I want to talk about learned helplessness.
Ama describes how elephants are trained.
So you get a baby elephant and you tie it to a tree with a heavy rope,
And it learns that it cannot move.
It's lost its freedom.
And as an adult,
The same elephant will remain next to a tree,
Even if the trainer pretends to tie it to the tree.
So really there's no rope at all,
But the elephant will remain there.
This is what happens to us.
So both men and women suffer from learned helplessness,
But the problem in this world,
I feel,
Is we need the rise of the feminine energy with the compassion and relatedness and high emotional IQ,
And her connection to the earth.
We really need this,
But the trouble is the feminine energy has experienced centuries of patriarchy,
Where women would give up even trying to express their true natures,
And they would just capitulate to the social order.
So in China,
They bound the daughter's feet,
And it would be a heartbreaking process for a loving mother to do this,
But the mums would feel that the child would starve to death if they didn't conform.
And nowadays,
Women are expected to go out into the world so much,
There's kind of a little bit of a corset around not feeling feelings,
Because it's too inconvenient and one can't be productive if one feels,
If one keeps in touch with one's emotional self.
So it's like women are running a learned helplessness on this emotional level.
So they might be very productive in the world,
But inside they feel hopeless and helpless,
And that they can't,
They don't have the space and it's not safe for them to get to know their hearts,
For them to be true to themselves as people,
To live in integrity and to be in touch with their emotions.
So it's a new kind of prison.
It's another version of the prison.
So what I found in my life was,
It's so lovely to come back and get in touch with yourself and feel your feelings and honour your intuitions,
And it can be a gradual process,
But if you start steering that way,
Then you will bring light to the world over time,
And your true feminine energy will start to manifest.
Now it can be challenging because when the first,
When she,
The deeper feminine energy shows herself,
She can come up covered in rage,
Perhaps.
So a thoughtful woman has to,
You know,
Observe this,
Try not to take it out on anybody and try not to take it out on herself,
But to just be with it and keep breathing and allow it to change,
And it will change into deep sorrow at being so disconnected from one's true nature,
And then you will start to bring in your divine nature.
You know,
In my experience,
The men are just almost desperate for this feminine energy because they can't access it themselves as easily as we can,
Because it's our consciousness.
In them,
It's in their unconscious.
So a man can feel great relief and will tend to fall in love with a woman who's in her true feminine energy.
It's just that sometimes when we're half-born,
The men around us might not understand us.
You know,
If maybe rage has come up,
And maybe our partner's shocked,
You know,
So you can even tell your partner that you're wishing to begin to get to know yourself,
And that you'll handle this as best you can,
But that it's good for him to understand that.
You may be feeling enhanced emotions.
You know,
Growth is a messy process,
And when there's great change in the world,
You know,
It's just really challenging as well,
But the bottom line is I don't think things are going to change in a good way until we women really start to wake up and realize that we're of infinite value,
And our feminine energy is so needed right now,
Conscious feminine energy.
And the good news is it's quite possible to grow very rapidly at this time,
Because there's such a need for this energy to be freed up,
That really the universe is giving all kinds of discounts and scholarships,
Doing everything it can to make it as easy as possible for this shift to occur.
And there's great light wanting to come in the world and within us,
And,
You know,
Compassion and forgiveness for yourself and others.
Okay,
I hope this all makes sense.
Bless your hearts.
