Dealing With The Passing Of A Loved One

A very big Aloha.

My name is Reverend Cindy Palos and I have a deep subject I wish to talk about today.

It's about what really creates times where you can change your life and sometimes they come up because you choose them but a lot of times they come up because life and events and circumstances come up that change your options and the way you live.

Now I have found that there's been a lot of people affected by many life changes that have been going on lately and it's kind of cyclic and it also could be around certain ages.

I had a life partner I'd been with for most of my life who just passed away a few days ago and I've been in the metaphysical and mystical and meditation field almost all my life since I've been about 13 and one of the things I have actually focused on is life after death and you know really strongly believing that life and spirit goes on and I believe that so well.

It's been an interesting journey actually experiencing it with someone who I was so close to for so many years and the thing is even though you know life's going on it doesn't take away from the process of allowing yourself to experience the life changes that come.

Now for me I have no idea what's going to happen I probably I don't know I might move.

I've been living on Maui for a long long time 35 years but Maui's got more expensive and if I'm by myself here it's gonna it's gonna be more expensive to live here so I probably might change you know I might move to Arizona Sedona Arizona I have a radio station there or I might move to Los Angeles I have relatives there but it's all up in the air it's all up in the air and it's interesting how when everything is up in the air and you don't really know what's gonna happen how you're in this open having to accept what's going on state and I have been having to really just go back to that belief inside in my heart and soul that this is all part of the process and that that spirit will guide me on of my beloved friend who is companion for so many years and that presence there and I do think it's so important to have that belief I don't know how other people could even go through all the things that I have found you have to go through with the passing of a loved one without having that faith and that belief and that strength because it takes everything you've got to try to deal with things and I have to say that I always return every single morning as I have most all my life to meditation every single morning to go within and it takes longer to clear out all the thoughts and the things because there's all this going on and then there's the emotions and all those things takes a lot to get clear and to that space where I can get past that so I really can feel this inner connection to that higher place where spirit does go with beings that have crossed over or crossing over and this is a whole process I've been studying for a long time so I understand the process but at the same time every single individual goes through a little bit different process it's just like every person has their own personality every crossing and every passing and every experience like this is is unique to the individual and it has to be done with respect respect for yourself to allow yourself to go through what you need to go through respect for your loved one to allow that process of the person crossing over to go through what they have to go through and their changes I believe that after you pass on you you have a life review that happens and you go back over your life and review what you've been doing and how you're doing it because I believe this so strongly I have been writing an autobiography which I found extremely helpful on reviewing my life and what I've done and how I've done it because it lets me kind of go through a life review before I pass on so I can kind of go through that whole process and reflect now I encourage this for anyone actually you don't have to write a book but I encourage you to really take time to reflect on your life and to really have an objective point of view about what you've done how you've done it how you reacting you know you can learn so so much by doing a higher view of your life it's it's a valuable tool and it doesn't hurt to write it down you know you can do that it might turn into a book but you know it might just be something you give to your friends but it's also really valuable just for you to have to kind of look at your life more objectively and see what brought you to where you are so there's all this amazing process that goes on and what it takes is a lot of a lot of patience a lot of understanding and a lot of compassion and love for that process and the one thing that I have found that is amazing is how much support how many people have really been kind I don't know I've had over 500 Facebook messages that I've gotten from people and it's so beautiful to see that people do want to really care and to help and to offer support and that's so so beautiful I have to say it's been amazing to me to see that process as well so so it's a beautiful amazing thing that we might take for granted in our life and boy I tell you when you get in a situation like what I've been going through you learn pretty quickly you don't want to take that stuff for granted it can be life-changing to have that support and that love and that kindness and that love from people you know and that love that comes from the higher force of the loved one passing on feeling that love and allowing yourself to send that love and to carry that love and to receive that love from that journey on that's going on you know it takes for some people a long time to get past the grief to even be open to receive to be open to receive the energy a loved one has passed on I've written books about this so it's been something I've been aware of for a while but it's it's a valuable thing to actually understand and to really allow yourself on that journey to be open to receive that beautiful gift that lovely gift that comes from that other being who's sending you love sometimes I see it in a wind energy field sometimes I I see it like a bird feather sometimes I actually have a dream sometimes I actually find something that I hadn't known was there that reminds me exactly of that time and that energy that was shared there's so many ways that you can actually connect in spirit that is meant to be that that helps you and to guide you and remind you of this this amazing path on and how the loved one is still there in spirit it's it's really such a great great gift to be able to be open to that and I know it takes a bit because that grief can be pretty strong that your mind is and there's so much to do more than I could have ever guessed that you have to take care of that's why I still encourage more than ever now after this experience of going deep inside in meditation and go as long as it needs to take to allow yourself to connect and to be clear in meditation to be still and to pray and to allow that beautiful energy to be received and sent forth from that place within away from all the busyness and details you have to take care of and if you're going through something like this I send you my deepest love because now I understand more than ever what a life process it is and how powerful it really is and how difficult it really is so my heart and my soul goes out to you and I really wish you this amazing journey the support that you need from inside from that inner support and people I know will help you and there's people that you didn't expect to have help you who will show up and help you and there's many interesting things that will occur as you're on this path that is life-changing it is life-changing so all I can do is say deep gratitude deep love and you will get through all of this and that loved one if they're close you will always be with you always be there in spirit to guide you on I bow deeply in love and gratitude