Welcome.
Come sit with me.
Get into a comfortable position where you will not be disturbed.
This meditation is for you to use in either times where you are feeling insecure,
In a moment,
Or to generally build up your confidence when you are feeling a sense of insecurity and unstable in your daily life.
So find that quiet place where you can have some solitude.
Get into a comfortable position and allow your arms to rest near your side.
Bring your awareness to your breath.
Take a deep breath in.
And as you exhale,
Allow your eyes to close.
Let's begin by meditating on the nature of a negative emotion.
A negative emotion is an emotion,
A feeling,
Or a sensation that we experience that burdens us in one way or another.
For each of us,
Negativity is subjective.
So,
The way in which we are being subjected to negative emotions the way in which we experience these negative emotions might be slightly different for you than it is for anybody you know.
But,
At their core,
Negative emotions are universal.
They are experienced by all of us and have been experienced for as long as human beings have been around.
How do you experience negative emotions?
How do you feel them in your body?
I want you to become aware of how stress and other negativities affect your body.
Is there a knot in your stomach?
Maybe a sense of shortness in your breath?
Maybe a sense of shortness in your breath?
A common negative emotion experienced by every living thing on earth is stress.
You are no different than anything else.
So,
Stress is a normal part of the experience of living.
Although there might be something particularly human about the way you express stress,
Perhaps it involves a knot or ache in your stomach,
Or a gritty grinding jaw.
Stress is experienced by just about every living thing on earth.
Even roots in vegetables,
When inhabiting a reason,
A region,
Season,
Or natural cycle that is not incongruent to their health,
Growth,
And life,
They experience the stress.
And the signs of this stress presents themselves to us.
So we are able to identify by those who know what to look for or how to look for it.
With vegetables,
It could be wilted leaves,
A reduced size and growth,
Or even a lack of just essential nutrients.
Insecurity,
However,
Seems to be particular to humans.
Stress may be rooted in the biology and the effects of living things on a biological level,
Yet insecurity is derived from a deep place within the consciousness,
A layered reaction to a negative emotion,
An expression of self-consciousness taken to a heightened level that can become unhealthy.
Insecurity happens when you have become too aware of your own self,
Allowing for self-awareness to lead you into a negative pattern of thinking.
This is something our ego mind does so,
So well.
What stories are your insecurities telling you right now?
Listen to what your inner insecure talk sounds like when you just eavesdrop and step away.
These thoughts,
These thoughts may tell us,
For example,
What we are inadequate at,
Whether it's for a current social situation we are in or for the people we are surrounded by,
But that we can't do something and it gives you a really good excuse why you can't.
Hear these excuses right now about why you can't do something.
Listen to them.
Perhaps these thoughts fixate on one element of our self.
They want to tell us that everyone is going to notice this or that,
Or because this and that and the other thing,
We should feel ashamed.
Just notice the inferior thoughts right now and listen to them play out.
Be that observer.
Perhaps this influx of negative thoughts about ourselves are enough to arrest our intuitive experience of what is truly happening,
Restraining us from the things that we want to do or say and thus,
Ultimately,
What we want to become.
Right now,
Allow for all of your insecurities to surface,
Bubbling to the top,
Coming through,
Seeping through the cracks,
Popping and never returning back under your self-awareness again.
Perhaps insecurity for you is none of these things,
But whatever it is,
Know that insecurity is universal.
It is a feeling that everyone has had and everyone should be able to empathize with your experience and you with theirs.
So right now,
Extend compassion to your insecurities.
Let them be heard.
Do not mute yourself or your body or the signals it is trying to communicate.
Yes,
It's more than okay to hear these insecurities,
But how do we move past insecurity?
How do we free our intuition as we grow and expand?
How do we free ourselves as well as our soul from a prison of negative emotion stuck in a spiral,
Keeping us still?
First,
It's realization.
Just because we feel insecure now does not mean that we need to feel insecure in the future.
There is always a path leading out of negative emotion,
Freeing your grip,
The grip it has on you.
Allow this path to become illuminated in front of you now.
Visualize the brightness.
Simply knowing and understanding this,
You are already well on your way of being able to control insecurity and free yourself from the way it has controlled you and your life.
The second step is a little more challenging.
It involves flipping the negative emotion to reveal its hidden other side.
Knowing that a negative emotion itself is not a whole,
But simply a half of something else is the second realization.
This is an important part to the development and strengthening the relationship with ourself.
But what is the negative emotion of the other half?
It is a half of what some of us might call chaos.
Chaos is whenever something unexpected enters our life.
This may be quite literally an unexpected manifestation of something physical,
Something internal.
Perhaps a loved one calls us to tell us they have to cancel plans to be able to come visit us.
Or simply it's getting out of bed one morning and accidentally stepping on something sharp that somehow was nestled beside our bed unnoticed.
These brief moments in which chaos enters our life from the external world are almost a guarantee in everyone's life.
However,
Chaos can also be manifested inside internally.
Taking the form of an unexpected,
Uncontrolled thought.
Maybe we are worried that we left the stove on one more mile from home,
Thinking how you cannot trust your own memory.
Perhaps it is simply an overly conscious thought about ourselves,
How we look,
How others may see us.
Perhaps these insecurities may seem to come out of nowhere without us giving a rise to it consciously.
Whatever it may be,
Chaos brings with us these.
Negative emotion as a basic biological reaction to the experience.
In other words,
Insecurity.
But also,
It brings us opportunity.
The way out of this negative emotion is to find the opportunity amidst the chaos.
Let's say you remember you have an exam in the morning that you haven't studied for.
Immediately,
You experience a sense of regret,
Self-hate.
How could you have forgotten about this?
You now think you're almost certainly going to fail that test.
To flip to the negative emotion and see the other side of the coin.
What's the opportunity here?
Well,
The opportunity might be to study more consciously and effectively than you ever have and to do it now,
In this moment.
Apply the same technique to other aspects of insecurities.
I want you to imagine a time you were nervous about how you looked.
See this as an opportunity to wait and see if anyone says anything differently to you about your appearance.
Or perhaps,
Be bold and ask someone what they think of your outfit today.
You may be surprised at their response.
But listen to their response as well.
Because your insecurity is going to jump on any sort of truth that it can find to feed into your doubt.
Repeat this with me now.
With insecurity,
There is always opportunity.
Good.
So,
If you experience negative thoughts telling you you can't do something,
Simply flip them on their head.
What if you challenge them by doing exactly what it is they're telling you you can't do?
Imagine what would happen,
What you would accomplish,
Who you would become.
My love,
Just by imagining this now in this moment,
You've already found an opportunity.
You've found a way out of insecure thinking.
Next time you feel insecure,
Use this method of seeking the opportunity within.
Take a big deep breath in now as we breathe from our meditation.
Feeling more grounded in your beliefs about yourself than you ever have.
And taking on insecure thoughts as an opportunity.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so proud of you.
