Find a seat,
Any seat.
It does not matter where you sit,
It matters how you arrive.
Gently close your eyes.
Take one breath.
Inhale slowly,
All the way from your belly,
Your ribs,
The chest.
Hold at the top,
And gently release.
Long,
Slow,
And unforced.
Again,
Take a deep breath in.
Feel the air touch the back of your throat.
Cool,
Alive.
Pause at the top,
And exhale.
Let the jaw soften.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your face drop and your belly relax.
Simply arrive here.
Forget the strategy.
Forget the list.
Forget the timeline.
Right now,
Feel the weight of your body in the chair.
Notice the heaviness on your shoulders.
We carry a weight that is not physical.
It is the weight of who we think we are.
Your title,
Your reputation,
Your history of wins and losses.
In your brain,
There is a network.
Neuroscientists call it the default mode network.
It is the part of your brain that activates when you are not focused on any external task,
When you're daydreaming,
Ruminating,
Or thinking about yourself.
This network is the seat of the narrative self,
The storyteller.
It is the voice that says,
I am the kind of person who.
.
.
I am successful.
I'm a failure.
I'm a good partner.
I've been wronged.
I'm untouchable.
Feel the texture of this invisible cloak of identity that we all wear.
Is it velvet?
Is it gold?
Does it feel safe?
Or does it just feel heavy?
There is an ancient story about a heavy cloak.
If you don't know this story,
I suggest you read it.
I suggest spending a few minutes doing a google search on Holika.
Holika was a demoness.
She enters a roaring fire with her nephew,
Prahlad,
On her lap.
She is calm.
She is smiling.
Why?
Because she has a boon,
A gift from the gods,
A magic golden cloak that makes her immune to fire.
She believes the cloak was a part of her.
She believed the condition did not apply to her.
She believed she was special and that she was immune.
This is the ego's greatest trick,
The illusion of immunity.
We think our past success protects us from future pain.
We think our brand makes us fireproof.
Holika's arrogance blinded her to the fine print of virtue and morality,
And when the fire rose,
The cloak did not protect her.
It flew off.
It left her naked to the flames.
Just like that.
Now,
I want you to bring to your mind a title or identity that you believe defines you.
It could be professional,
Such as I am a CEO,
I am a coach,
I am a consultant,
I am an elite athlete.
It could be personal.
I am a mother,
I am a provider,
I am a survivor.
Or it could be subtle.
I am the smartest person in the room.
I am the one who holds it all together.
Whatever story arises,
Let it rise.
Do not judge it.
Just notice it.
Really think into this identity.
Think of the whole story that you believe defines you.
The hurdles that you overcame.
The heartbreaks.
The tough times.
Let it all be there.
Now,
Bring your attention back to your own shoulders.
That heavy cloak of identity you're wearing.
That heavy cloak of identity you're wearing,
It is just as flammable as Holika's.
The market shifts.
The relationship ends.
The body ages.
The fire of life respects no titles.
If you cling to the cloak when the fire comes,
You will burn with it.
But there is another way.
The way of the nephew,
Prahlad.
Prahlad did not fight the fire.
He simply knew he was not the cloak.
He knew that the thing that burns is the story,
Not the witness.
Let us light the fire.
Visualize a small warm flame at the base of your spine.
This is not a destructive fire.
It is the fire of truth.
With every inhale,
Feed this flame.
Watch it grow brighter,
Taller,
Warmer.
Let it rise up your spine,
Into your chest,
Licking at your shoulders.
Now,
Make a choice.
Do not wait for life to burn your cloak.
Burn it yourself.
Visualize the fire catching the edges of your heavy identity.
Watch the CEO catch fire.
Watch the perfect parent identity turn to smoke.
Watch the smartest person in the room crumble into ash.
Watch the perfect athlete catching fire,
Turning into smoke,
And crumbling into ash.
Don't flinch.
Feel the heat.
Let it burn every credential,
Every compliment,
Every defense you have built.
Watch as the fabric curls,
Blackens,
And falls away.
Watch the smoke rise,
Gray,
Thin,
Dissolving into the night sky.
This smoke is your old story.
I am not enough.
I'm too much.
I am untouchable.
I'm fragile.
All of it,
Rising,
Dispersing,
Becoming air.
Underneath the cloak,
You are not naked.
You are raw,
Not vulnerable,
Real.
Place your right hand on your chest.
Feel the heartbeat.
Steady,
Unconcerned with titles,
Unconcerned with the materialistic way of life.
This is the operator.
This is the one who was here before the story began.
This is the one who will remain after the last story ends.
As the smoke clears,
Notice what remains.
Your shoulders alight.
The heavy armor is gone.
You are naked of stories,
But you are still here.
The awareness that watched the burning is untouched.
That is the Brillhardt state.
This is the operator behind the ego.
You are now lighter,
Faster,
And more dangerous because you have nothing left to protect.
You are no longer wasting energy holding up the mask.
You are simply here,
Ready to play,
Ready to flow.
Sit here in the silence after the fire.
The ash is still warm.
The air smells of smoke and openness.
There is nothing to prove,
Nothing to defend,
Nothing to become.
You are already whole,
Already complete,
Just as you are right now.
Rest in the knowing of this feeling.
Rumi said,
The wound is the place where the light enters you.
But tonight,
We learn something else.
The cloak is the place where the wound hides,
And the fire is not the enemy of the skin.
The fire is the friend of light.
Or,
In the older tongue of the Bhagavad-Gita,
The self is never born,
Nor does it ever die.
It is not slain when the body is slain.
Weapons do not cut it.
Fire does not burn it.
It is eternal,
All-pervading,
Immovable,
Ancient.
Slowly and gently,
Bring your awareness back to the room.
Take a deep breath into this new lightness.
Feel the cool air in your lungs.
Feel your feet on the floor,
Your hands on your thighs.
The weight of your body in space.
But before you move,
Set this intention.
Speak it silently,
Or aloud.
I burn the script.
I burn the stories.
I am not who I was yesterday.
This is not a promise.
It is a reminder.
The cloak will try to reform.
The default mode network will try to weave in a new narrative.
That is its job.
You do not need to fight it.
As you open your eyes,
Do not pick the heavy cloak back up.
Carry that knowing into your day,
Into your meeting,
Into your conversation,
Into your silence.
The fire has already burned.
You are still here.