Forgiveness Is A Self-Love Act (Includes Meditation)

Good morning,

Good morning,

Good morning to you.

I hope you're fine.

What is it?

It's Wednesday,

Just the middle of the week.

I hope you slept well.

I hope you are rested and I hope you are ready for this beautiful new day to start giving some time for yourself and yeah,

Beginning in a really nice and positive energy.

Send me a quick message how you are feeling,

How you are,

How your day has begun and in what kind of energy you are today.

And then we start with our meditation.

I have decided today to do a forgiveness meditation.

It's a type of forgiveness self-love meditation.

Forgiveness is really,

Really a self-love act.

It really is because even if we don't realize and it may seem that we're doing it for the other person or we agree with whatever someone did to us and the way someone hurt us,

We like,

Yes,

Agree with it and say it was okay by forgiving.

But in fact,

The other person doesn't even maybe know that you were hurt or you're angry or you're still struggling with whatever the person did or may even not realize that he or she did something to you.

And we are holding on to that pain because we just think,

I can't forgive the person.

It was so bad,

So terrible what the person did to me.

It cannot be forgiven.

This cannot be forgiven.

But by doing this,

We hold on to our self and think,

Ah,

It shouldn't have happened.

And we may feel certain emotions like really sadness,

Pain,

Anger,

Hatred,

All of this in ourselves.

It's not that the other person is feeling it.

We are feeling it.

So by forgiving the other person,

We free ourself from it.

And forgiveness is a very,

Very difficult act,

I will even call it.

It's very difficult.

But when we forgive,

It's like dropping off the heavy bag that is on our shoulders,

Dropping it off and then feeling so much lighter.

And then we can walk on our journey with lightness,

No more heaviness,

Nothing that drains us down.

And I know it's difficult when people say or do something to us and especially,

I think,

Especially strangers,

But you know,

Maybe sometimes parents as well or colleagues or partners,

Partners,

I think,

You know,

Forgiving children,

Our own children probably happens instantly.

But it's what we need to really think I'm doing it for myself,

I'm not doing it for the other person.

So if you have got any feelings towards someone,

Maybe it's even someone from your past,

Someone you haven't seen,

You're not even in contact with anymore,

Because that person hurt you.

Then there come moments where you really think and you think,

Oh,

This person did this to me and then you feel this emotions.

This could be someone,

If you want,

You could pick the person,

This person today.

And forgive this person and make the decision for yourself,

For yourself,

Because this is what you basically do just for yourself.

And then you realize how much better you feel.

Even if it doesn't happen straight away,

Sometimes it needs a while to forgive someone.

But I think by already doing it once,

It's already like leaving a heavy bag behind.

And I know what I'm speaking about.

I'm not even someone that is holding onto,

Blame,

Blaming someone,

You know,

Holding onto this,

Not wanting to forgive,

But there was really this one particular person in my life and that was my father.

That I,

He did so much harm,

Especially to my mom.

And therefore I could not be in contact with him.

I couldn't,

I didn't want to,

I closed my heart.

It was really,

For many years I kept saying,

I don't care about him.

I don't care.

You know,

I,

I leave him behind.

I don't care about him.

But the truth was that I didn't,

It wasn't true.

I really still loved him.

But I did,

I tried to protect my heart behind a very tall,

Thick wall so that I didn't have any more contact in order not to be hurt by him and not to get this feelings,

Emotions back.

Um,

Because every time I would see him,

He would trigger me and then there would be an argument and I would be there at the end,

A little child from the past that would be crying helplessness.

I was experiencing a lot with him.

But yes,

Once I have forgiven him and I spoke up to myself,

So there were many things going on.

I can now think of him and look at him in a really compassionate way and not as the terrible person he was.

And even though he wasn't always as he should have been,

But I see,

I understand the reasons now.

I understand why he wasn't like this.

I look at him as a person,

Or let's say like this,

The way it was easy for me to forgive him is to think he went through terrible,

Terrible times himself.

He struggled a lot as a child and all the things he experienced caused his behavior.

So I started feeling so compassionate for him,

Even felt so sorry for him for all the things he experienced.

And then I thought what he did to me or to my mom,

This is the result what he was doing.

That's the way he was hurting us,

The way he was behaving.

But I did understand,

So I had compassion towards him.

It didn't justify that it was right what he did,

Because it wasn't,

He was not the father,

He was not the husband that we deserved,

But he did the best he could.

And he really,

Really did.

He did,

We always do.

And for me to say this without crying now,

It's really,

It's a miracle,

But that was,

Or that is the result from forgiveness.

So it feels so good,

It feels so good not to speak about my father and negative emotions coming up and no more pain and no tears,

You know,

It's so nice.

And this is really,

Really,

Really,

Really a big act of self-love in my opinion.

Because if we forgive,

We really heal ourself,

We heal so many wounds and just can go with a much lighter body through life.

Okay,

Now I've been talking so much.

So we will start now.

Okay,

So for this meditation,

Okay,

For the meditation,

Take a comfortable seat of your choice or you can lie if you want.

Choose a position that is right to you.

And when you're ready,

You can close your eyes gently and take three deep breaths in.

Breathe in through your nose,

Hold the breath for a moment and breathe out slowly.

And breathe in again through your nose,

Hold the breath and breathe out slowly and gently and relax while you're breathing out.

And then once more,

Deep breath in through your nose,

Into the belly,

Hold the breath and then let go of it.

And then bring the attention to your body.

How do you feel this morning?

What kind of thoughts are you experiencing?

What kind of emotions do you feel?

Maybe you can feel the surface you're sitting or lying on.

You feel any tension in your body,

Any pain.

Maybe you're feeling cold or even hot.

Really whatever is right now,

It's okay.

It's just this one moment.

And then bring the attention to your heart,

Your heart that beats over a hundred thousand times for you every single day.

Connect with your heart,

Connect with the energy of your heart.

And you can do that by bringing the focus to your heart.

And if it helps,

You can place your hands on your heart and feel the heartbeat,

Feel the rhythm of your heartbeat.

And then imagine that your heart opens up more and more with every breath you take.

So every inhale you take,

Imagine you're breathing into your heart.

Your heart is opening more and more and beats louder for you.

And the love in the heart grows more and more with every breath.

You feel more compassion,

More peace,

More love.

You can imagine it through a really little tiny light in your heart that keeps growing with every breath you take.

And the light in your heart keeps growing more and more inside your body.

And then it starts shining even on the outside.

Like a little lamp or a little torch or a little star.

And now your heart filled with love and compassion and peace.

Allow yourself to feel these emotions.

Make them a bit stronger and stronger.

And now think of a situation in the past,

Something that may have happened.

Maybe someone said something,

Did something to you or treated you in a way you didn't deserve.

Something that you're still struggling with sometimes or every day.

Maybe it was just one word that hurt your feelings.

Maybe it was something that someone did over and over again to you.

And you still today can't understand the reasons.

You still carry the pain with you.

Think of the situation for a moment or go back into the situation and allow yourself to experience it once more.

And then observe your body,

Observe your emotions and your thoughts.

What is going on right now?

What kind of feelings are arising?

What kind of pain?

Is there sadness?

Is there anger?

Is there hatred?

Hopelessness?

Blame?

What is it for you and located in your body?

Can you feel what it does to you?

Can you feel how it shifted from the feeling of love,

Peace and compassion into the current feeling?

This is exactly what you have created right now.

Realize this situation that happened in the past.

May have happened a few years ago or maybe it even happened as a child.

It is fact that it didn't happen right now but you are still feeling it.

You are still experiencing it over and over again.

This pain,

This sadness,

This anger.

Now imagine how you are getting up and walking towards the mirror and see yourself standing in front of the mirror.

Look at yourself,

Look into your eyes and say to yourself,

I deserve to be happy.

It is my birth right to be happy and I want my future to be bright.

I want to walk through my life with lightness and peace and joy in my heart.

And I can only achieve all of this by forgiving.

And it doesn't mean that I agree with the person's action.

I don't agree whatever the person did to me because it shouldn't have happened but it did so I accept it now and I make the decision right now to forgive,

To forgive the person and free myself from this negative emotion and get my power back,

Get my full energy back,

Get my happiness back.

I make the conscious decision right now because I deserve happiness.

And feel already now what happens in your body,

What kind of feelings are arising.

Maybe you feel courageous now,

Maybe you feel already that a part of the heavy bag has been dropped and you feel lighter by only making this decision.

Now turn around,

Away from the mirror and see how the person that harmed you,

That hurt you,

Peers in front of you.

And again you may have certain emotions arising.

There might be fear,

Sadness,

Anger,

Hatred,

Helplessness,

Whatever it might be for you just accept it.

Don't judge yourself,

Allow these feelings to come,

Experience them.

Maybe you want to cry,

You can cry,

Allow yourself to feel and experience all of this now.

And look at the person's eyes,

Deep into their eyes and say to the person,

Today is the day that I decided to forgive you and I'm forgiving you because I'm doing it for myself.

What you did was wrong.

I didn't deserve to be treated like that and I don't agree with what you did to me.

But because I love myself and because I want to be happy,

I have decided to forgive you and let go of all the pain and the suffering I experienced over and over again.

And therefore I'm freeing myself,

I'm getting my power back,

My energy back,

My peace back.

And I wish you all the happiness possible as well.

Then look at the person's eyes,

Facial expression and maybe you can see if something changes in their face,

The way they look at you.

Maybe you see a relief,

Maybe you see a smile,

Maybe you feel gratitude and love.

And the person says to you,

Thank you,

Thank you so much for forgiving me.

I really appreciate it.

I'm very grateful.

Thank you.

And you can let this person go now or you can hug the person if you want,

Do what feels right to you and thank the person for coming and meeting you.

Turn around back to the mirror,

Look at yourself.

How do you feel now?

Is there more lightness in your body?

Can you feel more peace in your heart?

Can you feel gaining more energy and power back?

And then as you look at your face,

Tell yourself now,

Thank you,

Thank you for taking this step.

Thank you for forgiving this person.

Thank you for freeing myself from this negative emotions.

Thank you for gaining the love back.

Thank you for creating the peace in my heart.

Thank you for a brighter and more joyful future.

Thank yourself for taking this step.

And as you look in the mirror,

Look in your eyes and tell yourself,

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

Give yourself a smile.

And then slowly come back again into your body,

Into this present moment.

Connect with your body now.

Can slowly move your fingers,

Your toes.

You can move your head,

Your neck,

Your shoulders,

Your hands and slowly return back into this present moment.

Recognize what you just did.

Connect with your heart once more.

Feel the love in your heart,

The peace that you created.

And then place your hands in front of your heart and make an intention for today.

What do you want to feel like?

What do you want to experience today?

How do you want to feel?

How do you want to experience your day?

What kind of energy do you want to go through the day?

Then when you finish setting the intention,

You can take one more deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth and open your eyes when you're ready.

It's our ego that keeps saying no,

No,

No,

Don't forgive,

But our heart wants to forgive.

Our heart doesn't want to feel the all of this again.

It's just our ego that keeps telling us all these things.

The problem is that the ego is always really loud and therefore we listen more to our ego,

To our mind than to our heart because the voice of the heart is always so soft and gentle and so difficult to hear the voice.

But by doing this and making the decision by knowing already that you do it for yourself,

You're helping yourself and therefore it changes so,

So much.

Forgiveness is really important.

I think it's even like the most,

If people want to practice self-love and I only realized that afterwards,

But it's like the first step before we go to self-love or maybe like at the same time if we can to forgive and ideally even every single day except let go,

Forgive every single evening when lying in bed,

Just simply maybe saying some sentences,

I forgive,

Forgive myself as well.

Self-forgiveness is so beautiful,

Is so difficult,

Is so,

So,

So difficult and I'm still forgiving myself for being so hard with me,

So for criticizing myself or pushing myself or not being as gentle as I would have liked to be,

Does enable you to move on with our life and not living in our past because that's what happens if we don't forgive,

We are constantly in the past.

We need to think,

Okay,

What is it that it's teaching me right now?

What is it that I can change?

So what can I do with this situation,

With these pieces that I have in front of me?

What can I do?

And then when we then see this is why it happened,

This is what I learned from it,

This is why I grew,

Then we create from the problem that we have seen here the gift because then it becomes the gift for us.

But that happens in our mind,

We need to shift it and see the beauty,

See the gift instead of seeing,

Focusing on the negatives,

All that it's causing us.

So let us do,

I have forgotten during the meditation to do the affirmations,

So we'll do a few affirmations and then from there we'll go to a couple of minutes of gratitude and then we come to the end,

Okay?

So if you want to close your eyes once more and I take a deep breath in and out,

Center yourself,

Bring the attention to your heart,

Connect with your heart once more.

Feel the love,

The compassion,

The peace in your heart.

And when I read this affirmation to you,

Allow yourself to feel them with your heart,

Let each and every single word flow into your heart,

Let this love grow and arise and see these words as your truth,

As who you are,

As what you feel as your truth.

I love and honor myself just the way I am.

I love to look after myself and my valuable body.

I listen to the voice of my heart.

I fully and completely trust myself and I believe in my abilities.

I am the powerful creator of my life.

I am the powerful creator of my life.

And from here take the next couple of minutes to be grateful for everything that was,

Everything that is and everything that will be.

Thank you.

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.

Let's come back slowly.

And,

Ahh,

Thank you very much for joining me this morning.

Thank you,

Thank you,

Thank you.

I hope you enjoyed this meditation and I hope it has changed something in your heart,

Created more space,

More lightness,

More power,

More energy.

And these are the things,

This is as well the sentence that I just said,

I am the powerful creator of my life.

And you are,

Because that's exactly what you're doing now,

You forgive and you get your power back.

So you create a different feeling,

You create different thoughts,

You create a different life for you.

That's why we are so powerful.

We can really create so,

So much with our thoughts,

With our emotions,

With our actions.

Thank you so much everyone.

I'd like to wish you a wonderful day with loads of positive emotions today.

With a peaceful mind,

With a loving heart,

Compassionate heart,

Especially with yourself and with others as well.

So I'll see you tomorrow morning if you want to join again.

Thank you for today.

Lots of love.

Bye bye.