You are trying so hard.
You always have been.
Holding yourself to a standard that shifts just out of reach every time you get close.
Doing more than enough and still hearing that voice.
The one that says,
Not quite,
Not yet,
Not good enough.
That voice is exhausting and it's been with you for a long time.
It's time to change that.
This is your ETF tapping session for perfectionism.
A few minutes to loosen the grip of the standard that can never quite be met.
To release the weight of not enough.
And to find the quiet freedom that lives on the other side of it.
I invite you to find a comfortable position.
Sitting down.
Let your body settle.
Close your eyes if that feels comfortable.
Take a slow breath in through your nose.
And release it fully through your mouth.
And another longer this time,
Breathing in.
And letting it go.
Just notice for a moment where perfectionism lives in your body right now.
Is there a tightness in your chest?
Abrasing your shoulders.
A steady undercurrent of not feeling quite good enough that never goes away.
Just notice.
Without judgment.
Without needing to fix anything yet.
On a scale of 0 to 10.
Where zero is completely free and at ease,
And ten is the full weight of never feeling good enough.
That feeling of stress.
Where are you right now?
Note the number.
We're going to bring it down.
So we're going to start tapping by bringing your fingers to the karate chop point on the side of your hand.
Began tapping and repeat after me.
Even though I never quite feel good enough.
Even though I never quite feel good enough.
I deeply and completely accept myself.
I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I hold myself to a standard that keeps moving just out of reach.
Even though I hold myself to a standard that keeps moving just out of reach.
I choose to be gentle with myself today.
I choose to be gentle with myself today.
Even though this voice of not enough has been with me for so long.
Even though this voice of not enough has been with me for so long.
I am willing to begin releasing it now.
I am willing to begin releasing it now.
So stop tapping on the karate chop point.
And bring your fingers to the inner edge of your eyebrows.
Began tapping softly and repeating after me.
The voice that says,
Not good enough.
The voice that says not good enough.
Tapping on the side of the eye.
The standard that keeps shifting out of reach.
The standard that keeps shifting out of reach.
Tapping under the eye.
No matter how much I do.
It never quite feels like enough.
No matter how much I do,
It never quite feels like enough.
By tapping under the nose.
The exhaustion of trying to get everything right.
The exhaustion of trying to get everything right.
Tackling on the chin,
The fear that if I'm not perfect,
Something will fall apart.
The fear that if I'm not perfect,
Something will fall apart.
Tapping on the collarbone,
The belief that I'm only worthy when everything is done right.
The belief that I'm only worthy when everything is done right.
Tapping under the arm,
All this weight I've been carrying just to feel like enough.
All this weight I've been carrying just to feel like enough.
And tapping on the top of the head.
But this perfectionism has been trying to protect me.
But it has been costing me so much.
This perfectionism has been trying to protect me.
But it has been costing me so much.
Stop tapping.
Take a slow breath in.
And release it completely.
Letting go of any tension or stress as you breathe out Now we're going to move into round two of the tapping.
So tapping on the inner eyebrow and repeating after me.
I am ready to loosen the grip of the snout.
I am ready to loosen the grip of this now.
Tapping on the side of the eye.
I release the belief that I'm only enough when everything is perfect.
I release the belief that I'm only enough when everything is perfect.
Tapping under the eye.
Perfectionism is not high standards.
It is fear.
And I am safe to release it.
Perfectionism is not high standards.
It is fear.
And I am safe to release it.
Tapping under the nose.
I do not need to get everything right to be worthy of love and belonging.
I do not need to get everything right to be worthy of love and belonging.
Tapping on the chin.
Good enough is not settling.
Good enough is freedom.
Good enough is not settling.
Good enough is freedom.
Tapping on the collarbone.
I released the standard that was never mine to meet.
I released the standard that was never mine to meet.
Tapping into the arm.
I am allowed to be human.
Imperfect and still enough.
I'm allowed to be human,
Imperfect and still enough.
And tapping on the top of the head.
I release this weight now,
Gently and completely.
I release this weight now.
Gently and completely.
Stop tapping.
Take a breath in.
And release slowly and completely.
We'll now move into our final round of tapping.
Starting with the inner eyebrow.
I am enough right now,
Exactly as I am.
I am enough,
Right now,
Exactly as I am.
Tapping on the side of the eye.
I do not need to earn my worth.
I do not need to earn my worth.
Tapping into the eye.
I give myself permission to be imperfect.
And still show up fully.
I give myself permission to be imperfect.
And still show up fully.
Tapping under the nose.
Good enough is more than enough.
Good enough is more than enough.
Tapping on the chin.
I release the need to get everything right before I begin.
I release the need to get everything right before I begin.
Tapping on the collarbone.
I am worthy of love,
Belonging,
And my own kindness.
Exactly as I am today.
I am worthy of love,
Belonging,
And my own kindness.
Exactly as I am today.
Tapping under the arm.
I am free for the voice that says not enough.
I am free from the voice that says not enough.
Tapping on the top of the head.
I am enough.
I have always been enough.
And I am free.
I am enough.
I have always been enough.
And I am free.
Stop tapping.
Take one more slow breath in.
And let it go completely.
Let your hands rest where they fall.
Let your face soften and relax.
Let your jaw soften.
Your shoulders drop.
Your whole body settles.
It's time to check back in with that number from 0 to 10.
Where are you now?
Notice the difference.
That is your nervous system responding to a direct signal that the standard has been released.
And that it is safe to simply be.
You've been trying so hard for so long.
And you are so much more than the voice that has been telling you that you are not good enough.
You do not need to be perfect to be worthy.
You do not need to get everything right to be loved.
You do not need to meet an impossible standard to matter.
You already matter.
Exactly as you are right now in this moment.
Take one more breath.
Slow.
Easy.
Complete.
And carry that knowing with you into the rest of your day.