What's the Best That Could Happen?

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What's the Best That Could Happen?

by Jessica Amos

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Our minds often rush to the worst-case scenario — but what if we asked a different question? In this video, mindfulness teacher Jessica Amos introduces a powerful mindset shift that helps balance worry and open the door to possibility. Through the practice of learning to ‘stay with yourself’, you’ll leave feeling calmer, more hopeful, and ready to meet life with curiosity instead of fear. If this video resonates, you will be sure to enjoy Jessica’s course “Reparent and Heal Your Inner Child” here on Insight Timer where you can explore this topic more deeply. Follow Jessica Amos and visit her profile for more meditations, talks, livestream sessions, and upcoming courses. Donations help support the creation of these teachings and allow Jessica to continue sharing.

Mindfulness Anxiety Positive Thinking Cognitive Restructuring Self Compassion Future Projection Hope Curiosity Positive Visualization Anxiety Management

Meet your Teacher

Salem, OR, USA

Meet your Teacher

Salem, OR, USA

Transcript

Hello, Hello. My name is Jessica Amos. I'm a mindfulness teacher, A life coach, And the founder of Stay With Yourself, Which is the practice of being who you are, Where you are, Honoring yourself in each moment. Today, I am very excited to be talking with you about where we put our attention when it comes to good things and bad things and wrong things and right things. And this topic is a topic that came up with my therapist several years ago as I was, You know, Huffing into her office and sitting down on the couch as I would do every week with her. I came in one day and I just had All the stuff going on in my head, As I always do, Where I was just, This could go wrong and that could go wrong. And what if this bad thing happens? And what if that bad things happen? And I need to make a decision around this, Or I had a conversation with that person around that. And, You know, The hyper spin out of the overthinking and the wanting to do exactly the right thing and have everything go right. And what if things go bad and wrong? You know, Just the mental spin out that we can often. Do inside of ourselves. And as someone who has struggled for most of my life with chronic anxiety, It makes sense why this happens for me and then why it also activates my anxiety and how these two can really feed each other. So maybe some of you relate to that. But I found it really interesting as I'm sitting in my therapist's office and I go in week after week. And, You know, That's part of why we go to therapy is to process things and to talk about things and to work through things. Um, She just goes, Okay, I have a challenge for you. And I love a challenge and I hate a challenge at the same time, But I love her. And, You know, She's one of the best people I've ever worked with my therapist. So I was like, Okay, What is your challenge? And she goes, For every. . . Every minute that you spend thinking about how wrong or bad things could go, All the terrible outcomes. I want you to spend an equal amount of time, An equal number of minutes. Thinking about what if things went good. What could best outcomes be? What if things went good? And I was like. Mmm! I don't know how I feel about that. That is very uncomfortable for me. And so she workshopped it with me right there in our therapy session. You know, OK, Let's talk about something that, You know, You're thinking about how bad or wrong it could go. For me, It might be like a visit with my mother. Which is like a very real example in my life, A visit with my mother. Oh, No. These are all the things that could go wrong. My mom could say this, This could happen, That could happen, Any number of things like that. She goes, OK, Now what if you imagined that things went well? What if your mom said something nice or kind? What if it went better than you thought it could go? And that was really a stretch for me at the time, Like really a big push for me. Mentally and emotionally because it's like, Well, I know my mother. There's no way that's ever going to happen. Right. And I had already decided. In my mind, You know, What was going to happen, How it was going to happen. And then I'm trying to prepare myself for the blow, For the fallout, For the way it's going to go bad and wrong, Right? And all she was doing, My therapist, All she was really doing was just challenging me to maybe open up to a new way. And so I started practicing that. And I will say, You know, I still am not always good at remembering to do this practice. But as I started to practice and started giving just myself a little time, A little extra room to imagine that, Like, You know, Actually, What if it doesn't go badly? What if it goes well? What if it's even just goes neutrally? Yeah. What if it gets to be different than what I've experienced before? What I found was my whole energy and my whole mindset changed. So in the example of like having a visit with my mother, As I began to practice thinking that maybe it's not going to go bad. Maybe it doesn't have to feel painful and difficult. Maybe this doesn't have to be this anxiety ridden. You know, Situation of this, That, And the other. Gosh, What if it felt good? What if I felt good? What if no matter how my mother responded or was behaving, I could still feel good about it, Right? And I'm secure in me. And it started to really. . . Shift things for me around, Again, I have no control over the future and other people. I can't future tell what's going to happen, But it helped me start to stand on new ground within myself to start just asking, What if things went well? What if I actually felt good? What if I wasn't anxious and I actually felt at peace in this situation? Into greater possibilities. Greater possibilities for myself. And I really didn't have anything to lose from it because it's like, Of course, I could always go back to just doing it the old way and always being, You know, Expecting the worst. So I'm not really losing anything by just trying a new way. I can always go back to the old way anytime. Right. So let's just maybe try a new way. Let's like this go in there and explore and see what happens. And I did find that and I continue to find that it's actually very, Very helpful. And it helps put me in a space before I even get to that future point that I am projecting into. I'm actually bringing myself into a more peaceful and centered and aligned space before I get there. It doesn't mean, You know. Situations aren't situations. But that's my question to you today and what I want to put out to you as you move forward into your group. Shares. Maybe starting with some awareness around, You know, Are you the sort of person that's kind of always maybe trying to anticipate things going bad or wrong and how you're going to respond and how you're going to respond to the fallout of life. And and how could you maybe start to prepare for things to go good? And how does that feel in your system to allow in the sense of maybe things could go good? Maybe things could actually line up. Maybe it could be right. And what would it feel like to give equal attention if you're going to give attention to the negative and what could go bad? How could it feel to start to give some attention to what could actually go right and maybe even better than expected? Super emotionally charged or electric. And this can be applied to anything. I may be talking about my mother. Might not be mother for you. It might be something else, You know, Work, Job, Circumstance, Relationship to self, Even the way you talk to yourself. What if. What if you decided to give a little bit of a different attention and start to find some balance in there? Until next time, May you stay with yourself today and always.