Hello and welcome to the podcast Love Yourself and Live Your Life.
My name is Jolanda Kolleg and I'd like to thank you for joining me to this week's episode.
And today I would like to speak a little bit more about why I think it is important to choose what is really right and not always based on what is easy.
Because I have really,
Especially lately,
Observed that most people don't choose what is right,
What is the right decision in the circumstances,
Especially now during COVID.
They choose what is the easiest for them and even if it means risking other people's lives,
Risking their own life,
But they choose the easier option.
And so I'd like to share with you my thoughts and I would love to hear from you,
I would love to hear your own thoughts,
Your own opinion and you can of course get in touch with me.
So I hope you enjoy this week's episode.
This week's podcast I would like to read a story to you.
Late in the evening I was walking in the park.
Suddenly I heard a scream coming from behind the bushes.
I stopped to listen and understood that the woman was attacked.
I heard sounds of fighting and muttering.
For several moments I was hesitating.
Should I get involved?
I panicked.
I was frightened for my own safety.
Better it is to call the police.
Then I realized that this woman's voice became weaker so I knew I had to act quickly.
Can I run away from this?
Finally I decided that I have to help this unknown woman even if I am risking my own life.
I felt some strange transformation inside,
The moral and physical strength.
So I ran behind the bushes.
I pulled the attacker off the girl.
We fell to the ground and grappled for several minutes.
Then the attacker jumped up and ran away.
Breathing hard I slowly came up to the girl who was cowering behind the tree.
It was dark so I could not see her face.
I felt that she was very frightened so I talked to her from a distance.
You are safe now.
It's okay.
The man had run away.
After a few moments I heard her words with a great amazement in her voice.
That is that you?
And then I realized that the girl was my youngest daughter.
The first time I read this story I thought how often are we in a situation where we don't want to react,
Where we are frightened and we just want to choose the easiest way,
We just want to get away from the situation,
But we know what the right thing is in that situation to help that girl.
Obviously this was an extreme but we are facing this kind of situations every single day.
And I have lately observed this happening on a daily basis,
Especially now with the Covid.
I see how many people are just thinking in themselves,
Thinking what's the best for them,
What's the easiest for them,
Maybe not even the best,
What is the easiest for them.
And I give you an example.
We are currently in lockdown but schools are opened only for children with key workers and only for parents who cannot look after their children.
There are so many children have been sent to school even though the parents could be looking after the children.
They are working from home but it's not that easy having to work and to look after the children,
To homeschool them.
And I know myself because we are exactly in the same situation.
We are key workers,
We are both working from home and we need to homeschool our daughter.
And it's not easy.
So I understand and I also had regularly the thoughts,
It will be so much easier just sending my daughter to school.
We could focus on work,
We could focus on the house,
We could have some more time to breathe during the day.
But now the days are completely filled up with her around,
With work,
With all the pressure.
But we have chosen for the right reasons to keep her at home.
COVID is a virus that is dangerous and I wouldn't like my daughter to take a risk and my daughter to bring the virus back home.
And I wouldn't as well us catching the virus and her giving it to any of her friends and passing it on to teachers.
This is taking responsibility,
Taking responsibility for your child but also taking the responsibility and safety for other people around us,
Not choosing the easiest way.
I find this really shocking to see how many people just expect others to sort out their lives,
To sort out their,
You know,
To make it as easy for them as possible.
They are just focused on getting and receiving but people are not willing to give anything in return.
It's only about them.
It's not about what is right.
I see the society living a life constantly thinking it's all about me,
Me,
Me,
It's all only me.
There is no more we.
There is no more a society where we all go the path together and we do the things that are right together.
Makes me so sad to see this.
I don't think that life is meant to be always easy.
I even think that it's meant to be hard,
It's meant to be difficult because only then we can learn a lot,
Only then we can grow.
We learn more through our challenging times than through the easy situations.
So I think we really have to stick more together.
This has to change.
It has really to change.
We need to create a less me society and become more a we society because we need each other.
We cannot live without each other.
We need others.
We need the help and support from others but at the same time we also need to give back.
And I think many people think happiness comes from receiving,
From consuming,
From getting.
But the truth is true happiness comes when we give.
True happiness comes when we share.
True happiness comes when we contribute and when we support others.
Fact is that we live in a consumer society and we want things easy and we are being taught from the beginning on by our society that consuming makes us happy.
Instead of reusing the things that we have,
We simply throw them away and then we buy something new again and we think that this is what makes us happy.
This is what the advertisers are selling to us.
But this is not true.
So that needs a big change to happen.
We need to change our mindset.
We need to change our mindset from what can I get,
What can I receive to what can I give,
What can I share,
What is my gift for others,
What is my gift for the world,
How can I support others.
So we need to change our mindset from scarcity to abundance.
And I can tell you from my own experience it really fulfills me to give,
To share,
To help others,
To share my knowledge in this podcast with others,
To give away things to others,
To give the free meditations and to share,
To give,
Seeing other people happy,
Seeing other people benefiting from my support.
It completely makes me happy.
It fulfills me and it makes me feel abundant.
So it's not true.
The more we have,
The happier we will be.
The truth is we need to follow our hearts.
We need to follow our intuition.
Is this right what I'm doing now?
Does it feel good to me or am I just choosing the easiest way and I know deep in my heart this is not the right thing to do.
And there we need to find out is this in line with my values.
And then you would have to ask yourself what are your values?
What is really important to you?
Where do you want to go?
What do you want to achieve?
Is it really what is the right thing to do?
And I find this so sad to see people wasting their life,
Wasting their time by always complaining about their life,
Things that are happening to them instead of taking responsibility for their life,
Instead of getting up and doing something valuable,
Doing something that they want to do,
Doing something for others.
They don't realize that their life is a gift.
They don't realize that the time they have been given here on earth is a huge gift and they don't use the time and they don't do anything useful.
They don't do anything for others.
They are in the mentality of being in scarcity and not seeing all the miracles,
All the gifts,
All the abundance they already have in their lives.
So I think really the first thing is that we need to pay attention to our thoughts.
What is going on in our mind?
What is the inner chatter?
What is the conversation that we have in our mind?
What are we thinking all the time?
And what are the words we use the whole day?
Because if we are thinking,
Well,
I cannot do it myself.
I need help.
Life is unfair.
Other people have to help me.
Life is difficult.
You know,
All this kind of inner conversation,
Inner thoughts.
This is what you think.
This is your reality.
So it's so important to observe the thoughts and realize that with our thoughts,
We create our reality.
Each thought and every single word have got an effect on our life,
On that what we create.
And fact is that most people think they are the victims.
They are the poor ones and terrible things are happening to them and others need to help them.
Others need to support them and sort out their problems.
So like,
For example,
Parents think the kids' education is a job from the teachers.
The teachers are responsible for it.
Or if you have got a spot in your face,
You would just cover it up with some makeup and it disappears.
It's no more visible.
Or you have got a pain somewhere.
You just get the pain killer and the pain disappears.
Well,
Maybe it's because you didn't sleep enough.
Maybe it's because you are not eating healthy enough.
Maybe it's because you have too much stress.
Our bodies are always given a science if there is something wrong.
So we need to take the responsibility and look a little bit closer and think what is the right thing to do,
Not what is the easiest thing to do.
But instead of really taking the responsibility,
People just choose the easy way.
They look away and they choose the easy way.
What is the food that I am taking?
Am I exercising enough?
Am I fit?
Am I mentally healthy?
Taking the responsibility,
Looking a bit closer rather than straight away,
Getting some medicine prescribed and then carrying on living the lifestyles because our bodies are showing us what is going on.
If there is something wrong,
It's a sign to look a little bit closer.
And the other thing is start giving,
Start helping,
Start supporting,
Start opening your heart,
Start loving people.
And if I say start giving,
Start helping,
It doesn't have to be giving loads of huge things.
Give someone a smile,
Give someone some time,
Give someone some help if you see someone carrying heavy bags,
Offer your support.
If you see someone struggling with something,
Someone dropped a bag of papers,
Offer to help.
Be there for others,
Listen to others.
You will see it will all come back to you.
And it starts with us.
It has been even proven that when we start giving,
When we start loving,
When we start giving someone a smile,
It's contagious.
This person will go and offer the next person their help,
Will support,
Will give a smile,
Will spread love.
And this is how it will carry on.
But you may experience yourself as well.
If you go to the supermarket and the cashier,
The till is being grumpy and rude,
It automatically affects your energy.
It automatically affects your thoughts and you start behaving exactly the same as the cashier.
So you go to the next person and you may react as well with anger,
With frustration.
So we always give this what we feel inside.
So the more love we give,
The more will come back to us and it will come back to you.
It will come back to you sooner or later.
The more you give,
The more you spread love,
The more will come back to you.
And happiness is really,
We feel happiness when we give,
When we contribute,
When we support,
When we help,
When we are there for others.
This is when we truly feel happy.
And this is what life is about.
At the end,
We are living here for a period of time.
We cannot take our fancy clothes.
We cannot take our car or our money or our house when we get buried.
But what we take is the memories.
What we take is the love.
What we take is the fulfilment,
The abundance in our heart,
In our soul.
And that's what stays with us.
And that's what stays with others as well.
No one will remember you,
How much money you have.
People will not care.
People will remember you,
What you did for them,
How kind you have been,
How much love you have given them,
How much you helped and supported them.
And that's at the end,
All that counts.
So look into your heart,
Listen to your heart and see what is right.
What is the right thing to do in any situation and what is the easy thing to do.
And then choose wise.
Listen to your heart.
You will feel instantly if it doesn't feel right.
Your heart will tell you what is the right thing to do.
And don't expect others to sort out your problems.
Take the responsibility to yourself.
Remember,
Easy doesn't always mean that it's right.
If it's difficult and once you experience it,
You will afterwards feel proud that you achieved it all by yourself.
When something is difficult,
You will learn so much more.
You will grow so much more from this situation.
So difficult is a good thing to experience.
So I hope you have enjoyed this week's episode.
I just wanted to share it with you because I had this for a few days now carrying in my heart and I thought I need to share my thoughts with you.
And I would be so grateful if you could share your thoughts with me and maybe you have got a different experience and maybe you have got some comments to share with me and I would love to hear your opinion to this podcast episode.
Maybe you have got a completely different opinion but I would really love to hear from you.
And before I go,
I'd like to advise you that from the 1st of February,
So next Monday,
The Sunrise Club is going to start again where we meditate together live every single morning.
We start the day in a very positive and empowering way.
And yes,
I'd like to thank you once again for listening to this podcast.
Have a wonderful day.
Take care.
Loads of love.
You're your
