The Voice That Sounds Like You: Inner Critic & Self-Judgment

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The Voice That Sounds Like You: Inner Critic & Self-Judgment

by Olga Ruiz Pilato

Rated

5

Type

guided

Activity

Meditation

Suitable for

Everyone

Plays

2

Most people who struggle with a harsh inner critic don't realise that the voice is not them. It sounds like them. It uses their vocabulary. It knows exactly which words land hardest. But it developed from somewhere - like messages absorbed over years, and it's been running on a kind of autopilot ever since. This session begins the work of recognising that voice as a voice, and not as the truth.

Self Judgment Inner Critic Self Compassion Emotional Resilience Habitual Thought Patterns Observer Mindset

Meet your Teacher

Olga Ruiz Pilato

Bali, Indonesia

Meet your Teacher

Olga Ruiz Pilato

Bali, Indonesia

Transcript

Hello and welcome to this guided meditation practice for the inner critic and for self-judgment. The name of this meditation is The Voice That Sounds Like You. Just take a moment to arrive in this very position. Tell yourself that this is where you will be for the next 10 minutes. Now let me ask you something and I want you to just notice your honest response. You don't have to say it out loud. What did you say to yourself the last time you made a mistake? Or the last time you didn't do something you meant to do? Or you compared yourself to someone and came up short? Most people, If they actually listened to those words, Would never say them to another person. They'd be considered cruel. But we say them to ourselves. We say them quietly. We say them constantly and over time we stop hearing them as judgments and we start hearing them as facts. And that's what we're working with today. The inner critic isn't a sign that you are broken. In many ways it's a sign of intelligence. It develops because at some point being hard on yourself served a purpose. Maybe it helped you avoid failure or it kept you safe from other people's criticism by getting there first. Maybe it was the only way you knew to push yourself forward. But a tool that was useful in one context can become a liability in another. And the problem with the inner critic is that it rarely knows when to stop. It applies the same pressure to everything. To the serious and the trivial, To situations you can change and the ones that you can't. It doesn't discriminate. It just runs. The first thing to understand is the following. The inner critic is a pattern. It's not your true judgment. It's not your deepest self speaking. It's actually just a loop and like any loop it can be stepped out of. And we are going to do this by seeing it clearly. So now bring to mind something small you've been judging yourself for lately. Try to avoid the biggest most painful thing but just something that's been quietly nagging. Something where you felt like you should have done better or been different. Notice how the voice speaks about it. Notice the tone. Is it impatient? Contemptuous? Cold? Does it allow any nuance? Or is it quite certain? Now this is important. Try to hear it as a voice. Not as your own voice, Just as a voice. Like a character that has a particular style, A particular script that it returns to. When you can do that, Even if you can just do it slightly even if it's just for a moment, Something shifts. Because you've moved from inside the voice to outside it. You've created an observer and the observer is not the critic. The observer is the part of you that can notice the critic happening. And that part of you is calmer, More considered, More fair. And now stay with this situation you've been judging yourself for. And now just as an experiment ask yourself what would I say to someone I love if they were in exactly this situation? Actually think it through. What would you say? What would you want them to understand? What would you want them to be able to let go of? Now whatever came up is actually a more accurate way of seeing the situation because it accounts for context, For effort, For the fact that being a person is generally hard and you're doing it imperfectly like everybody else. And the critic is convinced that if you stop being harsh with yourself you'll stop caring, You'll become complacent. But that is actually not what research shows. It's not what most people find. What people find when they stop leading with self-punishment is that they actually show up with more energy, More clarity, More genuine accountability because they're not spending half their resources managing shame. You won't unhook from the inner critic in one session but you can begin to notice it more quickly. And every time you catch it, Every time you name it as a pattern instead of accepting it as a truth you weaken its hold. And over time it accumulates. Over weeks, Over months, Over the course of a life it accumulates into something that actually feels very different. The voice that sounds like you is not you. And the more clearly you can see that the more room there is for something quieter, Steadier and more honest to emerge. Thank you so much for trusting me to guide you through this meditation today. You can stay here and contemplate, Reflect, Process and internalize. Thank you. Namaste.