Have you ever been betrayed?
Have you ever betrayed another person?
Have you ever betrayed yourself?
Betrayal is a form of sabotage and the saboteur with its sabotaging programs is the topic of our archetypal discussion today.
I'm Helen Hansen,
Your guide through this process of conscious focus.
I've been working and playing in the fields of archetypal psychology,
Holistic psychology and developmental psychology for approximately 15 years and I'm delighted to be able to share some insights with you.
So let's dive in.
Please take a moment to think about where,
When or how you stand in your own way.
This can be in the form of lack of boundaries,
A regular need for instant gratification,
The mindset of I deserve rationalizing excuses,
Fear,
Anxiety,
Depression,
Laziness,
Resistance,
Bullying or manipulating others,
Saying one thing and doing another,
Which can also look like the inability to commit.
These can all show up in any area of life and in small or big ways.
When we sabotage ourselves in small ways,
It often tends to go unnoticed.
For example,
Giving in to someone and telling yourself that you are helping them,
When in actual fact that what one is helping is for an instant gratification fix to be established.
Meanwhile,
Boundaries are crossed,
Narcissism is developed and perhaps a codependent connection is strengthened.
Codependency is a common theme connected with sabotaging.
The codependency does not have to take place within an intimate relationship.
It can be between colleagues,
Neighbors,
Friends,
Any family members or a student and teacher scenario.
In the codependent relationship,
The underdog gives away their power or what they think is either a good cause,
Sometimes they may even convince themselves that they are in control,
Until they get betrayed and then suddenly the lights come on.
On another level,
The one in the position of power,
Holding the controls,
Is actually also in a form of self-sabotage,
For they are using another person to be powerful over and thereby creating a situation where they will always need another person in order to get their fix.
You see the saboteur is an archetype driven by power,
Either craving power or fearful of power.
If you've ever thrown away an opportunity or lacked motivation to get up in the morning or you find yourself habitually saying no or saying yes to requests,
Then this is an indication of self-sabotaging.
When one is fearful of the unknown,
Fearful of taking on responsibility,
Fearful of losing the life you know,
Then the saboteur steps in to give all sorts of plausible reasons as to why you shouldn't go or you shouldn't commit or you should give the opportunity to someone else.
Martyrdom in its shadow form goes hand-in-hand with the saboteur.
The saboteur also works closely with the victim-child.
One's victim can keep a person living in a mode that is less than,
Because of a hundred and one reasons stemming from childhood wounds.
In this instance,
The saboteur is using the victim to take away your power.
So as we can see,
The saboteur works in various ways.
It can be by stopping you from developing or improving or enjoying.
It can be by directing you to take away someone else's power or by convincing you to give away your own power.
And the power referred to here is something of value,
Either to yourself or to the other.
So what do we do?
Because this archetype of sabotaging programs is something we get to all experience in our lifetime.
And the reason is that the saboteur actually provides a beautiful opportunity for one to access one's true power,
For one to get to know one's life purpose,
For one to establish boundaries,
To find one's voice,
To persist,
To move out of procrastination.
There are so many strengths that one will develop when overcoming the shadow saboteur.
Because the saboteur in its empowered state is one of true power,
One who doesn't need to draw on the power of others or give away one's power.
When you know your worth,
You are comfortable in your worth,
Then you know you have mastered the saboteur and you have worked through those sabotaging programs.
So let's look at how we can activate the light within our saboteur.
Know that you always have a choice,
A choice to make a different choice,
A choice to say no,
A choice to say yes,
A choice to walk away.
Actioning that choice comes from your will,
Your desire for transformation,
Your desire for living a fulfilling life,
Your desire for improvement or enjoyment.
So how do we strengthen our will to make choices that are in alignment with our true essence,
Our true power,
Our all-knowing,
Higher,
Wise self?
Play around with a new script in your mind's eye,
With all the bells and whistles.
In other words,
Make it like a movie.
Take some time,
Get really comfortable,
You can even engage with this process before going to sleep and bring to mind a situation,
A scenario that you commonly sabotage yourself in,
In whatever way,
Shape or form.
And start playing the scenario before the sabotaging happens.
See how the situation moves through various points to get to the place where it is and just before the sabotaging would usually come in,
So just before that old program of saying no,
Saying yes,
Giving in,
Whatever it might be,
Change the script completely.
And when you're playing with it in your imagination,
You have license to go OTT.
We want those bells and whistles,
So we want the bright lights,
We want situations and scenarios that perhaps wouldn't even happen,
But you're stretching and extending that situation to beyond belief almost.
And this is where you want to take your mind to and your thoughts to.
You really want to stretch it,
Even though you know that this might not or maybe would never actually realize in real life.
It's the act of expanding ideas that one wants to engage with around a scenario that is in a stuck loop.
And I recommend that you don't think about this too much beforehand,
Don't try and pre-plan.
Just allow yourself to go in and see whatever unfolds,
In other words,
Be led by your subconscious.
The only direction you give is let's go to an extreme of changing the scenario.
So you want to turn everything on its head.
So for example,
If a certain situation of sabotaging always takes place in the morning,
Make that scenario now happen in the evening.
Make the environment different,
Make the characters different,
The clothes that they wear different,
The smells different.
You want to bring in all different sensory elements and really see the colors as strong and then most importantly,
Feel the emotion.
Feel this new emotion of being empowered in your true power,
In a way that is true and real and comfortable for you.
And when you are done playing out this new scene,
Just hold that emotion within your whole self.
Breathe it into every single cell of your being and then open your eyes,
Have a huge smile and remember that feeling.
And then do this again and play out a different scenario maybe,
Or maybe you want to do the same one,
It's up to you.
And repeat this and repeat this and repeat this.
Remember the brain does not know the difference between reality and imagination.
So the more often you are going to program into your subconscious via your conscious,
Because this is through a conscious choice that you are imagining this new scenario,
This new programming,
When repeated,
Is going to over time settle into your subconscious and even into your nervous system.
And this is what you want to assist you naturally to start choosing and then actualizing those choices that are for your highest good and for the highest good of those around you too.
Enjoy putting this exercise into practice and thank you for joining me on this journey of empowering the sabatoire.
Do take care.
