capacity,
The ability,
The practice of sitting and being with.
Dense emotions.
Heavier emotions.
The key word is practice because it's a skill which we develop.
When we begin mindfulness or meditation or emotional resilience training,
Our ability to face and be with difficult emotions is usually quite low.
I was there,
Everybody's there when you begin.
It's just like any training.
It's like any muscle that you work at the gym.
It begins weak and it gets stronger as you practice regularly.
You,
As an individual,
Face many different colors and types of emotions.
On a daily basis.
There's no turning it off.
Well,
There is something that you can turn it off,
But we'll go into that in other videos.
Emotions come like a conveyor belt.
I often talk about an emotional conveyor belt,
How you have your own conveyor belt of emotions that come through you all day,
Every day.
And each emotion has a different quality to it.
Each emotion has a different density to it.
And depending on the density of this emotion,
Let's say if it's an angry emotion or stress or grief,
Heavy emotions,
Our logical thinking mind which is also called the ego.
It doesn't like these emotions.
So what it seeks to do is it seeks to push them down.
It seeks to avoid them.
It seeks to find ways to not be.
Feel and be with these emotions.
And there are many ways that we can avoid emotions.
Some people go to food.
That's what I used to do back in the day.
Some people,
Unfortunately,
Go to drugs,
Alcohol.
Some people chase social validation to avoid feeling emotions.
It doesn't really matter the type of avoidance strategy.
The key thing to know is that within you,
Within me,
Within everybody,
There is a logical mind which doesn't want to face,
Feel and make contact with.
Harder to process emotions.
It's a safety mechanism.
The egoic mind is actually trying to keep us safe from processing something difficult.
The problem is,
However,
Is that this.
.
.
Avoidance that we do,
This desire to not be with our emotions,
It leads to blockages.
If we suppress our emotions,
If we avoid them,
They are not allowed to flow through us.
And one of the primary rules of life,
You could say.
Is that emotions need to flow they need to move everything in the universe is in motion even objects which appear to be still are never actually still.
Movement and flow is one of the primary rules.
Of the cosmos of the universe.
And so,
When we cut off our emotions,
We go against Universal Law.
We block emotion.
When we block a motion,
It stays in us.
We might not be able to see it.
But it becomes blocked and this is when it actually begins to accumulate and it begins to build up like a backlog.
This is what I call the emotional backlog.
It's almost like a.
.
.
A trash can full of unprocessed,
Unseen,
Unflowing emotions,
If you can put it that way.
So what I would say is don't worry.
Congratulations that you're watching this video and becoming interested in emotional resilience.
What do you need to do?
In your life,
You need to take time regularly to consciously and willingly feel your emotions.
And generally it's easy to feel happy emotions and joyful emotions.
The real practice comes when.
.
.
Difficult emotions come to the surface.
So in your life,
I invite you to begin.
If you haven't already,
When a difficult emotion happens,
Someone at work triggers you,
Someone on the road while you're driving your vehicle triggers you,
Someone in your family annoys you or triggers you.
Try to be with that emotion within yourself.
If you can,
Take time to put yourself aside in a quiet place.
And take two or three conscious breaths and meet the emotion.
Meet it.
Feel it.
What does it feel like?
How does it express itself in you?
You can also adopt.
A conscious mindfulness routine.
That means.
.
.
Within your schedule.
You take time to meditate,
Practice mindfulness or one of the many different mindfulness meditation styles such as Vipassana,
Zen,
Loving kindness,
Transcendental meditation.
It doesn't really matter.
The key is that you're dedicating time in your life to sitting with emotions.
That's my description of emotional resilience and how you can build up your resilience over time.
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My name's Oliver Gohari.
I'm a transformational coach.
And functional wellness specialist.
And I'm looking forward to see you soon.
