Today's meditation is for you if you are in the process of grieving.
This meditation has a focus on holding space for that person or people that you've lost.
I do want to begin by saying that grieving is very personal.
It is a process that you will go through unique to everybody else on the planet.
Your grieving fingerprint is completely personalized and I say that because there is no acceptable timeline.
There is no step-by-step that you need to go through.
This is yours.
What I hope is that we're able to find pathways to minimize extended and unnecessary pain and I think of pain as the torture we hold in ourselves with an inability to healthily move through grief and that's not easy for everybody.
I'd love for today's meditation to feel optimistic not fake but hopeful.
It's important before we begin that you find yourself that you center into you and your body before we do anything.
With that said please begin your active breathing.
So by active I just mean focused.
It's a lovely way to anchor to yourself and so in through the nose nice and slow long and deep.
Feel the belly rising and exhale out through the mouth if that feels easy.
As a bit of a sigh like a you can exit that air through your nose whatever feels comfy for you.
Make sure that you are physically comfortable so laying down or if you're seated.
I like to think of being able to support the head and neck during a meditation like this.
Using these few moments now to really ensure that you are comfortable and grounded and starting to really build on that connection with you.
Your soul needs your attention.
Let the rhythm of your breath settle.
Just find that natural cadence here.
If today while we're doing this meditation you have big feelings coming up it feels like there's an eruption happening inside you.
Please let that come.
Suppression of real emotions doesn't help.
So if anything bubbles up please let it bubble up.
Tears are very welcome.
I kind of think of them as healing juice.
If it feels safe to do so now.
I invite you to bring into your consciousness or into your mind's eye the person that you've lost.
Bringing forward their face or a memory,
Smell maybe just the feeling you get from thinking of them.
But really bringing that person into this meditation here now.
And what we will do is we're going to create a room that you can both go to to spend time together and honor each other.
So with that person by your side let's begin to build a beautiful space.
Let your imagination run wild here.
Think of the colors that you want in this room.
What furniture is there?
What light is in the room?
If you're finding it hard to build this room please know it's fine.
Imagining things like this doesn't come easy for everybody.
If it turns out that all you create is one chair that you love and feel comfortable in and you can see that that's plenty enough.
But if you've been able to build a whole room,
Beautiful.
Is there a smell in this room and are there any personal items?
Is there anything that's significant that's really important for you to put in this room?
I'll invite you when you're done decorating to walk around in this room.
Have a little tour.
Make any adjustments that you want to make to the room which you can do at any time of course.
And notice how the energy in this room is just a perfect calibration.
It's calm,
It's full of love.
Your body feels very relaxed here.
It's like a balm for your soul.
And as you look down now into your hand or your lap you notice a key.
This is the key to this room and your person has one as well.
And so we'll leave the room now together and close the door and lock it.
This is the space that you can come to when you need to spend time alone with this person.
Sharing your feelings,
Reflecting on your memories,
Talking through your pains.
This is the safest space.
It is without judgment and it is where you can go to connect.
And the beautiful thing about it is it's in your mind so you can access this any time.
Carving out a specific time to sit is lovely and as well as that just know that you've got the key.
We can access this anytime.
Coming back to your breath now and just back to your body.
Noticing the breath coming in through the nose.
Lovely long exhales.
In through the nose and a lovely long exhale.
Please take your time with your grief.
Please be kind to yourself and if at all possible let go of any judgment,
Perception of what anybody thinks it should be like or what you think it should be like and simply honor this process.
Sending so much love to you today.
May you find peace in your day.
