Hello everyone!
Today I'm here to talk about common reasons why we are not allowing ourselves to dream big.
There are many reasons why we don't give ourselves permission to dream big and declare what we truly want.
Behind all of these reasons are the things we tell ourselves that prevent us from going for bigger and better things in life.
Here are some of the common ones.
First,
You carry the world's suffering on your shoulder.
You are concerned about the injustice in the world and this means you are not allowed to want more for yourself.
In your head it can sound like,
I'm not allowed to want a better life because I have nothing to complain about.
I had no major life trauma,
No disasters and my standard of living is comfortable.
I have food on the table and a warm home.
There are so many people suffering that wanting more is selfish and not right.
Sounds familiar?
Well,
This was my thinking pattern for so long.
Some people have it better than you and some have less fortunate.
Although it hurts to see all the world suffering,
You are never going to fix it all.
As Katie Byron says,
It is not your business,
It is God's business,
Meaning reality.
We cannot control the world and its problems are way too heavy to carry.
But it is such a hard feeling to shake,
Right?
I would find myself saying things like,
How is it not my business?
What world am I rising my kids into?
I need to do something to protect them.
But I came at peace with wanting to have a better life.
Wanting to improve how I relive is not a crime,
It's natural.
Most people given the choice would choose more money,
More joy and more time to pursue passions or spend with loved ones rather than work all hours.
And what's wrong with that?
You don't have to settle with just OK.
Second reason.
Money is greed.
Believing that money equals greed is a common way to block dreams from seeing the light of day.
In your head it can sound like,
Wanting more money means taking it away from other people.
Rich people are greedy,
I am not like them.
A lot of our beliefs around money came from the meanings and images we automatically attached to the world like rich and wealthy.
Can you see a major lot of yarks and mansions in golf courses?
So what would rich really mean for you in the context of your life?
What I realize is that when you ask yourself why you desire more money,
It's not about being rich.
It's all about what you want to do with that money,
Which could be things like raising the standard of living for your family,
Giving back to your community,
Working on passion projects,
Helping more people in need,
Paying for private care for aging parents,
Buying higher quality,
Longer lasting clothes or buying a holiday home to enjoy with extended family.
So what really drives your desire for more money?
Here's a poem for Robert Holden that set me free completely.
I'm going to read that to you.
It is because the world is so full of suffering that your happiness is a gift.
It is because the world is so full of poverty that your wealth is a gift.
It is because the world is so unfriendly that your smile is a gift.
It is because the world is so full of war that your peace of mind is a gift.
It is because the world is in such despair that your hope and optimism is a gift.
It is because the world is so afraid that your love is a gift.
When you pursue goals with integrity and honesty,
You can own your desire to make more money.
Can you see that now?
Third reason.
I am not worthy.
Pushing away dreams is easy when you believe you are not worthy.
In your head it can sound like I don't deserve this.
I am incapable of having this.
This is only reserved for a special few.
They are so lucky for having what they have.
Who am I to pretend I can have that?
I have kids and this is not compatible.
My beliefs go on and on and on.
I was there for a long time.
I know what it feels like but I also know how much better I started to feel when I believed that I control my life and that I get to do what I want.
It is such a beautiful feeling.
Now when I hear someone talking themselves down and playing the victim it frustrates me because I know there is another way.
You can get out of it too.
I know it's possible.
I wish I had the magic wand to light everybody up with this clairvoyance.
Your mind is tricking you into making your thoughts your reality.
But you can change your thinking,
Opening your mind up to a world of possibilities.
Realizing that you really can have your dreams or can be scary because big changes take time,
Effort and commitment.
But believe me when I say that the fear diminishes the moment you claim what you truly want in life.
So do yourself a favor and give yourself permission to dream big.
Will you please let me know?
Let me know what your big dream is.
I would love to hear.
And here's an exercise for you to dream big.
Give yourself permission to dream big.
Take at least 10 minutes for this and sit in a quiet and comfortable place.
Light candles,
Spray some essential oils,
Cover yourself in a blanket,
Anything that makes you feel good.
Grab a cuppa.
You can even put some gentle music on the background.
So you can pose it now or come back to it later.
At the six minutes mark of this recording.
So during this time,
I want you to remove all the limitations,
All the stories and allow yourself to fully claim what it is that you want.
You can keep the results for yourself for yourself.
Sorry.
Or share them in a comment.
Or with the world or in a post in Facebook or in a direct message with me.
Anything that helps you.
Put it out there.
It doesn't have to make sense or be rational.
Everything is possible.
No limits.
Now take a pen and paper and let your thoughts flow freely.
Once you have brought yourself back to peace and grounded.
Just go back to the five year old you and answers the following questions.
Where do I want to live with whom?
If a genie appeared and gave me one wish,
What would I ask for?
I remember you can pause after each questions to just give yourself permission and time to answer each of them.
What do I want to wake up feeling like every morning?
How much money would I like to make in a year?
If I could get any job,
Which one would that go for?
Where would my holiday destination be?
Who do I want to be?
What do personal relationships look like?
If you feel a little stuck,
Answer what you can and go back to it daily.
The more you do that exercise,
The more the dreams appear.
I hope this is helpful and do let me know.
Do give me some comments so I can help you more and give you support and anything that you truly need.
Until then,
Wishing you a great day.
Bye bye.
