Hello and welcome to another episode of the Wild Freewell podcast.
So this episode is being recorded in the month of February which is you know kind of this month that draws our attention to love and all things kind of romantic and red and pink and lovely and and so I wanted to have an episode that was kind of on theme for the month and I'm going to I feel like this kind of goes with saying if you've listened to any episodes of the podcast but I'm going to kind of come at it from a different point of view.
So one of the things that I want to talk about today is really taking care of yourself first,
Really showing up for yourself,
Really doing what needs to be done to make sure that you are okay,
Right?
Because the reality is is that at any given moment on any given day there are so many things that we could be doing you know that we want to do or that we feel like we need to do and this can vary from like simple daily tasks like you know taking care of our families,
Taking care of ourselves,
Taking care of the house,
Cooking,
Cleaning,
Exercising,
Just the the things that go into daily life and just existing as a human on planet earth and this can be like more complex as well like in in the area of making our dreams come true or taking actions towards our goals.
There's a lot of stories that we're telling ourselves about the things that we should do,
Have to do,
Need to do and all that jazz but I think that we often get tripped up because we tend to put you know the buggy before the horse and or the horse before the buggy?
Now I'm questioning myself if I've said that the right way.
In any case the idea being that we're putting things perhaps in the wrong order because at the end of the day everything literally everything becomes simpler when you pour into yourself first okay.
This isn't always easy of course though it's a simple idea right like okay pardon me I put myself first,
I take care of myself first,
I make sure my cup is full so that I can show up for other people like we know it you know the the oxygen mask on the plane right you have to put your oxygen mask on first before you can take care of other people because if you don't you're no use to anyone else.
We know these things right but the problem becomes that there are a million things that are often clawing for our attention and we allow those things to take priority or to take up more space or to have more importance or more weight right like the things that we have to do for others or the things that we have to get done tend to get more air time than the things that we need to do for ourselves.
We tend to automatically kind of default towards putting ourselves last but when you're able to give to yourself first when you make sure that you feel loved and taken care of right when you feel like you're seen heard appreciated adored and all of those other things everything else will flow so much easier to you right it just all becomes so much simpler because you're already feeling good,
You're vibrating higher,
You're more positive,
You're more optimistic right because even if we think about the small ways that we can take care of ourselves whether that's an afternoon alone with you know a book and some candles or a really good cup of coffee or taking some time to watch your favorite movie that brings up all these like really juicy feelings of nostalgia that one for me is a big one big big one there is nothing I love more than watching a movie from my past and like the way that that makes me feel or maybe it's cooking a healthy meal or it's exercising I have recently fallen in love with the rebounder let me tell you there is a certain kind of freedom and bouncing around like an idiot in my living room like it just it brings me a lot of joy and it's it's getting fit and getting healthy in a way that doesn't feel heavy for me I really enjoy it in general I mean obviously there are days when I do it and I don't love it because it's harder and I'm tired and whatever but even the act of showing up for myself even the act of doing like the 10-minute rebounder workout when I you know not when I don't want to but when it's not like the first thing on my mind when I show up for myself in that way and I really take care of myself it makes me feel so much better afterwards and so the idea here is really that when we show up for ourselves first when we take care of ourselves first all of a sudden we have more bandwidth we have more to give there's more energy to pull from there's more energy to share right and the giving of this energy and the showing up for other people becomes something joyous it becomes this really generous and kind of unconditional act of loving someone else because it doesn't feel like something that is taking away from us because we're already full we're already taken care of we got us right we've already shown up in a really powerful way and so everything that you give from that space is is your extra you know you have an abundance of of that energy of that love of that attention to give to the people around you because you've already poured into yourself you've done what you needed to do to show up for you and so now you're able to give so freely to other people and think about how that will impact the way that you interact with other people and also your relationships because if you are giving from that free and unapologetic and unconditional space there are no strings attached you are not expecting anything from anybody it's not this energy of well i'll take care of you and then you'll take care of me you're coming at this with such clean energy and that is a gift in and of itself the idea of giving freely with no strings attached really truly unconditional makes it so the other person also receives your energy as a blessing and as an act of service as an act of love without there being this kind of sort of let's say like i would kind of say like you know heavy energy behind it because there is people can feel what you bring to the table right like they can feel the intention with with with which you do things so if you're showing up to your relationships or you're showing up to the things that you feel like you quote need to do have to do should do blah blah blah with this energy of like well i'm gonna do this for you but then i'm gonna remember that i did this for you and you'd better give me something back and we might not even be doing this like consciously like this might be just kind of the way that we've gotten used to moving in the world right where we kind of it's like this tip for tat it's like we're not giving unconditionally because we there's always a sort of energetic string attached to it and if that's the case what ends up happening is you end up having a lot of strings connected to other people so now your energy is mixed with their energy and that can be a deeply unpleasant place to be because you need to ask yourself too if you actually want to be energetically attached to some of these people even if you love them even if they're wonderful in their own ways or whatever it's still interesting to ask yourself if you want to be energetically attached to to this amount of people or people that you feel i suppose even in the first place like you have to have this kind of like well if i do this for you you're gonna do this for me energy like why is that even there in the first place why are you in relationship with people that are making you feel this way or why are you allowing yourself to feel this way there's a lot more we could unpack here but i feel like that's also an episode for another day um but yeah it's like really about this understanding that you actually have a choice you have options and opportunities when you're full to show up as yourself fully because you've already taken the time to connect with yourself right so there's you have so much more to give and like i i don't love self-help as a productivity hack like i know that we we talk about self like a lot of people talk about rest and self-care and like using it as a way to to show up better in the world and to show up more productively in the world and whatever and i think that yes it's true i think that you do inherently show up more productively i don't think it's a great strategy to do it for that purpose you should be should be caught myself um you you know it would be better to do it i think from a space of like this is actually just how i want to live it's not like i'm doing again energetically i'm not doing a to get b i am doing a because a brings me joy and from that space i can go on to doing b right so we're not loving ourselves taking care of ourselves showing up for ourselves first so that we can be more productive but being more productive is a natural by part by product of us showing up for ourselves first right and like you you when you've taken the time to check in and make sure that you're doing all right and really making sure that you're energetically clear it's a lot healthier when you then go to pour your energy into somebody else because that energy in any case is an investment in them right it's an investment in them in their well-being and in your relationship with them so there's like a lot of ways that we're able to kind of clean and clear this the energetic space between us when we are already taking care of ourselves and showing up from this like really sovereign really like self-responsible and fully kind of actualized place we're never going to be fully actualized that's the work of a lifetime that's what being on this path is that's what the journey is but the idea being that you are full of yourself on yourself taking care of yourself and so you're able to show up fully for other people and you're not expecting anything in return because you don't need it you don't have to have that expectation because you don't need the energy input from someone else you don't need other people to show up for you and then when they do it becomes the icing on the cake like when you're able to really clear the energetic ties and really clear that energetic space and you're taking care of yourself and you're showing up and taking care of other people unconditionally without strings attached you know it's very clear and then they show up for you in return because now you've given them a little bit of something now they're reflecting that back to you all of a sudden that becomes just a huge bonus and we've created this kind of cycle like a positive cycle and momentum within the relationship as well where like each person has permission to show up for themselves and then to show up for each other from that really full whole space and like everything becomes so much easier cleaner clearer which i've already said but it really is the fertile soil where even more beautiful things can blossom in my opinion at least um so yeah this is just a friendly reminder i guess to really show up for yourself to really love yourself to take care of yourself first in whatever way that looks like for you whatever it is you most need and like really check in with yourself again going back to those like infamous questions we talk about all the time what do i want and what do i need it sounds so simple because it is we want to complicate it we want to make things harder it does not have to be right so asking yourself like what do i need in this moment like what do i feel like doing what would light me up what would make me feel really really good and like listen to the answer the answer is your intuition 90 percent of the time right if you can take a second take a deep breath or three would be even better right three deep breaths and then ask yourself what do i need what do i want and really listen to and honor the answer and give yourself that thing you've already taken a massive step towards filling your cup now we're good to go now we've already got more to bring to the world in a really clean and really loving way yes yes um i hope this episode served you um i hope you're doing well i hope you're happy i hope your your life is filled with all kinds of love all different kinds of love um and if you liked this episode please feel free to share it to subscribe to leave a star leave a rating and all those good things um and if you have any suggestions for topics for the podcast i'd love to hear from you you can reach out to me and otherwise i just hope that you have the best time and i will see you on the next episode of the podcast ciao
