Hello and welcome to day five of living by love rather than fear.
This is a 30-day experiment to choose love rather than fear each and every day.
My name's Liz and over the course of this 30-day experiment,
I'm sharing my diary of what it is like to live from a space of love rather than fear.
My intention is to experiment with this for a month and you're invited to join me for the full 30 days or just dip in and out.
Let me know how you're getting on.
Today's theme is that of the energy of love.
Today's reminder is that love is the force behind absolutely everything and it came to me when I met a friend for a cup of coffee.
So when I go to Exeter to help my mum,
Exeter is a city in Devon,
I often meet up with friends and today I connected with an old school friend for a cup of coffee and soon our conversation got on to asking about family members and she asked me about my siblings.
Now I'm very lucky with my siblings.
I love them all dearly.
I've got very different relationships with all of them but over the years I've dearly wished for a deeper connection with my younger brother and as I spoke with my friend about my younger brother,
I suddenly remembered an incident over a decade earlier where I had had an extraordinary insight about love.
I had had a moment where time and space seemed to dissolve and I was given a clear and distinct message about love and it all came about because of my younger brother.
So here's the story I told my friend over this cup of coffee today.
Over the years I've gone through so much personal development.
I've read books,
I've been on courses,
I've trained in things like counselling,
Coaching,
The Landmark Forum,
NLP and during this time I constantly looked for things that were lacking in my life,
Areas that needed improvement and I spent time trying hard to make those things better.
One of the recurring themes of self-improvement as I undertook all this self-development work was to work on the relationship with my younger brother.
Now he's quiet,
He's independent-minded and he does life his own way but ever since I have been a child I always whiffed for a closer relationship.
It just seemed like something was missing.
I reckoned I was his big sister and we needed to talk more and hang out more but he never seemed that interested.
So as I was telling my friend over the coffee I explained that one day whilst I was meeting with some other friends,
Coaching friends,
One of these friends wanted to try out a new technique with me.
Now back then I was learning about tools and techniques as a coach and I don't exactly remember what this technique was but I do remember I was looking at these different pebbles and stones on a table and she'd collected them from walks or the beach and she asked me to choose pebbles and stones to represent different people in my life and then she asked me some questions about them.
Now one of the stones I picked represented my younger brother and what followed was a conversation.
I don't even remember it but what I do remember is that as she was asking me about the pebble that represented my younger brother I was going to talk to her about what I usually talked about what I thought was missing in this relationship with him but then rather than talk about loss or absence of love I actually felt as though I fell down a shaft in time into a different dimension.
I know that sounds weird but that's the best way I can describe it.
So I was still in the room,
I was still talking about my brother but a part of me had shifted to a completely different space and in this space I had a strong feeling of love.
I felt as though my brother and I were connecting at the level of soul and the sense of reassurance was profound.
When I was with my coaching friends I cried with joy as I realized that there was nothing I needed to work on with my brother,
That at some level we were already connected by love and not only that I could feel that the energy behind everything was love.
Love was the truth about my relationship with my younger brother and ultimately love was the truth about my relationship with everyone.
So if you remember I was actually having a cup of coffee with my friend telling my friend about the story of this incident and as I was sitting drinking my coffee with my friend telling her about this tears came to my eyes in the moment,
I was re-experiencing that feeling of love.
So today in the experiment I am reminded of this experience,
I'm reminded of the time I fell into this lake of love,
A sea of love,
An ocean of love and it was bottomless.
The cup of coffee with my friend today was an absolute gift and I'm left realizing that love is at the foundation and root of absolutely everything and as I remember that I feel a sense of ease and peace of mind.
So today my learning has been that love is the core and essence of everything.
It's been a great reminder.
Let me know how you're getting on with this experiment yourself,
An experiment of living from a place of love rather than fear.
It's always so good to hear how you're getting on.
