Hello,
Hello.
My name is Jessica Amos.
I'm a mindfulness teacher and coach,
And I'm the founder of Stay With Yourself.
Whether you're familiar with the neuroscience of changing your life through how you think,
We do understand through so much study that's been done in the scientific fields that our brains and our minds and the thoughts that we think really influence how we feel,
Influence our behaviors,
Influence the direction of our life.
Where your thoughts go,
There your life goes.
So where you're putting your attention is also really influencing how your life flows,
And maybe you've noticed that for yourself.
One thing I teach in a program I run called Sacred Habits,
We're not trying to get rid of bad habits and change the bad things and the things that aren't working,
Because often when we're putting the focus on changing the bad things or fixing things,
Those things are getting more attention and they're growing.
It can almost become overwhelming and you feel like it's getting worse.
What I like to encourage is to put your attention on something new and something that feeds your soul,
That brings you alive,
That brings a bit of joy.
You'll find that a lot of times this other stuff will begin to leave on its own because you're not giving it attention and you're starting to move your focus.
That's exactly what it means to reroute your neurological pathways.
We have these deep ruts ingrained in our mind through a lifetime of conditioning we get stuck in that are hard to get out of.
There's three things that I like to use in supporting this.
Number one,
Visualize how you want your life to be.
Visualize how you're showing up in your life.
Visualization is huge.
Some people struggle with visualizing and pictures in the mind.
That's OK.
The mind does think in pictures,
But for some people it thinks more in words or in feelings or in tones.
So you can also journal out images.
You can draw images.
You can sit and meditate and visualize images of how do you want to be experiencing yourself in that situation?
That's difficult for you where you find yourself being reactive.
Showing up differently?
How would you like to show up differently?
What would that look like?
What would that feel like?
Really get detailed in visualizing yourself showing up exactly how it is you want to be showing up in your life.
Feed your mind pictures of yourself showing up how it is you want to be showing up in the world.
Secondly,
Action.
It's now acting as if.
So say you want to love yourself more.
If you loved yourself unconditionally,
How would you act?
So you act as if you love yourself unconditionally and remember that feelings follow action.
You're not waiting to not feel guilty in order to set the boundaries.
Set the boundary.
Guilty?
Keep doing it,
And eventually the guilt will go on its own.
And third,
Practice honoring your progress and paying attention to the things that are going well and how you're making these little adjustments,
As opposed to focusing on all the things you did wrong and bad.
That's starting to give this neurological pathway a bigger opening into some gratitude and acknowledgement for yourself.
I look forward to hearing which one of these three practices really resonates with you,
Where do you wanna be putting your attention?
And of course,
If you have questions for me specifically that you would like me to answer in another teaching,
I encourage you to submit those questions and I'd be so happy to create a talk just on that.
Okay,
Until next time,
May you stay with yourself today and always.
