02:21

Self Craves For Respectability

by Cico (Chonghe Zhang)

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**Note: Truth does not always sound pleasant. If the mind is not really peaceful now, it might not be a perfect moment to listen to this podcast, one has to be aware of the emotions or reactions that can block one from listenING ATTENTIVELY and with HUMILITY. This talk is a meditation practice. What one needs to do is listen attentively, without getting stuck in words, examine the mind in silence, nor agree or disagree, just look at the mind as it is. Doing so is already a meditation practice.

SelfRespectabilityTruthEmotionsReactionsListeningHumilityMeditationMindfulnessResponsibilityCommunicationPeople PleasingSocietySocial ResponsibilityCraving For RespectabilityCommunication ChallengesCognitive Burden

Transcript

To see the ladder,

People are climbing.

I want to be in a higher position,

To be more respectable.

People can look up to me.

So all the individuals of the society are on the ladder of the responsibility.

So there's a shift of this common consciousness,

Where all the people are calling for that responsibility.

Luckily,

Emigrations are also created partially out of this.

There are some jobs that I believed not to have so much responsibility,

Are no longer done by people in this society.

But these jobs need to be done.

We have to see this kind of shift of consciousness when the mind is all on the same ladder to climb.

Because the self is so craving for respectability,

The communication becomes extremely difficult.

A mind which is seeking respectability can be easily offended.

And this makes communication very difficult.

Because the purpose is changed not only to get the message across,

But to make sure the self is not offended.

This creates a lot of challenge living in the society,

In the world.

When we look at this demand carefully,

Much of demand is about pleasing people.

It's all about respectability issues.

We don't want to let people down,

Make people unhappy.

So the mind is working hard to please people,

Satisfy people.

Everyone is doing the same,

Which only re-enhance this issue of respectability.

And it becomes a burden for everybody.

Meet your Teacher

Cico (Chonghe Zhang)Amsterdam, Netherlands

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