Building A Life Of Meaning And Fulfillment

Welcome!

I am Diana Oskov and today's talk is about navigating life and beliefs,

Building a life of meaning and fulfillment.

Let me start with a question that might make you uncomfortable.

Are you living your life or is your life living you?

Think about for a moment,

How many of your daily decisions are truly yours?

How many of your beliefs are about success,

Happiness and what constitutes a good life actually came from you?

And how many were handed down by your parents,

Society or the last self-help book you read?

Today we are going to explore something profound.

How to navigate life with intention rather than accident.

And how to build beliefs that actually serve the life you want to create.

Because here is the truth.

Most people never realized you are not stuck with the beliefs you inherited.

You are not sentenced to repeat them,

To repeat the patterns that were programmed into you.

And the life you are living right now is not the only life available to you.

You hold the power to change all of this.

The foundation of what does good life actually means.

The fundamental question is,

What does living a good life actually means?

Before we can navigate anything,

We need to know our destination.

But here is where most people get it wrong.

They let others define what a good life means for them.

Your parents might have told you success means financial security.

Society might whisper that happiness comes from achievement and recognition.

Social media suggests it's all about looking perfect and having experiences worth photographing.

But what if none of that is true for you?

The first step in building a meaningful life is getting brutally honest about what fulfillment actually looks for you.

Not your parents' version.

Not your society version.

Not your social media version.

But your own.

Yours.

Your version.

This brings us to what I call the three pillars of meaningful life.

Coherence,

Purpose,

And significance.

When those three elements aligned,

Something magical happened.

You stop feeling like you are swimming against the current and start following the life you are actually meant to live.

So let's explore each one.

Coherence.

Making sense of your own world.

Right now,

I invite you to take a moment and ask yourself.

Do you have a framework for understanding your life?

When something goes wrong,

Do you know why?

When something goes right,

Can you explain it?

Most people live in a state of confusion.

Bouncing between random events without any understanding of the patterns.

They feel like victims of circumstances rather than architects of their experiences.

But here is what changes everything.

Your beliefs about how your life works literally create how your life works for you.

If you believe life is hard and unfair,

Your mind will focus on evidence to support that belief.

If you believe that the good things come to those who work smart and stay aligned with their values,

You will notice and create those opportunities.

I want to give you a practical strategy here.

How to identify your current operating system.

I want you to finish these sentences honestly.

Life is.

Success come from.

People are generally.

I deserve.

Change is.

Finish those sentences without even thinking about it.

With the first word that comes to your mind.

These responses will reveal your current belief system.

Your life's operating system.

Some of these beliefs serve you,

Others are viruses that need to be deleted.

The question is,

Where did those beliefs come from?

Did you consciously choose them or did they choose you?

So here is a coherence framework option for you.

Understanding the cause and effect.

You may find meaning through science.

Understanding the cause and effect.

What I call evidence-based living.

Spirituality.

Connecting to something greater than yourself.

Philosophy.

Creating meaning through reason and wisdom.

Or philosophy.

Understanding the human behavior and patterns.

The key is choosing consciously rather than defaulting to whatever you observed growing up.

Take an action step this week.

Notice when you are confused or frustrated by events in your life.

Ask yourself,

What belief system would help me understand and navigate this belief?

Start building your personality framework to making sense of your world.

This is all about you.

The second pillar is purpose.

Your goal and your direction.

Purpose answers the question,

What are the goals and directions of my life?

Here is the sobering statistics.

Most people spend more time planning their vacation than planning their life.

They can tell you exactly where they will be next weekend and have no idea where they want to be in 5 years.

Let's change that right now.

I want to invite you to be part of an exercise.

Close your eyes and imagine yourself 5 years from now,

But 25% happier than what you are today.

Not completely transformed,

Just 25% happier.

What does that look like?

Feel that feeling.

What's changed?

What is different about your life?

For most people,

The answer isn't more money or more stuff.

It's deep connection.

It's deeper,

More authentic relationships.

A clear sense of their future.

Work that genuinely engages and fulfills them.

A sense of growth and contribution.

The purpose with clarity process.

First,

You have to identify your core values.

What principles are non-negotiable for you?

Those become your navigation system.

Second,

Define your 5 years vision.

No goals,

Just vision.

How do you want to feel?

Who do you want to become?

Third,

Work backwards.

What would need to happen in 3 years to make that 5 years vision possible?

1 year?

1 month?

Fourth,

Create your purpose statement.

One sentence that captures why you get up in the morning.

I want to warn you here that your purpose will evolve.

That's not failure.

That's growth.

Your goal isn't to find the perfect purpose and stick with it forever.

The goal is to always be moving with intention rather than drifting.

Write down 3 specific ways your life would be different if you were 25% happier.

Then,

Identify one action you could take this week towards each of those areas.

Third pillar,

Significance.

Why your life matters.

Significance answers the question,

Why does my life matter?

And what matters in my life?

Here is something that might surprise you.

Your significance doesn't come from your achievements.

It doesn't come from how much money you make or how many people know your name.

Your significance comes from your contributions.

And your significance comes from your connections and your contributions.

Think about the best moment of your life.

I guarantee they involved other people.

Either deep connection with someone you love or the feeling of making a difference for others.

We are fundamentally rational beings.

Even your beliefs are shaped by the people around you.

That colleague who always complain.

They are programming your subconscious.

That friend who sees possibilities everywhere.

They are rewiring your brain for optimism.

The significance strategy,

Becoming a curious explorer.

Instead of judging people or trying to convince them of your viewpoint.

Become genuinely curious about theirs.

Ask questions like,

Tell me more about that.

Why do you think that way?

Where does that belief come from?

How do you know that's true?

Then,

And this is critical,

Listen genuinely with curiosity to learn not to respond.

This does two things.

It deepens your relationships by making people feel truly heard and expanding your understanding of how life works.

I want to challenge you this week to have one conversation where your only goal is to understand someone else's perspective.

Ask,

Tell me more.

At least three times.

And listen.

You'll be surprised how much you're going to learn.

And we got to the integration point.

Where we bring all the three together.

Here is the beautiful truth.

When coherence,

Purpose,

And significance align,

You stop feeling like life is happening to you.

And start experiencing life happening throughout you.

You understand why things unfold the way they do.

You're moving toward something meaningful.

And you are connected to others in a way that matters.

But,

And this is important,

That isn't a one-time fix.

It's a lifelong practice of conscious navigation.

Your beliefs will change.

Your purpose will evolve.

Your relationships will change.

And that's exactly as it should be.

The question isn't whether you will face uncertainty and change.

The question is,

Will you navigate consciously or let it navigate you?

I want to offer you three daily questions.

Each evening,

You can ask yourself.

First,

A question about coherence.

What did I learn today?

What did I learn about how life works today?

Second,

Purpose.

Did I move towards what matters to me today?

And three,

Significance.

How did I connect with and contribute to others today?

These questions will keep you consciously navigating rather than unconsciously drifting.

Remember,

You are not a passenger in your life.

You are the navigator,

The captain,

And the destination all at once.

The life you want is waiting for you to consciously choose it.

This concludes our talk about navigating life and beliefs.

Building a life of meaning and fulfillment.

If you would like to have a copy of the questions,

Please referral to my group here on Insight Timer and ask me to send you the questions.

I'm Diana Oskov and I'm looking forward to meeting you again.

Thanks for listening.