Texting Ends Up Being A Miscommunication And Misunderstanding Tool

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In this one I want to speak to you guys about texting and how I really kind of begun to believe that texting is a miscommunication tool rather than a communication tool.

Literally the most useless tool on this planet especially when you're trying to have really important deep esoteric conversations or abstract conversations.

And I'm noticing this more and more as I am trying to mediate conversations between people who are having a disagreement of sorts.

For some reason,

As you guys probably know if you're an INFJ or an individual of any kind,

A lot of us end up being mediators especially as light workers.

We end up being mediators when people are having a conflict and so I'm a mediator in a couple of these random conflicts.

And I've noticed that a lot of these people,

A lot of their miscommunication has been coming up because of the fact that they have been using text as a tool of communication rather than having face-to-face conversations or even talking on the phone.

Right?

And so my main thing that I've been telling a lot of these individuals is stop texting each other these long detailed intricate messages to communicate your ideas,

Thoughts to this other person.

Just pick up the phone and call them or more importantly or perfectly would be you do a face-to-face conversation.

And this is something that I've been really thinking about because I've been kind of watching them because I've been reading their text messages to each other as well and I've noticed that it's very easy in a text message to misinterpret what the other person is trying to say obviously in terms of the words that they're using but more importantly the emotions that they're trying to portray.

Yeah you can use an emoticon you know be like a happy face or a smiley face or a sad face or angry face but really those I feel are not pertinent enough or profound enough to communicate the depth of emotion that all of us feel on a daily basis especially when we're dealing with something that's a disagreement or a disagreeable situation.

Right?

So if you're having an argument with someone very easy for both parties to start misinterpreting or thinking that the other person's angry with them and they're not really or thinking that the other person hates them and they don't or thinking that the other person wants to break up with them and they really don't you know things like that and I noticed that this happened in my own relationship in the past where instead of picking up the phone and having a conversation I would text this person long long long long elaborate texts or emails filled with all this emotion and garbage where really the other person always almost always misinterpreted it or took the wrong way and then I'm sitting there thinking but this is not what I wanted to say how did you how did you think that this is what I wanted to say?

If I just picked up the phone and be like all right this is what I want to say to you even on the phone it's very easy to convey your emotions because you're able to hear the ups and downs in your voice and able to feel the emotions when you're talking to a person more so than in text.

Now of course as I said face-to-face conversations are ideal because you can sense the person's emotions but also you can see their facial structure you can see their face going up and down or moving or happy or sad or crying or whatever it might be I know it's uncomfortable to have these conversations face to face but literally you're gonna be able to resolve these situations as a snap because you're able to have that conversation see what they're feeling and resolve it and I know that this happened to me in my past relationships a lot where if I just hung up the phone or put it put the phone down and then went to visit the person face to face and then had that conversation with them that situation seemed to resolve in a matter of minutes rather than matter of hours or days sometimes months I just can't imagine how much time I wasted having these conversations where I could just have dropped the phone away put it away and then walk to the person or driven to the person and have that conversation with them face to face so important to do that so this is what I've been thinking for myself as well and this is what I've been advising these individuals I said who are asking for help in that manner where we assume and I know that texting actually is really important because if you're building a plan with someone if you're saying okay I let go to Korean food this evening and you're telling look at me let's meet at 7 p.

M.

To text this person is so much faster and easier it's great and it's very convenient to have this texting tool I do love text and text in general texting in general because I'm an introvert I don't want to pick up the phone I don't want to talk to the person on the phone I really don't want to have face-to-face conversations as much as possible and so as an introvert I do love the appeal or the fact that you know texting is so easy and it's an introversion tool but if you want to have as I said a difficult conversation or a conversation where there is a lot of depth involved or a conversation where you're going to be dealing with something more important where face-to-face conversation is best for it I think best thing you can do for yourself and for your relationship with that individual especially if you really care about this person is to really try to have that face-to-face conversation try to drop the phone you'll stop texting stop calling the person and perhaps do a Skype call if you are far away from them or ideally as I said drive to that person's house and have that face-to-face conversation even if it takes longer it'll be resolved faster so these individuals I said as I've been saying I've been telling them you know stop texting each other because that's not useful your texts are being misinterpreted and they're they're taking it the wrong way and so why are you beating your head against the wall you know insanity is the idea where you keep on doing the same thing over and over again even if it's not working and so recently this person was like all right fine I'm gonna call the person instead of texting them and so they did they called them and they told them what was going on in their heart basically what they had told me but they told that individual rather than telling a stranger and so they told a person exactly what they were feeling how they were happy about this and sad about that and unhappy about this and happy about that and basically in the matter of minutes the person messaged me back saying oh we had such a great conversation it was just a phone call it wasn't even a face-to-face conversation they called the person and within the matter of minutes the person called me back as I said and said oh my god I had such a great conversation with this person they felt really good about it I feel really good about it I feel so light-hearted now I'm able to go back to sleep now without feeling without worrying about or feeling tense about it I feel really happy right now and that was just a switch like an instant switch just because this person you know stopped texting all this emotion over text which is really impossible if you think about it and just had a conversation with them you know on the phone if you can imagine it was just a phone call how powerful it was if this person actually had a face-to-face conversation with this individual which wasn't possible at the time but if they did I can't imagine how powerful that would be that would be like multi multi multiple times more powerful and so this is what I wanted to share with you guys it's very simple concept and you probably a lot of you guys love texting as much as I do you know I text a lot I text every single day millions of times a day but whenever it comes down to anything important when a really important conversation needs to take a plate take place a difficult conversation or an argument needs to be settled then the idea is better if you just call the person and talk to them directly rather than texting them really texts are very dangerous in those moments in time they can be taken the wrong way or you know the emotions can be congealed or convoluted and you really don't want to do that in that delicate situation in that situation I do recommend you know as I said stop texting and call the person let me know what you guys think about this very simple idea but I want to share it with you because it was so powerful in the situation that I was dealing with if you have any questions please comment below and I shall do one other video on it and if you guys want to support me further you can do that by going to my Ko-fi or patreon link I shall see you guys the next time around bye for now