Healing From Relational Conflict

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Healing From Relational Conflict

by Dr Arezou Ghane

Type

guided

Activity

Meditation

Suitable for

Everyone

Plays

2

We all experience times of conflict with loved ones. This practice is intended to help you recover and repair wounds experienced in these moments. This practice is even more powerful when shared with your loved one, which creates the conditions for "co-regulation" or shared recovery that happens when we attune with our fellow human.

Healing Relationships Co Regulation Self Inquiry Emotional Release Heart Centering Breath Awareness

Meet your Teacher

Dr Arezou Ghane

San Diego, CA, USA

Meet your Teacher

Dr Arezou Ghane

San Diego, CA, USA

Transcript

Greetings friends! This meditation is intended to support you in times of conflict to help you regulate and wind down the nervous system. This meditation can be used in partnership or practiced solo depending on the situation. Ideally if both parties are willing this can be twice as powerful and can help you move into a space of co-regulation and coherence with each other. When you're ready please find a comfortable seat. If you are practicing with a partner you can sit across from each other within arm's reach and closing down the eyes if you feel safe and comfortable doing so. If you are not practicing with a partner you may imagine them sitting across from you. As you close your eyes begin to move into the feeling of being in your body beginning to take a few deep breaths in through the nose and long generous exhales out through the mouth. Dropping in deeper and deeper with every exhale letting something go clearing the space so that you can start to feel yourself more present and alive in this moment. Just taking a few moments to breathe feeling the ground underneath you anchoring you holding you safe and secure. Doing your best to let go of any stories regarding the conflict letting go of your need to be right. Letting go of your judgment of the other. Begin to notice how your body responds as you transition with these big clearing breaths. Perhaps you notice a sense of warmth that energizes you a sense of ease washing over you giving yourself permission to move into what feels supportive for you right now and just continuing to take more and more space from the conflict. Placing a hand on your own heart asking yourself in the way that you would ask someone you truly love what is it that you most need in this moment to feel safe. Tuning in to the wisdom of your body the wisdom of your heart beginning to articulate in your mind and your consciousness the ways that you can continue to heal in this time. The actions you can take the needs that you can begin to communicate to those around you any boundaries that need to be set. Tuning in patiently without judgment. Continue to let your breath become more balanced more complete. The body to release any state of contraction any tension if needed you can give yourself a shake a tap you can brush your skin just symbolically and physically letting go of what you need to. And once you are able to sense a little more spaciousness that feeling of safety perhaps you begin to tune in to the presence literal or metaphorical of your partner. Tuning in to the sound of their breath the warmth of their presence. Tuning in to their humanity their sensitivity what it is that they may also need in order to feel safe and sensing that through your breath your shared presence you are building a bridge that connects you both that brings you back together able to see each other more clearly able to sense the shared intention of recovery and repair. If it's appropriate for you you may place a hand on your partner's lap or feel their heartbeat just continuing to breathe. As we set this intention to share this space without words our bodies naturally move into a state of harmony with each other in many invisible ways even brainwaves breath heartbeat everything coming together in coherence. You can continue to stay in this state taking your time until you feel at ease but when you're ready you can open your eyes.