Hello and welcome to this EFT tapping all around the topic of aging parents.
And you might have clicked on this and you're not quite sure what this is about.
So I'm going to break this down before we go into the tapping so you can see if it's suitable for you.
For many,
Many people out there,
Aging parents is a topic that can bring up a lot of stress,
A lot of fear,
A lot of guilt and a lot of shame.
And we all have a different story.
To look after them that could even include financially or maybe it's that you live in a completely different country with a brand new job and you're nowhere near your parents as they're getting older maybe you feel a bit of guilt or it could just be this fear that yeah they're getting older and having to accept that but also reminding yourself that we also need to fill our own cups up before we can give to our parents now there are many different stories be so it can fit for everybody,
But specifically around those feelings of guilt.
Shame worry fear but then we're also going to focus on how it's not all doom and gloom self-care for ourselves but also enjoying the time that we do have with our parents so let's begin we are going to start tapping at the side of the hand the karate chop point you just need to repeat after me out loud take what resonates and leave the rest My parents are getting older.
And that is something that's bringing up a lot of emotions for me.
Maybe I feel guilty that I'm not able to look after them.
Because I live so far away.
Or I just don't have the time right now.
Or maybe I feel.
.
.
Some sort of anger.
And stress.
Because now I am the one who has to look after them.
And the roles have reversed.
Or maybe it's just fear.
I am scared of losing my parents.
And I don't know what's going to happen in the next few years.
And I'm trying to manage a career.
My own family.
My own life.
But any time I think about my parents.
It can bring up a lot of uncomfortable emotions.
And even though I may feel guilt,
Of shame,
Of sadness.
I deeply and completely.
Love and accept myself.
And I know that I have to accept this season of life.
That things have changed.
And I have to release What used to be?
And I am open and willing to.
Let go of some of the fear guilt shame to move into acceptance.
Because they cannot get any younger.
But what I can do is make the most of the time that I do have with them.
While also reminding myself.
That it's also my responsibility.
To fill my own cup.
Because if I do not take care of myself,
How can I take care of them when they need me?
And I deeply and completely.
Love and honor myself.
As I am tapping and letting these emotions go.
Giving myself the time and attention that I need.
Okay,
You can stop tapping for a moment and just take a nice deep breath in through your nose.
And exhale.
And you might have tingles,
You might be yawning,
Perhaps there's some memories or emotions that are coming up for you.
And we are going to tap through that with the eight tapping points.
So just follow along and let's begin.
And in this next part of the tapping,
Something we're really going to focus on is gratitude and love.
As we've let go of the guilt and the shame and the fear and the sadness,
Gratitude and love for yourself,
But also gratitude and love for your parent and how they are now.
Just repeat after me,
Take what resonates and leave the rest.
I put so much pressure on myself.
To be the perfect son daughter So much pressure.
To be perfect.
To control the situations.
But it's all at the expense of my peace.
And especially when it comes to my parents.
I want to show up in full capacity.
I want to make sure that they're okay.
And I just have to remind myself,
I am doing the best that I can.
And the best is an act of love.
Because I don't have all the answers.
And I am also choosing to be grateful.
That my parents are still alive.
That I get to spend time with them when I can.
And when I do,
I choose to be fully present.
To look them in the eye.
To share fond memories.
And to acknowledge all that they've done for me I know there's this huge pressure that I've put on myself recently.
But I don't have to carry it all.
What if I choose to let that pressure go a little?
And to give myself some self-love.
To actually fill my own cup.
Maybe it's a long wall.
Maybe it's a massage.
Maybe it's just taking a screen break or watching a funny movie.
What do I need to do that's gonna fill me up?
Because when I have filled my own cup and taken care of myself first.
I have more energy and capacity.
To give to everybody else.
So I need to be really honest with myself.
Have I just been giving and giving and giving?
Out of guilt,
Out of fear,
Out of shame.
I acknowledge I may have been doing that and I choose to change.
I also give myself permission.
To grieve if I have to.
This is not the most fun experience of my life.
But it's an experience.
So anytime I feel the need to cry.
I allow myself to.
This is a big topic.
I have so much fear and worry for my parents.
But I also know they wouldn't want me to worry so much.
So I am choosing to be present right now with myself.
And by tapping I know I'm giving myself something back.
And I forgive myself for the times when I couldn't show up in the way I wanted to.
When I couldn't be the perfect child.
But I also reach out for help if I need to.
Where can I delegate?
And I know that there's a lot to think about.
But for now,
I can just focus on today.
How can I show up as my best self for them today?
Maybe it's a five-minute phone call.
Maybe it's going around this weekend for lunch.
Maybe it's making that really hard but important phone call.
Are having that difficult conversation.
Whatever I can do to just take it off my plate.
Because my plate is pretty full right now.
And I deeply and completely.
Love and honor myself.
And I also love and honor my parents as they age.
Knowing that this is just a natural part of life.
Okay,
You can take a deep breath in.
Big exhale.
Let it go.
And hopefully this tapping has helped clear a few things up.
I know this is a quite a big topic and there's a lot to think about,
But maybe in that tapping,
You now have a clearer picture of what to do next.
But most importantly,
Self-care is something that if you have been feeling really stressed,
Do something to look after yourself.
Fill your own cup so you can then look after others and your parents in the way that you want to.
So thank you for tapping along.
You've got this.
I will see you in another video soon.
