Have you ever noticed that you might say one thing to one person but say another thing to another person because they bring out another aspect of yourself?
Or seen one's friend or partner behave so differently in the company of others that they are almost not recognizable to you?
Part of what's happening to us is we're becoming not so well integrated.
We're kind of like floating along with a lot of boxes in us.
If you open one box you feel one way.
Open another box you feel and think another way.
Now the thing that solves this is unifying.
Where all the boxes start dissolving and you become one united individual.
Individual.
Where you say the same thing to everybody basically.
Where you don't really change your tune that much with different people.
So you get like that when you unite in love.
Where you move in to become more of a devotional personality,
Devoted personality.
So this can be to a cause or look what happens to mothers.
Soon as a mom gives birth she unifies and all of a sudden her personality is focused on the child and the needs of the child.
And then that defines her for quite a few years.
Until the child grows up and even you know when the child grows up the mom you know may still be unified that way.
So it's the love.
That's the secret to love.
To love yourself.
Love all of life.
Love mother nature.
It sounds easy maybe but you know to really love there has to be somewhat of a loss of control.
And that can be hard for our egos that learned in our early that it wasn't quite safe to love.
So even in happy families sometimes the you know the level of love the child comes in with is just huge.
It's just off the charts.
It's a huge capacity for love and then you know the child has to be conditioned.
You know so the child may you know the mom may be cranking one day or the dad's cranking one day and the child's a little shocked by this and the child chunks down and becomes a little more defended.
I mean this happens to all of us.
You know in simpler societies I always think like ancient Hawaii where it's all warm and you know not that many people and there's lots of food around like lots of coconuts because it's like so warm that everything grows so well then that's probably maybe a culture where maybe the youngsters were less defended than maybe in the west we are.
You know certainly the you know there's some old stories coming up from you know ancient Hawaii where they talk about the kids playing and they'd be so in tune that they would change the weather on the other hand you know the weather in Hawaii is changeable but also where are they you know kids were taught to look at the water you know on their on their side of the island and learn how to be able to feel into what the water was like the condition of the ocean on the other side of the island what was going on there.
So you know aboriginal cultures often have capacities that we don't have just as we have capacities they don't have so it just balances out.
Okay bless your hearts.
