Pride, Arrogance Or Confidence?

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Pride, Arrogance Or Confidence?

by Khentrul Rinpoché Jamphel Lodrö

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When we look at ourselves and others we may not always be able to distinguish between pride, arrogance and confidence. We need to examine them more deeply. We all need to have confidence and agree it's a good thing. We also need pride to some degree at times. Rinpoche explains the source of true confidence and self-esteem so that we all may cultivate it.

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Meet your Teacher

Khentrul Rinpoché Jamphel Lodrö

Belgrave, VIC, Australia

Meet your Teacher

Khentrul Rinpoché Jamphel Lodrö

Belgrave, VIC, Australia

Transcript

Arrogant, Pride, Confidence, All these three usually appears similar. Therefore people sometimes confuse. So therefore some people think pride is very bad. Some people think pride is very important. So both are true. The only difference is that they decrease as different. And one is realistic and the other is not realistic. Only that difference is. So arrogant means people have pride more than your own quality. And then pride means a little pride you needed many times but not over pride. So over pride is bad. You're going toward too arrogant. It's more than your own quality. But you need some pride otherwise you will have no courage and have low self-esteem. So therefore you need pride. But actually you need real confidence, Not the pride. That means certain times and certain stretch and for certain people you need all of them. But arrogant only needs only very little time. Only minimum time, Minimum people only need very minimum certain stages. And the pride you need will be more than arrogant but not always over pride. So confidence is you need always forever with anybody. There is no too much confidence. Confidence everybody needs as much as possible. So that means confidence is the incredible good quality. Everybody needs. But overconfidence is not. Over means more than your quality. That is not real confidence. That is appears confident but is not false confidence. So either arrogant or you can say pride or whatever you want call is not real confidence. Why is confidence so important if it's real? Because all our many many problems come from a lack of confidence. For instance, Insecurity, Anxiety, Anxious, Fear especially all our fear comes from not enough confidence. So may you think okay then if you have too much confidence more than our quality isn't that no good? Yeah that is not real confidence. That is false confidence. That's why we no need that. But we need a real confidence. Okay is that means confidence you need only limit not limitless? No we need limitless confidence. Why? Because limitless confidence if we can have they are matched with our the absolute sacred truth. So therefore this confidence is indestructible, Incredible, Powerful. Why? Because it's connected with our deep deep sacred truth. Which means millions billions people cannot feel that connection yet. But whoever have more confidence means you are connected with this. Even you have slight little connection of this is tremendous, Incredible, Powerful. So therefore real confidence is never too much. So if there is confidence then there is no room for anxious, Anxiety, Worry, Fear. All these problems are counter everyday for everyone. Will going to be vanish. So therefore confidence is never too much. But sometimes we misunderstand the false confidence or the pride and arrogant those things. We misunderstood as confidence. That's the only problem. So the confidence is the most incredible, Valuable quality everybody need cultivate. But how you cultivate this? We have to connect in our deep quality. Deep quality means naturally loving nature and with compassion and wisdom. So this love, Compassion, Wisdom inherently exists within ourselves. But billions of people only experiencing a tiny portion of this. So therefore we have to connect with this. That means we apply false kindness to others all the time. And we serve everybody every day all the time. And we're going to exhaust. Our physical capacity is going to exhaust. No, That's not the solution. We just have to feel it in our heart first. Why? Because the love and compassion, Wisdom is something our innate strength. It's not weakness. People sometimes misunderstand. Most of the time I think most of people and misunderstanding have all confusion. They have is love is misunderstood with attachment, Possessiveness and clinging on with anything. Or the compassion, They misunderstood feeling sorry for someone's suffering, That kind of. So you have to understand this is not real love, Real compassion. Maybe tiny portion of there but is overtaken by attachment and possessiveness and also ignorance. So this is not. The real love and the real compassion you have to feel in your heart. You know that means unconditionally you love with it. And you care which means unconditionally shining warmth and light from your heart. It's not conditional. It's unconditionally shining. So before the shining you try to feel it for yourself. We have to do this. This is the best way. How to start from the baby steps? First we always sit down in a comfortable place, Comfortable position. Either legs cross on the cushion or otherwise sit in a chair or sofa whatever. The most important the neck and spines very straight. Straight but not too tight but not too relaxed is firm way. Nice from middle go any extremes and then you need huge deep breathing. Deep breathing in and out a few times. As many times you like minimum two times usually three times. If you need you can do more and after that you can you feel the body. You can feel inside the body and you can feel especially your heart inside the heart. Try to focus and concentrate with your heart. Keep breathing normal, Natural, Not force anymore. If you distracted somewhere else just gently bring back and focus within your heart, Inside your heart. Feel it. If you can feel anywhere your body is okay but if you can feel your heart even better. So you can do this as much as you like. Usually recommended five to ten minutes. If you feel like to continue you can do continue. If you need fair break you can have some break and then do again. You can do this anytime anywhere but of course easier to do where is quiet. But also you have to get used to do noise as well. Just remember confidence is the best quality we need to cultivate. No exception everybody need. How to is connected with the love and compassion. But the shortcut the best way is you connecting yourself not looking outward always looking inward. That means simply try to often feel your body feel your inside. Have deep breathing. Make special feeling in your body. Especially in your heart. Do this kind of meditation but also you can find your own way meditation. Something I didn't describe here you will find through yourself. Thank you. But the love and compassion union with wisdom so always come together. You are separated and this way is the best way you cultivate confidence. If you have confidence there is no such thing anxiety worry and fear. Good luck.