Hi there,
Thanks for taking some time out for self care and self love.
The simple act of tapping on this meditation sends a strong message of worthiness.
This message impacts your whole nervous system.
Nicely done.
So there's a lot of talk out there about how one must learn how to love themselves before they can truly love another.
And in my opinion,
Of which I have plenty,
That if-then vibe is a little too dualistic.
Now to be perfectly clear,
I believe that you can be practicing self love for the first time after a lifetime of self-loathing and still be super lovable and able to give love.
Enhancing your capability to love yourself broadens your ability to attract love and share it from a pure place.
This meditation is for any time you're feeling a little or a lot down about yourself,
Your life or your relationships.
It's designed to remind you of your goodness,
Your sweetness and your constant access to love.
You'll need a pen and paper.
Or if you have a journal,
You can use that as well.
Pause this recording and come back when you have those items.
Awesome.
Welcome back.
Let's get started.
So non-loving thoughts are judging thoughts and judgment often comes from a place of fear.
So during this meditation,
You have one simple task.
Watch the mind as it judges and dances around any negativity directed at others or yourself.
As you notice these thoughts,
Ask yourself,
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
These answers are your business and your business alone.
Ready?
Okay.
Let's do it.
So take a comfortable seat and for the next few moments,
I'd like you to breathe deeply and watch your mind as it runs circles and goes on races that are designed to tell you that you are not good enough.
Let's watch.
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Keep watching.
Many of these thoughts are a result of old,
Deep,
Perhaps no longer relevant patterns.
Can you let them pass by without becoming them?
Can you non-judgmentally note their presence without following what might be a non-truth down a dark wormhole?
Remember you're not doing it wrong if that seems like a tall order.
It sounds simple,
Sort of,
But it's not always easy.
That is why we call this a practice.
Let's sit together a bit longer.
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Begin to deepen your breath.
With your eyes still closed,
Just try to move your body in small,
Gentle movements.
Just letting your head fall from side to side,
Wiggling your fingers and your toes.
Stretch out your legs.
Lift your arms up overhead.
Yeah.
Nice stretch.
Lower your chin to your chest and slowly blink your eyes open.
Grab your pen and paper.
For the next few minutes,
I'd like you to write down whatever's in your mind.
This is called free writing.
You can be writing about having to go to the bathroom or being hungry,
Or it could be about something you experienced in your meditation or something you're worried about coming up later or a dream you had.
Literally anything,
It's whatever thoughts in your head,
Right?
It's just a brain dump on the page.
So as soon as you're ready,
You can begin.
Okay,
Put your pen down.
Now go back and read everything that you just wrote.
And then I'd like you to highlight or star or underline anything that you notice that is a judgment toward yourself.
Now judgments can also be good.
So it could be like,
I totally rocked that meditation,
Or it could be something else,
Less positive.
Just make a star next to it.
I'll give you about a minute to go through.
And then I have one more thing for you to try.
Go ahead.
All right.
So even if you haven't read all the way through it again,
Or just yet,
Go ahead and pick one of the stars or one of the things that you highlighted.
And I'd like you to write a response letter to yourself.
And I want you to write it from the vantage point of your best friend,
A lover,
A parent,
Or a mentor.
So essentially take the position of someone who cares for you deeply.
What would they say to you about this judgment?
I want you to write to yourself as though you were this other person.
I'm going to go now and let you sit with us and do this on your own.
But after you're finished,
I encourage you to sit for a moment and make note of how that felt.
And remember,
You did that on your own.
You cultivated that loving voice from within.
I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.
And I hope that you remember that you're lovable.
Come back to this whenever you need.
