The Voice That Shames You | Understanding Your Inner Critic

Shame often feels like something is wrong with you. But inside, it is often created by a dynamic between two parts: one that shames, and one that feels ashamed. In this video, Lilian introduces the part of you that delivers shame—the inner critic, or “shamer.” Using an Internal Family Systems approach, she explains that not all shaming voices are the same. Some develop to protect you, while others carry more harmful patterns. Understanding which type of shaming voice is present is the first step toward healing. When you begin to recognize this part and relate to it differently, the cycle of shame can start to loosen. This talk is the first step in working with shame in a more informed and compassionate way.