I think there's a lot of mothers carrying secret shame.
And that shame sounds something like this.
I love my child.
But I really miss my old life.
We don't talk about this enough,
As mothers especially not.
Motherhood changes everything.
Your freedom.
Your time,
Your identity,
Your body,
Your relationships.
Your nervous system.
And yet,
There's this pressure to be grateful.
For everything,
All of the time.
To love every minute of it.
To love every part of motherhood without accepting that any of it is hard.
So what happens?
Women start suppressing their feelings.
They're overwhelmed.
The resentment.
The exhaustion.
The grief.
And when emotions get pushed down,
Down,
Down They don't just disappear,
They get stored.
Stored in your emotional body.
Stored in your nervous system.
That is when emotional looping begins to play out in your life.
Constant irritation.
Becoming irritated.
They become irritated,
And they become ashamed.
Feelings that become shame and irritation.
The truth is that loving your child and struggling with motherhood are not opposite.
They can exist together.
You can be deeply grateful.
And deeply overwhelmed.
They can exist together.
Who used to be different.
Who used to show up for you,
Who used to be fun and exciting and positive.
That doesn't make you a bad mother.
It makes you human.
So I will end with this.
Healing begins when we stop judging our emotions.
And start listening to them.