Pursuing Your Dreams As A Mother

Welcome to To Be Free,

A podcast that illuminates the pathway to true freedom.

This is your host,

Laura Jane Haver.

I am a passionate freedompreneur and a freedom and empowerment coach,

Helping others heal and liberate themselves from the inside out so they can live an empowered life of deep fulfillment,

True North alignment,

And freedom.

I am also here to support light leaders,

Paradigm shifters,

Change makers,

And aspiring freedompreneurs who hear the call to create their own true North aligned,

Heart centered,

Soulful businesses and share their authentic truth to serve their mission.

Hello,

Welcome back to the podcast.

I am so excited you're here with me today.

Today I'm talking about throwing out the societal rule book when it comes to pursuing our dreams as a mama or soon to be mama or hope to be mama.

When we choose to throw out the societal rule book,

We can freely pursue our personal ambitions,

Highest visions and daydreams as mamas without feeling guilty about it or feeling pressured to settle for the status quo.

And I'm just so passionate about this topic because after I gave birth to my son,

My dreams became even more potent and I became even more ambitious in chasing after these dreams.

And I was just so invigorated and so determined to manifest my greatest visions,

Not just for me,

But for my family and for my baby boy.

However,

As I was growing up and especially in my twenties,

I would hear such disempowering things like having kids is when the rubber hits the road or enjoy your freedom while you can because freedom ends with kids.

Or once you're a mom,

You have to settle down.

You don't have a choice or your dreams and aspirations for yourself go down the drain with kids.

And all of this disempowering programming and conditioning is just so terrible.

It has never,

Ever resonated with me,

Not once.

And I refuse to believe any of these projections to be true.

So they never had any rental space in my mind.

I was never going to allow myself to believe that freedom ends with kids.

There are also other beliefs that are less negative,

But they're more so perceived rules about how we're supposed to be living,

Which is what I call the societal rule book,

Which is pushed onto mainstream society as this is just the way life is.

And the most common rule in the societal rule book today around motherhood and parenthood is that you must have a house in the burbs and a stable nine to five job to support a family.

And listen,

Of course you have to have money to support a family,

But there are so many ways to make money outside of a traditional job and the nine to five paradigm like entrepreneurship,

Investing,

Passive income streams,

Writing books,

Content,

Creating freelancing,

Et cetera,

Et cetera.

I also know that a house in the burbs is what some women truly want and it brings them so much joy,

But I also know that's not what we all want for our family,

Nor our lifestyle.

For me,

Maybe one day I would like a house in the burbs,

But not right now.

If women who are mothers or becoming mothers have dreams of being nomadic,

Living abroad or starting their own soul aligned business,

Yet the rule book is taken very literal as a rule of life,

Then those dreams can just disappear into the ether and which I have to break it to you.

There are literally absolutely no limits nor rules in this lifetime.

It's all an illusion.

The rule book lives in the collective mind and in the individual mind,

Not in actual reality.

Here's a fact you can live abroad with your babies.

You can be nomadic with your babies and you can start and run a business while raising babies.

It's all about your beliefs that it is in fact possible and realistic.

But that being said,

I know it can be a huge challenge to deprogram and decondition from this societal rule book,

Which is composed of so many limiting beliefs around what life is supposed to look like,

Especially once you enter motherhood.

This conditioning and programming is just so deeply woven into the tapestry of modern society through the power of group think and disempowering collective beliefs.

For example,

Let's think back to the fifties where women were automatically expected to stay home and be the homemaker and primary caretaker for the children and their dreams outside of the home were pretty repressed.

This always reminds me of that movie Pleasantville.

If they wanted something different outside of this rule book,

It was like they had lost their minds.

Well,

Now in modern day society,

The script has been flipped a bit.

Women are expected to be in the workforce,

Given short maternity leaves,

And then expected to reenter the workforce and pay thousands of dollars a month on childcare when their babies are still just babies.

But what if this paradigm doesn't align with what these women,

These mamas actually desire?

What if this path doesn't align with their highest visions for their family?

What if these mamas want to chase their dreams and live more unconventionally while raising their babies?

What if the rule book and the status quo just doesn't resonate with them?

Well,

In that case,

We have to throw out the societal rule book and we have to choose new empowering beliefs that align with our highest visions,

Core values,

And true desires.

This is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for our children.

Here's something I repeat on almost every podcast.

Everything begins with our beliefs.

When we change our beliefs,

We change our reality.

I know that one of the biggest reasons reprogramming our minds and reprogramming our beliefs can be so challenging is because these collective beliefs around motherhood are inherited from family,

Friends,

And community and can spread like wildfire.

Our minds are easily influenced and programmed through outside influence.

The more we hear certain words and phrases from the people around us throughout our lives and we accept them as true,

The more we begin to believe this to be a fact about motherhood and how we're supposed to be living.

This is the power of word magic.

Beliefs are words that have been shizzled into our subconscious mind over and over and over again through repetition and acceptance as truth,

Fueled by emotion.

Spelling and the vibration of words cast upon us by others that we accept is literally casting spells into our subconscious mind,

Which turns into a core belief and alters our perception of reality.

When we accept these disempowering beliefs and rules around motherhood as truth,

Like freedom ends with kids or your personal ambitions are squashed with kids,

Then we will begin to see more evidence of this to be true around us because as we believe,

We perceive,

We receive.

We will see more and more evidence of women following the rulebook and sacrificing their desires in other areas of life once they have children.

And for any mama who feels like they're sacrificing a personal dream or ambition,

They may think to themselves later down the road,

What if I could have made it all happen?

What if my greatest dreams in so many other areas of my life were always meant to come true even as I'm taking care of my sweet,

Precious babies?

What if my babies were always meant to be along for the wild ride of dream chasing?

And I do want to stress that for so many of us women,

Our greatest dream in life is to become a mama,

Which is my greatest dream come true truly.

My greatest manifestation of my life is motherhood and my darling son.

No question about it.

However,

This doesn't mean that once I became a mama,

I was going to sacrifice every other single ambition and goal and vision that I have in this precious lifetime.

My ambitions and dreams actually became even louder after I gave birth and I became even more invigorated to manifest these visions into my reality.

I knew within the depth of my soul that the inspiration I felt to go after my desires when my son was just a few months old was spirit guiding me in divine timing.

When we're inspired,

We are in spirit.

We are meant to answer the call even when we are mothers.

Our desires and daydreams serve such a higher purpose for ourselves and for our family.

For me,

My greatest desires,

Goals,

And dreams in life are being the best mama I can be,

Living freely with my family,

Having freedom of time to spend more time with my family and most hours of every day with my son.

Being a digital nomad,

Writing a book,

Living abroad,

Traveling,

Exploring the world with my family as a nomadic family,

And running my own soul aligned business that touches the hearts and souls of so many people,

Helping others live life on their own terms and helping others create a life of passion,

Purpose,

Abundance,

And freedom.

These were and are all personal goals and aspirations of mine and I'm actively pursuing these visions with my amazing husband and my precious baby boy alongside me and it is such a gift and such a beautiful adventure.

And actually my greatest why on building a lifestyle and soul aligned business centered around freedom is my son.

My greatest why is also my greatest joy and my greatest purpose on earth.

It's all for him.

Quick story,

I began my journey from corporate sales into free entrepreneurship just a couple years before Atlas decided to come into our world and I did this all while holding the vision of building a passionful and purposeful business that gives me the freedom to spend most hours of every day presently with my future babies.

And I'm so grateful that I bet on myself back then and went after my highest visions even while preparing to become a mama.

I absolutely love the business I've built and I'm so passionate about helping other women and mamas build their own true north aligned online businesses so they can create the liberating life of their dreams and spend their days as they please with their babies.

Now I know there are a lot of limiting beliefs around running a business and actually a limiting belief that some people tried to project upon me four years ago when I embarked on the journey was that it's really hard to build and run a business while taking care of children and that it's better to get a stable job that has good maternity leave options.

And trust me,

I know firsthand the challenges to building a business from the ground up and I also know the challenges of juggling motherhood while growing a business.

However,

We get to choose our hard.

What hard do you prefer?

Waking up early in the morning to go to a demanding nine to five job every single day of the week that most likely doesn't inspire you and may deplete you?

Not to mention there is no time freedom and there is no such thing as job security.

Job security isn't real unless you work for yourself.

And then this leaves you with only a few hours in the mornings and evenings with your babies.

Or would you choose the challenge of building a true north aligned,

Passionate and purposeful online business on your own time and your own terms that will provide you with a lifestyle of time and location freedom,

Gifting you more hours with your children every single day of the week?

The reality is that the nine to five paradigm takes one of our most precious assets from us,

Our time.

When we don't have freedom of our time,

We don't have freedom to spend our days as we choose,

Which can cause a lot of frustration and burnout.

And for mamas who want more time with their babies,

It can cause total resentment.

So if you're a mama or a soon to be mama or hope to be mama,

And you hear the call to running your own true north aligned business from home,

And you choose to answer this call to freedom preneurship by betting on yourself and building this business centered around freedom,

You can take your precious time and energy back.

And then you get to spend your days as you please,

Following your passions and your greatest joys with your precious babies.

If you hear the call,

I am here to support you.

A big part of my mission is to show what is possible even while raising our babies.

I'm here to remind all of you big visionaries and ambitious mamas that pursuing your higher calling and your greatest dreams and desires is more than possible with kids.

And actually we should be pursuing our dreams for them,

Lighting our dreams up for them to show them the way forward into a new liberating paradigm.

We are here to break the cycle of settling for less than what we truly desire.

We are breaking the cycle so that our children and future generations can live a more liberating life outside of the mainstream societal rule book.

As mamas,

We can choose adventure.

We can choose unconventional.

We can choose not to settle.

We can choose to chase our wildest dreams,

All with our babies alongside us,

Inspiring us and giving us so much motivation.

We can show them the way to a more limitless life.

And to close out this talk,

Here's a fact.

You can be a devoted mama and pursue your greatest visions for your family at the same time.

It's the most loving thing you can do for yourself and your little ones.

My core belief is that the greatest adventures don't stop with our babies,

They begin with our babies.

And with that,

Thank you so much for tuning in with me today.

I am so grateful for you.

Until next time.